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Where Do You Stand? Optimism

Having a positive attitude is always a plus when it comes to leaving an impression, getting to know new people, and keeping your chin up during a rough patch. But sometimes, and I know some people may not agree with me, an optimistic outlook is not for the best. When the going gets tough, I think it’s important to be realistic, and I often find a friend or family member’s optimism irritating or just plain irrational. In my opinion, a little pessimism can come in handy — sometimes you have to plan for the worst! But where do you stand on this glass half-full or half-empty issue? Do you think optimism is harmful or helpful?


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popgoestheworld popgoestheworld 8 years
Wow AmyLyn that is a great quote and I couldn't agree more. I know that fundamentally, whatever happens in my life, I will find a way to make the best of it. And that is what I consider true optimism. A belief that it's going to be sunny for your wedding despite gathering storm clouds? That's not optimism... I don't know what that is. So yeah, I'm a realist and an optimist and like GlowingMoon and AmyLyn, I don't think they're exclusive either.
AmyLyn AmyLyn 8 years
"I think optimism and being realistic go hand in hand. They're not mutually exclusive." I agree with Glowmoon! I have a favorite quote "Optimisim is your fuel, the source of nuturance that can keep you going when others might fall into despair"
Le-Luxe Le-Luxe 8 years
i am definitely an optimist, but I also know that when something bad happens that it 'happens for a reason'. This helps me keep my reality in check.
lickety-split lickety-split 8 years
depends on the situation. being hopeful costs you nothing but you need to be prepared for real situations. my mom always had a hard time with my oldest daughter's autism. "they are going to find a cure! you won't need to worry about long term care after you are gone! miracles happen everyday!" yadda-yadda-yadda. to me that's like saying "people win the lotto every day!" and just as likely. hope for the best, prepare for the worst.
brutalcupcake brutalcupcake 8 years
Optimism is important :)
honeysugar28 honeysugar28 8 years
I have to kinda talk myself into being optimistic. My initial reaction is to worry about the worse but I always remind myself that things will work out and that I have to think positive and eventually those thoughts take over.
g1amourpuss g1amourpuss 8 years
I'm not optimistic about stupid sh!t, but I love to look at the brighter side of things and being/feeling happy. I'm not out to be optimistic for other people though, or for new people I meet. If they don't like the way I feel at the present moment or about something - get over it. I'm still going to do what it takes to feel happy and try to be positive for me. Not everyone sees eye to eye and I'm fine with that. If I'm not optimistic enough for someone, then having them in my life or as a friend is probably not meant to be. Usually I only feel pessimistic if I run into money problems or if I'm overly tired or something. But that doesn't mean I think everything is super sunshiny yellow flowers and sh!t.. I just try to keep moving up and forward! If someones attitude sucks for the day, though, and if I'm in a great mood I usually point it out and say "hey, see you later!".. I feel it should be the same for me.. And it's like if you can handle all of that well come along with me! Let's try to be happy :P
ally14 ally14 8 years
I think I'm right in the middle. I am optimistic inside but sometimes I say more realistic and maybe even pessimistic things to bring me more realistic solutions.
CYL CYL 8 years
I am a "things will just work itself out kind of person" so I guess a optimist...
Neekoh Neekoh 8 years
I definitely think it's helpful, especially when you're the one on the outside and you do know that things will get better for someone else; sometimes, a friend just needs to hear the positive. But I personally like to be more realistic with myself.
Muirnea Muirnea 8 years
I am usually a pessimist, so whenever an optimistic thought comes out of me it's a good thing! lol! I like what Jude C said, that sounds like a pretty good compromise to me. :)
Marci Marci 8 years
I can't help myself. I basically see the glass as half full.
Sun_Sun Sun_Sun 8 years
i think being optimistic can do wonders for ur life. as long as u see the good side of things, every obstacle just seems more bearable. but like dear said, it doesnt mean u cant be realistic. for example making a move, making a decision or what not....u still need to look at pros and cons.
Jude-C Jude-C 8 years
I'm a pessimistic optimist. I always believe that things will turn out right in the end, it's just that I also believe things will probably suck real bad before then :p
KathleenxCouture KathleenxCouture 8 years
I am incredibly optimistic! I love life and see things for the best at all time usually but of course I am a realist I don't expect everything and everyone to share my optimism and I dont always expect situations to turn out amazing but i do always see the bright side of things and help others too as well when the going gets tough. I think realism is very important but optimism helps balance everything at the end of the day.
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 8 years
I'm an optimist. Actually, I think optimism and being realistic go hand in hand. They're not mutually exclusive.
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