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Where Do You Stand? Using the L Word

After watching last week's premiere of The Rachel Zoe Project, I have to say I'm intrigued, but not for the fashion aspect or her business aspirations; more so because of her Rachel Zoeisms (wonder what she'll come up with tonight!). The main thing that grabbed my attention was the fact that she constantly tells people she loves them — her business partners, her clients, even her mentors! I know the L word means something different to everyone and it can be used in a plethora of ways, but saying "I love you" as flippantly as she did in her show was a little off-putting to me. I guess I'm one of those people that's more guarded with the L word, but where do you stand on the word "love" being a part of your daily repertoire?


JaimeLeah526 JaimeLeah526 9 years
I hate the way people throw it around these days. I would never say it to someone I just met or a stranger who does me a favor. It feels disrespectful to the people they actually say it to and mean it.
Briandiesel Briandiesel 9 years
I really only say it to the people that know it. I dont throw it out there just to not say goodbye or good to see you. The second you tell someone you love them you are bound to help them move or deal with drama. lol
JanetG0307 JanetG0307 9 years
i overuse love a lot. i just told our entire IT department at work that i love them, and they all blushed. growing up, my family told each other that on a pretty much daily basis. But I only use "I am in love with you" with the one person i am in love with - that's something only one person will ever hear from me.
italianblonde italianblonde 9 years
I find it easy to throw around to my friends or during those times when someone like finds your keys or something, and you say omigod I love you! But when it's to someone I really, really love like my family or boyfriend, I always get nervous about it and say it during special times :)
californiagirlx7 californiagirlx7 9 years
I usually tell only my family and my best friend that I love them, but I occasionally say it to my other close friends too. Sometimes I'll say it someone who I'm not that close to if they do something really nice for me, but I don't toss that word around with no meaning. I have only said "I love you" to one guy and I don't even know if I am told him to his face (we were childhood sweethearts and we were both very shy, but he reciprocated the sentiments).
leeluvfashion leeluvfashion 9 years
It depends on the context. Like when I see clothing, taste a new food, etc.. I tend to throw the word "love" around often. However it is how I feel towards that item or place. When it comes to people, I do not use the word "love" unless they are close to me. I tend to reserve the word for those that truly matter. I say it very often to my family (well, my mom at least; my dad and I don't say it often however we know we love one another.) And while I do not say verbally it to friends, I always remember to tell them when I write a letter.
princess_eab princess_eab 9 years
Hmm... I mean, I say I love things, but I don't toss that word around with friends. With old, old friends, I sign e-mails "love". I always wait for the guy to say it in a relationship. My ex said it like 2 weeks in. He was intense. I'm in love with someone now but I'm not about to be the first to say it! I think he wants to, but instead he keeps telling me I'm his perfect match... good enough for me.
j2e1n9 j2e1n9 9 years
I say it when I mean it, and in relationships I ALWAYS make the guy be the first one to say it :) hehehe!
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 9 years
These days, I say it to hubbie, and sometimes to my sister. Also, they're comfortable hearing it from me. In writing, like when I write a card, I would include a wider circle of people, like close friends. But verbally, I generally limit it to hubbie and my sister. Also, I use that word to describe something I'm doing. I would say, "I love dancing" or "I love it!" I guess I have strong affections for certain activities or matters, not just people.
rabidmoon rabidmoon 9 years
Family, significant others, my cat, horses, signing off emails to people I really care about, sushi, heavy metal and really good computer games and the occasional movie. That's it.
pippins_halfling pippins_halfling 9 years
I feel uncomfortable telling someone I love them, even if they're just friends! It's just awkward for me. It seems that I kind of reserve that phrase for family and future significant others.
Mykie7 Mykie7 9 years
Growing up, our family didn't use the L word. I knew Mom & Dad loved me, but they didn't say it. When I got older I would at first take my Mom by the shoulders and say "Mom, I love you." At first she was weirded out by it. Now, I make sure that I end every conversation with "I love you." If I am that close to someone, I let them know. My best friend died 10 years ago from Leukemia. He was only 37. You just never know when someone might not be around anymore and it's important to tell them NOW how you feel.
vmruby vmruby 9 years
I come from a family of people who never once hesitated to say how much they loved you. I will only tell it to the people I actually do love ( parents,husband,kids,all of my family,best friends) and it has always, always come straight from my heart.My hubby and my kids say it to me everyday and I'm never going to get tired of hearing it. If i feel it i say it's as simple as that.
Blackwood Blackwood 9 years
I certainly can't say it. And I get suddenly uncomfortable when somebody says it to me... I really can't bring myself to say it back, so I either stay silent or quickly change the subject. But there are some people who say it a lot, and that's fine by me. I doesn't bother me at all.
Neekoh Neekoh 9 years
I agree with you, saying "I love you" is a big deal to me. I say it to people when I really, truly mean it. With a boy, it's even a bigger deal because, to me, it's like committing yourself in a way. I say it more freely to my friends, but that's because they've been in my life forever and I really do love them.
psychobabble psychobabble 9 years
I agree that love means different things depending on the context. I certainly use it in a more casual way when someone saves my butt! But really saying I love you is reserved for my husband, my parents, and my closest girlfriends. While I can say that I would use it with my mother-in-law (we're very close) my husband came from a family where it isn't said often, so we just haven't reached that point. The feeling is there but it goes unsaid.
chocolatine chocolatine 9 years
Some people are very emotional/impulsive (not me though) and they actually mean it every time they say it. I only have a problem with it when it's not sincere.
MissJules5x MissJules5x 9 years
i agree with popgoestheworld... love means different things in different contexts. i remember i broke a nail at work right before a company party and a girl at work had a nail kit with her. i said something a long the lines of "i love youuuu your awesome thanx.) basically thats what rachel zoe is saying. granted i don't walk around saying it to everyone i know but people are taking it wayyy out of proportion.
sundaygreen sundaygreen 9 years
I never ever say it. Not even to the people closest to me. I've never had the habit of saying 'I love you' at the end of a phone call or when saying goodbye or anything like that. So for me it's something that's said very rarely, mostly on special occassions. I'd feel awkward just flippantly saying it. Perhaps "love you!" in certain situations, but the 'I' really adds importance for me.
popgoestheworld popgoestheworld 9 years
Love is overused. For example, I love this granola I'm eating right now. It doesn't really bug me. It means different things in different contexts and I think we're able to handle that.
Shopaholichunny Shopaholichunny 9 years
I use with my boyfriend, my family (including my extended family)and my close girlfriends. :)
cmd0610 cmd0610 9 years
I don't see why it's a big deal if she uses the L word a lot, if she wants to do that and she feels comfortable doing that who really cares? I have friends who use it with me and others because we are close friends and it doesn't bother me, I think it's sweet.
cubadog cubadog 9 years
The L word I only use if I really mean it so people that use it for everyone irritate me.
desidesi desidesi 9 years
she's terrifying to look at. it's a pity, i bet if she had no work done, she would look a lot better.
ilanac13 ilanac13 9 years
i actually don't like to hear/use that word a lot. to me, when you say it all the time and to everyone, it's just words and it has no meaning. my fiance doesn't get it when i get frustrated that he says it ALL the time. i know - i'm crazy right? it just seems to me like he says it like 'hello or goodbye' and to me, it's not the same thing. if someone says it THAT OFTEN -then how do you know when it's meaningful. i rarely say it so you know that if you hear it from me - it's the real thing.
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