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Where Do You Stand? Overlapping First Names

What's in a name? Well, a lot, if your love interest has the same name as your father or your brother! I just had a conversation with a friend who was excited about a really cute guy she met, but the downfall is that he shares the same name as her older brother. I've never dated anyone with my brother's name so I couldn't empathize with her, leaving me asking what the big deal is. I mean, I understand how it could be a little creepy to date someone with the same name as your father, but even still, I don't consider it to be a deal-breaker. So where do you stand on dating someone who shares their name with someone in your family? Have you done it before? Was it awkward? Was it confusing? Or was it not even an issue?


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ilanac13 ilanac13 8 years
i've never run into the issue with dating people with the same name as any of the men in my family however there was a period of time that i dated guys with the same was odd - but at least i knew that there was little chance that i would call out the wrong name :)
brdwaystarlett brdwaystarlett 8 years
WEIRD! Have NO clue how that got posted twice and over a span of 10 minutes.
brdwaystarlett brdwaystarlett 8 years
Okay. This is where it gets fun. When I met my boy and I told him my name, he laughed in fits and starts. Apparently his sister has the same name as me. And his mother. And his grandmother. And his great-grandmother. Basically, I don't think I could EVER marry this man because it would be some weird Freudian Oedipus thing. But I heart him all the same. haha.
lightheaded lightheaded 8 years
My BF has the same name as both my brother and my father... doesnt really get in the way of anything until I am talking to my mother, she gets confused haha.
meanbean meanbean 8 years
My current bf has the same name as one of my brothers. I have 3 bros and all have very common names so I figured I couldn't narrow the dating pool by eliminating every guy who shared their names. We just call them Matt 1 and Matt 2 at family gatherings or refer to them as Bean's Matt and Matt Matt. Mostly I call him by a pet name though...
cotedazur cotedazur 8 years
this isn't directly related, but my husband and three of his close friends all have the same name. it becomes incredibly hard to tell stories because everyone is always asking, "which one???!"
carak carak 8 years
my dad's name is John, my mom's brother's name is John, and my mom's sister's husband is named John. also my mom and her brother's first wife shared the same name. it would weird me out though.
kikidawn kikidawn 8 years
My boyfriend and brother share the same name: Joshua. It's a fairly common name :) I just call him "my Josh" and my brother is "bubba Josh". My family call's him "Kiki's Josh" and then "Josh". My mom does something a little different. She calls my Josh: "Joshua D" (his last name starts with a D) and my brother is: "Joshua Lee" (his first and middle name). It's not really weird at all. I don't think I even thought about it at first. My brother has joked about it, but everyone's really cool about it. It's a common name :) and we have a lot of that weird coincidence stuff happen in my family: - my sister is dating a guy that has the same name as our nephew - my boyfriend's, my sister's ex, and my cousin all have the same bday - my sister and my brother's best friend turned family friend have the same bday there's more but I won't continue to bore you ;)
aylee aylee 8 years
My boyfriend and brother share the same first name, but we call my brother by his middle name. I haven't been in that position where I call my brother and my boyfriend the same exact name. But if that happens, I don't think I'll be bothered by it. I don't really call my boyfriend by his name anyway.
graylen graylen 8 years
My brother married someone with the same name as me (first and middle) so now we have identical names. It's annoying more to her than to me... it was my name first! ; ) She will be very happy when I get married and take a different last name.
myystque myystque 8 years
Why would it be an issue? Something like that wouldn't bother me.
havok636 havok636 8 years
my first boyfriend had the same name as my brother... it was weird
valancyjane valancyjane 8 years
I don't really think of my dad as "Bruce," I think of him as "Dad." So I don't know if I'd have a problem with dating a Bruce. Someone with my brother's name, though ... might be touchy but I could get over it. For a while I dated someone who had the same name as my grandfather, my uncle and my cousin (we recycle names a LOT in my family). Family reunions would have been very confusing! Luckily my husband's name is unique to him. Not exactly related, but still funny: In my husband's family there's a woman who married a David; then that one died and now she has a "companion" named David. I want to say her first husband was a David too. Now THAT would be weird.
bchicgrl bchicgrl 8 years
Wow that would be weird to be dating someone with the male variation of your name or the same name, wouldn't be a deal breaker. My fiance's name is the same as my little cousin and his father but it doesn't matter. It would be a little strange to be dating a guy with the same name as my father though.
Sun_Sun Sun_Sun 8 years
i dont have any brothers but i think i would be totally weirded out if someone had the same name as my dad *ick*. the whole saying his name during sex would just screw me up in the head :P
hokiepokie hokiepokie 8 years
My brother's gf has the same name as me ... at first, I was a little freaked bc she and I have a LOT in common but I got over it because we get along really well & she's a super sweet girl. And if we're all together, the family's tried out a few different ways to differentiate. I'm 1 and she's 2 or she's 2 and I'm 1 or they call her by her whole name or "his". Always gets a laugh.
DearSugarLover DearSugarLover 8 years
i'm dating someone who has the same name as my brother and step brother, it gets annoying and awkward. and just the other day my younger brother said "ew how can you even like someone with the same name as me, if i ever met a girl with your name i would automatically think she was grose". and i just replied "well i didn't get to pick his name, so i don't really have a choice :) "
vmruby vmruby 8 years
Do people actually consider dating someone with the same first name as one of their siblings/parents an actual problem or a dealbreaker? It hasn't happened to me but if it did, never in a million years would it have ever occured to me that it could be some sort of an issue with the person I happened to be dating. Personally,I just don't see anything at all wrong with it.There are alot of worse things that could happen to a person.It's only a name for goodness sakes....
queenegg queenegg 8 years
Oh, it bothers me. It dated two guys with my Dad's name and I hated it. I called one by the full name and the other by a nickname.
soulight soulight 8 years
My current boyfriend has the same name as my dad and my brother. I never really thought about it, but my bf thought I should be a little freaked out. Is that weird that I'm not?
lickety-split lickety-split 8 years
one time a guy had a name that was first 3 letters of my name. it's not even a name, so that was too weird for me. but i wasn't really feeling anything for him. maybe if i was i would have thought it was cute. i actually have a friend who has the same name as her husband.
thelorax thelorax 8 years
It wouldn't be a deal-breaker for me, but I know people who would be too creeped out.
stefsprl stefsprl 8 years
My husband's name is the same as my dad AND my ex-stepfather (who was married to my mom when I got married)...It was kind of weird, but I haven't seen my dad for several years (and I never called him by his first name, anyway!) and we had a nickname for my stepfather because his name was also the same as one of my sister's best friends...she started calling him by a completely different name to avoid confusion, so I ended up doing the same thing.
Mesayme Mesayme 8 years
Oh man, the funny thing is...the guy I have fallen for doesn't share my father's name...but he's very much like him (the good stuff ;) ). And I wasn't ever raised by my father. How weird is that? :WAVE: Sugarbritches...
Mesayme Mesayme 8 years
That has never happened to me before...but I did date two guys with nearly the same first name as mine (married one) it was cute for about a month. :D
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