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Where Do You Stand: Sleeping With an Ex

I think we all know by now that just because you’ve broken up with someone doesn’t necessarily mean you’ve moved on. In fact, even after a breakup, a relationship between two people can continue for months or even years.

While opinions differ on whether or not taking time apart is prolonging the inevitable or actually productive, I wonder what people think about continuing a physical relationship with an ex. Although sometimes it’s just harmless fun, most of the time it seems like a way of investing more emotions into a dying a relationship. It’s better than sleeping around, but is it a smart choice when it comes to letting go? Ladies, as far as sleeping with an ex goes, where do you stand?


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angeldelite angeldelite 8 years
I done it i aint sayin this the right thing to do, but i always say if it feel right do it with no regrates if it dont feel right leave it lone simple....... I aint no expert but whats the difference off sleeping with an ex to being with someone you cant stand touching you but because your married ect you feel its the right thing to do then feel bad after you do have sex knowing you hated every minute off your husband or partner touching you. Whats the difference??
rbebe rbebe 8 years
hmmm wel me an my ex broke up four times and got back together everytime we never had sex while we were that we have broken up guess what we have been having sex,,,and its harder now i truly love him i get jealous and he tries not to get me jealous orlet me find out things.don'tdo it its harder to let go...because if he gets a girld friend i really don't no what i would do
meaganma7x meaganma7x 9 years
ive slept with the guy i lost it to plenty of times after we broke up. but that was the only Ex ive done that with. other then that i would not sleep with an EX
yardbird yardbird 9 years
I'm currently in this situation. It's weird... neither of us really knows where we stand I guess... friends with benefits and a history, I suppose. I wouldn't call it such an incredibly bad idea, the way other posters have.
RaCheer RaCheer 9 years
My ex-boyfriend and I were broken up for about a year before we resumed a physical relationship. I still wasn't over him and he had dated another girl during our time apart. He just wanted a friend with benefits and I was hoping it would lead to more...which of course it didn't! BAD IDEA!
JaimeLeah526 JaimeLeah526 9 years
If I liked the guy enough to sleep with him he wouldn't be my ex. If he broke up with me than I wouldn't be able to be his friend.
shannon_xo shannon_xo 9 years
I slept with an ex once after we broke up. Yeah, I would never do that again.
Greentea1203 Greentea1203 9 years
I did this for a few months after my ex and I broke up after three years of living together, even though it turns out he had another girlfriend. I didn't see him for a few months and when he finally came over one day months later to pick up some of his things, he texted me a day later over and over trying to get me to sleep with him (he was still with the same girl). This time I turned him down, even though I wasn't attached to anyone. I'm realized I'm too good for that. Two months have gone by and I have an amazing boyfriend now, but my ex recently emailed me wanting to go to lunch or have drinks, but said, "just as friends of course." I know he'll end up trying to sleep with me because that's the kind of guy he is--biggest ego ever--but it won't happen. ever. Bad idea.
yadiet yadiet 9 years
A Ex is a Ex for a reason. It didn't work out the first time, or maybe the second. so just move on
yadiet yadiet 9 years
I did this once with an Ex for quite some time. We were hiding it from all of our friends. We would make it seem that infront of others we were distant and could not stand one another. But after everyone was gone it was a different story. Needless to say, its something I will never do again.
ahgerly ahgerly 9 years
i can tell how hard it would be,skigurl..eventho i havent really done that before...why letting someone to hurt you again? what is done is done...just cut the tie and move on!!!
lizlee89 lizlee89 9 years
klasiklove klasiklove 9 years
are you kidding me? ex is an EX. whether you ended it or he did... it was ended for some reason or another. however, if you had intentions to possibly get back with him, and you were single and so was he, yeah.. maybe it would be okay then.. but otherwise.. i would say, no no no no no. especially NO if he has a girlfriend or you have a boyfriend.
MissChita MissChita 9 years
I've done it or more than one occasion, and I can say that its NOT a good idea. Especially w/ my last relationship, I broke up w/ my ex and then we hooked up two months later and had amazing sex but it went right back into a relationiship and I was like 'oh no, this wont work!' The emotions get back in and all it becomes is sex - which is not ALL that when nothing else is there. So if you break up with someone, BREAK AWAY from them too. No calls, no meeting up, and definitely NO SEX!!
RockAndRepublic RockAndRepublic 9 years
It's called letting go and knowing went to.
Lyv Lyv 9 years
Never done it. Sounds like a pretty bad idea!
zombielove zombielove 9 years
i must be the only one who's done this and doesnt think it's a bad idea haha. i've had sex with an ex before and i wasn't the one who was emoitionally still attached, he was.he was the one begging me to get back with him, i was just in it for the booty. there's no reason why a guy should be the only one who's in it just to feed their own sexual appetite. When I have sex with an ex, or a friend who i've had sex before the first thing I say is "it's just sex, let's get that clear, I dont plan on marrying you" for me, I just like the comfort level. has NOTHING to do with me wanting to get back together or start a relationship.
emalove emalove 9 years
Ugh, never a good idea!
rachelcal rachelcal 9 years
i don't think it's wise to sleep with an ex, but sometimes it's hard not to
Silverlining10 Silverlining10 9 years
Honestly, I've only had one serious relationship, but we still had feelings and loved each other after we broke-up, so we continued to sleep together. Then, we got back together. He was a bit weaker because I saw it as two people having sex, and it made him realize how much he truly loved me. This went on for about seven months, but now, we're in a stable, long-term, loving relationship. However, it was emotionally tolling and afterwards, I spent a lot of time feeling used and crying. I think when you are emotionally stable with the end of a relationship, there's no problem with being friends (with benefits), but if there are ANY feelings remaining for this person, then it's best not inflame them by sleeping together.
dkaanoi dkaanoi 9 years
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