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Where Do You Stand? Masturbation While in a Relationship

I'm a huge supporter of masturbation, and just like sex, I don't consider it dirty or wrong. Not only is it great to be able to pleasure yourself, but when you know what you like, you can better communicate that to your partner.

When you're single, masturbating is a healthy way to release sexual tension (and can even relieve headaches and help you sleep), but what do you think about it when you're in a relationship? I mean it's not like you spend every waking minute together, so is it wrong to pleasure yourself when you're apart? Would you be upset if you found out your significant other was having that same kind of fun without you? Do you think your partner would be upset if he knew you were masturbating without him? Share your thoughts in the comment section below.


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Abnormal-girlie Abnormal-girlie 7 years
I masturbate in private and I masturbate my hubby all the time. That's fun for both of us. He refuses to touch himself as far as I know, as often as I do it for him I doubt there is much left for him to do even if he does it in secret.
ddp1234a ddp1234a 8 years
Basicly should you feel guilty or ashamed, almost like you have cheated on them in some way?
ddp1234a ddp1234a 8 years
Heres a question if you are in a loving relatinship and i mean a really loving one and you love your girlfriend/boyfriend to bits, but when masturbating occasionally think of someone else, but wouldent ever have sex with the person/people you thought of is it wrong? Even though you know you love your girlfriend/boyfriend and only want to have sex with them.
Goosebanana Goosebanana 8 years
Nothing wrong with masterbating while in a relationship. Nothing wrong with masterbating with your partner present, watching or assisting. My boyfriend is 3000 miles away, so yes, I masturbate almost every night that I'm not with him. But I stop for a while before I am going to see him to kind of build up the sexual tension. Now he - rarely masterbates, but I certainly don't mind when he does.
omlove omlove 9 years
Nothing wrong with it ..I think its healthy. We're not living together and it definitely helps one to sleep and eases tension on some days. Also it can be done by your partner. For us that works coz we're waiting till we get married :)
shawna11 shawna11 9 years
Theres NOTHING wrong with it! Hey, if guys can do it, why cant we!? And, in the words of Addison(private practice) youve gotta scratch the itch!
brandnewlova132 brandnewlova132 9 years
i don't see anything wrong with it, whether you're in a relationship or not =]
Korsgal Korsgal 9 years
Nothing wrong with at all, as long as you and your partner are having sex too
kayleigh83 kayleigh83 9 years
that would be taking jealousy to a whole new ridiculous level! seriously, being jealous of your partner's HAND??! if someone got upset about that i'd be really worried. and if a boyfriend of mine got upset about something like that, i wouldn't stick around long.
LadyAngel89 LadyAngel89 9 years
There's nothing wrong with that, as a matter of fact if you can be comfortable enough to do it in front of your partner... oh the possibilities!
chakra_healer chakra_healer 9 years
We both masturbate at least once a day, together or not. I consider it personal time, a way we make ourselves feel good -- but doing it while the other watches is fun, too. ;)
heineken67 heineken67 9 years
You're not alone, julieulie. I feel the same way.
Berlin Berlin 9 years
And if you think about it, a healthy male should be ejaculating at least 5 times a week (and that's to benefit from possibility of cancers!) and if you don't plan on having that much sex, then that's a damn good medical reason for it:) But i think it's perfectly natural and welcomed, sometimes i want it when i am in the mood, and he'll be at work, or sleeping or for any number of reasons our schedules won't line up, so we please ourselves. Everyone SHOULD do it, it's natural, healthy, and can actually help out your sex life b/c you get more in tuned with your body and open a world of opportunities.
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 9 years
I think it's healthy. My sexuality is MINE. I could enjoy it by myself, or share it with my husband. Likewise, I have the same view towards his sexuality.
j2e1n9 j2e1n9 9 years
Nope! We both do it and couldnt care less or take it personally about each other. Its not that serious! ;)
texchic07 texchic07 9 years
I think it's okay as long as it doesn't take presidence over sex with your significant other.
wakeupandora wakeupandora 9 years
i encourage it - for him and me!
Rock-Sugar Rock-Sugar 9 years
perfectly normal, in fact, my ex used to really get off watching me
Beaner Beaner 9 years
Totally healthy, especially since women can take so long to have an orgasm. Why should the guy feel pressured to "make it happen." SOmetimes sex is a great thing to share with someone else, but it doesn't always end in fireworks.
pink-elephant pink-elephant 9 years
yeah sure, it's perfectly fine!
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