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Where Do You Stand? Sharing the Family Dirt With Friends

It seems like along the way, every family manages to gain a few secrets or drama-filled issues. And often the family gossip can have a serious effect on your day-to-day life. As with all personal strife, it’s natural to want to talk it out with friends, but sometimes spilling family news can feel a bit disloyal. So where do you stand on sharing your family drama with friends? What about your significant other?


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dikke-kus dikke-kus 8 years
Sharing family dirt happens everyday. There are some really terrible things people will confide in you about family issues. It's good to listen and be compassionate, because everyone has family problems no matter who they are. I don't think silence through loyalty has anything to do with it unless someone in your family is running for president. If you have something on your mind and feel like you need to talk about it then that is what you should do. There are some things that I keep quiet about. Not out of loyalty though. My point of view is why drag up history that will never be resolved one way or the other, and just lay heavy on the hearts of others.
Advah Advah 8 years
I have a couple of friends I talk a lot with. Not necessarily my family, but what happened with my exbfs or other friends. Sometimes it's nothing too serious and you just need to vent, and very often it sounds worse when you say it than what you actually mean - but it feels good to say something out loud.
ajennilynrushhh ajennilynrushhh 8 years
I tell my best friend.
Pallas-Athena Pallas-Athena 8 years
My family has had a lot of problems for a long time and I tell my friends (I've known them for three years [Some haven't even been to my house, but we're close] and some longer) about my family problems. If it is gossip then they don't need to know. They usually just listen to me complain about my family problems and what not, but for them to understand where I'm coming from they need to know a lot of information which may seem like gossip, but is the honest truth. Gossip - I have my family for that and I don't like to gossip, but I need to be in the loop. Complaining - Family and friends hear me complain, but my family already knows and understands sometimes better what I'm complaining about.
kariedaway1 kariedaway1 8 years
I have been known to vent about my fam from time to time but only with my 2 besties who are completely trustworthy
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 8 years
Generally, I don't share family drama with friends. To me, that's like airing my family's dirty laundry, and I don't do that. Likewise, I don't vent about my marriage either. I keep all that information to only those involved.
HeidiMD HeidiMD 8 years
The only person who knows ALL my family's dirt is my best friend, and that's because she has known them practically as long as I have. I rarely maliciously gossip about my family -- sometimes I just like having someone else who will roll their eyes at all their weird antics!
californiagirlx7 californiagirlx7 8 years
I tell my friends almost everything, and they would never blab about anything I tell them unless I said they could talk about it. If they would blab about my family's secrets, then I wouldn't be friends with them.
g1amourpuss g1amourpuss 8 years
I tell my mother, sister (when I get a chance to call her), and primarily my husband everything.. sometimes my best-friend. Other than that, I'm pretty closed off when it comes to opening myself to friends about important sh!t. To me, most of what goes on it not their business - especially if some of them are friends with people I'm not friends with. I just want to be silly and cut up if I'm hanging out with friends. Some of my friends get mad that I won't open up to them enough. Tough sh!t.
Asia84 Asia84 8 years
my best friend knows all my family stuff and vice versa....but we are also god-sister (our mothers are best friends).
bluestar bluestar 8 years
My close friends and I do it! Sometimes you just need to vent. No biggie.
RockAndRepublic RockAndRepublic 8 years
I do it all the time.
lilCROAT03 lilCROAT03 8 years
wow these women are so french.
pippins_halfling pippins_halfling 8 years
I'll vent to close friends. I can't keep things to myself if I'm really upset over it.
RustyAngel73 RustyAngel73 8 years
I don't currently have a SO but I confide in my best friend about those situations...and only her.
sundaygreen sundaygreen 8 years
What is up with that 90's stock photo.
ohkate ohkate 8 years
yeeeaaaahhh... I vent to really close friends to gain perspective but I had an instance where it got a little out of hand and...well it hasn't gotten any better. I don't regret venting but it would be nice if other parties involved were more willing to discuss the problems at hand rather than pretend there's nothing wrong. ):
Lily-Inferno Lily-Inferno 8 years
Im close with my family and all..and sometimes you find out things about certain ppl you cant tell anyone else in your who would I turn to? Naturally, my closest friend. I tell her only bc I know I can trust her and it helps get things off my chest. Things I didnt want to know to begin with. So yea, for my own sanity, I will tell my friend or even my husband.
sarah100682 sarah100682 8 years
Thank God I have a sane family! My family is so small, that luckily no one has big enough drama to really make a difference, and we all get along well enough to where we don't fight amoung ourselves.
Fallen85 Fallen85 8 years
My family is awesome. I only bitch about how crazy my sister is to people that know her almost as well as I do.
Fallen85 Fallen85 8 years
How OLD are these pictures? Who wears hats like that anymore? Leather jacket with a turtle neck and scarf? Hmmm..
jessie jessie 8 years
the hubby knows all...he's who i vent/cry/scream to about it all...LOL..friends...only close ones who actually know my crazy family..
vmruby vmruby 8 years
I will only discuss the occassional family drama with my husband and my two best friends(all 3 know my family for many years) and only because i trust them and I know whatever I do confide will not go any further.....
Kelliegrl Kelliegrl 8 years
Depends on how close the friend is and the level of family drama. Sometimes it's good to have an outside perspective from a friend that you can trust.
Shopaholichunny Shopaholichunny 8 years
Oh man I had a problem with this a few weeks back. One of my close girlfriends who I grew up with since we were 6yrs old ended up telling some people at our church drama that was happening in my family regarding me and my cousins. (my cousins and I told her) Anywayz, my family found out and they were really upset with her. They made me and my cousins talk to her to let her know that it was not her business to tell other people. It was very uncomfortable for us. :p
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