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Where Do You Stand? The Notion of Forever

When a couple heads down the aisle, they promise forever to each other. But committing to one person for a lifetime can be extremely nerve-wracking, regardless of how much you love each other. Having cold feet on your wedding day is somewhat normal, but there are many people out there who fear commitment like the plague. So where do you stand on the notion of forever? Does it excite you or make you run for the hills?


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aerie-marie aerie-marie 8 years
i love the idea of forever... just to know that no matter what you go through there is someone you love and loves you and that you trust that is there for you to lean on when times get hard.they are your best friend.and who wouldnt want to spend forever with their best friend? and have a lifetime of special moments and memories.
Foofie Foofie 8 years
My step grandparents have been together for 60 something years now, and he STILL grabs her tush. I know another couple who were together 70years and they still loved each other deeply even when she died he passed away shortly after becuase he didn't want to be without her. I understand that not everything is sunshine and rainbows, there has to be thunderstorms too. You have to be willing to work through everything that comes your way as a unit, not divided. My fiance and I joke with each other that the only way out of this relationship is in a box.
PurpleFairy3 PurpleFairy3 8 years
The notion of forever is extremely romantic. To know that no matter what sickness you get and no matter what happens that someone will be there beside you until you die is very comforting and lovely. It's the commitment that will be hard, not the concept of forever.
brandi07 brandi07 8 years
I believe in forever, I wouldn't be engaged if I didn't believe that a marriage could last forever. I do know that it is going to take a lot of hard work though!
ilanac13 ilanac13 8 years
i'm a big believer of forever and everything that goes with it. i'm from a divorced family and i think that it's hard sometimes since i think that life would be very different with both parents. i think that you have to realize that things aren't always going to be perfect but that after time you can learn how to make it work.
princess_eab princess_eab 8 years
kboltze - I agree with everything you said.
just_kelly just_kelly 8 years
Families are forever. They take a lot of work, but they are forever and the rewards are boundless!
kboltze kboltze 8 years
I totally believe in the concept of forever. The problem with our wonderful 50% divorce rate is that it's built with the notion that divorce is always an option...not that your decision to wed is your final decision. I'm getting married because this is who I want to spend the rest of my life with...who I want to go through struggles and through riches with. I even come from a broken family and I still believe in marriage one-hundred-percent. He's it for me. My fiancee and I always talked about the future even when we "weren't supposed to" because it would be considered too early in our relationship to most people...but the future is what we have to look forward to. We want to be able to be those cute elderly people that walk hand-in-hand in the park...even if our walk is a bit slow. We're going into our marriage knowing that everything isn't going to be a almost have to look at is as a job. If you don't work at it, it's not going to work. I'm still me and he's still him...but we've also got an "us" to worry about. Compromise and honesty are key.
sparklestar sparklestar 8 years
I had never really seriously contemplated being married to somebody for the rest of my life until I got together with my boyfriend. I had thought about getting married to other guys but they would have only been until one of us got bored and I was OK with that really. Me and my boyfriend discussed marriage the other night and he feels seriously about it. I'd never really looked at it seriously because nobody else I had been with had. I'm OK with the idea of forever now.
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 8 years
With the right person, the idea of forever is wonderful. However, forever is not the same as unconditional. My hand in marriage is NOT unconditional. For example, if my husband broke his marriage vows to me (to be a loving, faithful husband), I would leave him. Likewise, if I broke my marriage vows to him, he should leave me. So yes, I love the idea of forever, given that marriage vows are honored.
iamangiepooh iamangiepooh 8 years
I love the concept of forever. What can I say... I love to love and be loved in return. :) I hope and pray that the one I marry will be for forever because that's a commitment I will make to one special person in my life--that includes all the good, bad, sad, etc. I don't think of it as a fairytale ending (although it IS nice to dream about that sometimes).
Rebecca14916991 Rebecca14916991 8 years
I believe forever is definitely possible; my parents have been married for 25 years, and my grandparents for 61, so it kinda runs in the family. :) The fact that it does run in the family means that I already know that if and when I get married, it's going to take a hell of a lot of work and compromise. I don't have any illusions about that. :) I just don't know when it is I will get to the point of being ready for it... especially whether it will be with the boyfriend I have now. Eh, I'm only 20. I've got time.
lilwildone1202 lilwildone1202 8 years
i believe in forever--if i didn't i wouldnt of gotten married but i know and my husband knows that it wont always be easy and we'll have to work on it but i love him and know that this is it for me
b1uebunn b1uebunn 8 years
I'm a commitment-holic. I met my husband when I was 18, started dating him 7 months later, and 6.5 years later, here we are. I've always been interested in the concept of "forever." I hate dating and I love stability. I have awesome parents who have been together for 40 years, and I love what they have. I went looking for it right away.
HeidiMD HeidiMD 8 years
I didn't want to get married until I met my fiance. I agree with everyone that marriage is hard work -- and I'm not even married yet! We have been together for four years, and you can't slack, especially not when you're married. Luckily I found someone I'm willing to work for! :-)
Deidre Deidre 8 years
Forever is something that requires a LOT of can't let hte ball drop. I think it's possible, but I also think a LOT of people forget isn't just about themselves.
faerymagick15 faerymagick15 8 years
I have always been pro marriage, even with my parents terrible one. I looked to my grandparents for inspiration and it still sits with me today. I think making a marriage work is just that....lots of hard work, patience, kindness, a shoulder and an ear. Its not a fairy tale past those first couple years.
graylen graylen 8 years
I believe in forever, but I don't believe in the easy fairy tale. In real life, I believe it takes work and sacrifice and compromise and a whole lot of patience... then you truly have love and friendship. I think also that it's hard to think forever when divorce is a 50% option in your mind. You already have a way out when times get tough.
stumbler02 stumbler02 8 years
I love what princess_eab said. When you are with the right person, forever seems too short. I can't imagine spending forever *without* my man. He's my rock.
plus_2_kid plus_2_kid 8 years
I'm married. I've never believed in forever. But that didn't stop me. Maybe day by day will turn into forever.
xxkrist24xx xxkrist24xx 8 years
3 years ago I met the man I'm going to marry. Before we dated I didn't even think I would date anyone seriously for years, but now I can't imagine life without him -- and I had to for 5 months when I was studying in Argentina. Meeting the right person really changed my perspective :)
cravinsugar cravinsugar 8 years
I say, marriage for me will be a fairy tale, just as the love and 6.5 year relationship have been so far! (4 years of which is long distance!) And if you say I am naive, I say great. My parents have an amazing marriage, and their forever is def a fairytale! :D
jessie jessie 8 years
right on melizzle!! its not easy and its not a fairy tale, marriage takes A LOT of work, time,effort and love to make it last forever
melizzle melizzle 8 years
Forever in unrealistic unless you work for it.
psterling psterling 8 years
Forever and ever and ever! I want to spend every day of my life until I'm a wrinkled old prune with my husband.
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