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Where Do You Stand: Scheduled Sex Dates

We're all busy people. Many of us work or go to school full time. We take care of our dogs, our homes, or our children. We spend time at the gym, with our friends and family, and we run around doing errands on the weekends. The stress and busyness of everyday life can unfortunately take away time spent with our significant others, forcing couples to pencil each other in for special dates and intimacy.

Sometimes having a scheduled sex date is exciting, knowing all day that you have a hot date planned after work, then other times it can feel forced. So ladies, where do you stand on scheduled sex dates? Do you think it's important to set aside times for this kind of intimacy if you're too busy for it to come naturally? Or is sex better when it's spontaneous and unplanned?


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dikke-kus dikke-kus 8 years
You're a joke if you make sex an appointment. If someone treats sex like a meeting then I would take a rain check.
Goosebanana Goosebanana 8 years
We don't plan it, but we know that every time we are together we will, at some point in the day, have sex. :) I'm sure a time will come when one of us for some reason isn't in the mood or is too tired, but that hasn't happened yet! Of course we live 3000 miles apart, so when we are able to see each other sex is pretty high on the agenda.
Silverlining10 Silverlining10 9 years
I don't mind. Planned sex or unplanned sex, I can only complain about NO SEX. :)
Anabellatc Anabellatc 9 years
I hope it never comes down to this, but i dk...i can't really judge ppl who do have to plan it! I think it's better spontaneously...but who knows?
sparklestar sparklestar 9 years
I can't plan sex. How... boring?
Lele777 Lele777 9 years
JaimeLeah526 JaimeLeah526 9 years
It should be spontaneous not planned. It can't be good sex if you need to plan.
Phunkometry Phunkometry 9 years
They key to having planned sex is never making the plans out loud. My boyfriend works every day on the weekend, and our school schedules totally clash. To top it off, we both commute to school from our parents' houses. His parents are both on disability so they're ALWAYS home. My dad is doing home renovations three days a week--one of those days happens to be when both my boyfriend and I don't have school. And we refuse to go to a motel that you pay for by the hour, lol. So, really, when I say, "Hey, my dad decided he would go to work this Monday, do you want to come over?" it's basically planning without saying "Do you want to have sex around midday on Monday? Ok, don't forget to write it in your planner." But when that Monday rolls around, you can bet that it doesn't feel forced--we just can't keep our hands off each other. God we're so sex starved it's terrible. Thank god, the semester's almost over. I hope I didn't cross into TMI territory.
Meike Meike 9 years
Nope, never going to happen. Fortunately for us, we are the only two people at home with no children, parents or other family. Sex is something we don't have to schedule. It just happens whenever we want it.
Le-Luxe Le-Luxe 9 years
I think planning sex makes it totally weird and awkward. Why not just go with spontaneity and passion?
brittanyk brittanyk 9 years
We never plan sex. Sometimes I only see my fiance once a week with me going to school full time and him working full time and commuting like 3 hours a day. I mean this situation kind of sucks right now, but when it happens, it happens.
thisisvee thisisvee 9 years
Talk about timing, I was discussing this problem with my boyfriend this weekend. He recently started taking Cialis which gives us a 36 hour window...but it is still pretty planned and forced. I think having (planned) sex is better than no sex at all, but it still sucks.
bengalspice bengalspice 9 years
I can't say I'm too busy for it that I need to schedule, but sometimes it's nice to schedule in time ... especially when you're the only one who knows there's a plan. ;-)
clareberrys clareberrys 9 years
I agree with all the ladies before me....I'm sorry, but you don't have to have sex every day to have a great sex will just happen when it's supposed to....shouldn't be a planned activity that you need to put in your itinerary
bbkf bbkf 9 years
How about just promising to never be too busy for sex? No one can be _that_ busy....
kiwitwist kiwitwist 9 years
I think it would feel forced and wouldn't enjoy it. BUT I could see it being needed. Time will tell I guess.
aimeeb aimeeb 9 years
This is insane.
Sun_Sun Sun_Sun 9 years
we dont have kids yet, but i sure hope our sex life doesnt come down to that its depressing
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