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Where Do You Stand? Using the Term "Bang"

Where Do You Stand? Using the Term "Bang"

It makes me so mad when I overhear guys use the word bang in reference to sex. I mean, how gross and rude! I always thought it was a guy thing, but just recently, a girlfriend and I were at a bar and when she saw a hot guy ordering a drink, I almost dropped my Cosmo when she said, "I'd love to bang that guy."

Clearly, I'm just not a fan of that term. I prefer to use the sweet phrase "make love," and I'll even take "do it" over banged. It just makes sex seem so impersonal and forceful, but what do you think about the B word? Am I being too old-fashioned or are you against it, too?


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jedimasterarmi jedimasterarmi 9 years
MissyCat: I totally agree.
RustyAngel73 RustyAngel73 9 years
Not all types of sex I would classify as 'making love', so I'd only use the term making love in relation to romantic sex. Otherwise, I'm pretty crass and can refer it to anything from sex/sexing (just a random made up add-on) to bang, ride (yes, yes, I know), do and f**k.
MissyCat MissyCat 9 years
I wouldn't use it but it's still better than "do him". That one just grates on my nerves; even fuck is an improvement over that. You "do" the laundry and if the guy's right up there on a level with dirty underwear, why would you want to have sex with him anyway? Just my opinion.
delovely03 delovely03 9 years
Banged is hysterical and I use it when I make casual references to sex.. but I would never say to my boyfriend, "Bang me" if I was trying to be serious. If we were out having fun and were a little tipsy, I might say jokingly, "Let's go home and bang!" It's just knowing when and how to use it... I think your friend used it appropriately when referencing a stranger... you don't fantasize what it would be like to "make love" to a random dude at the bar. Attraction, when merely physical, is unmatched by none other than a night of bangin' sex.
tweet-hotpants tweet-hotpants 9 years
i say "let's bang" to my husband all the time
rpenner rpenner 9 years
it doesn't offend me. i don't usually use it but i do use a lot of other words for sex. along with everyone else on here i think bang is used when the sex is impersonal. when it's just sex.
Lele777 Lele777 9 years
Bang is such a funny word. I really don't care either way!
Hex Hex 9 years
Better than hearing a girl say "bone" it makes me laugh so hard, bone him with WHAT!? You have no bone!
lizlee89 lizlee89 9 years
and whatever happened to "have sex?"
lizlee89 lizlee89 9 years
I think the problem is that sex has become so impersonal and that people have become so classless. The problem was not that the girl said "bang," the problem was that she actually said out loud that she wants to have sex with someone. To me, that is crude and tacky. I have no problem talking about sex, but I just think it it something special between one man and woman who have made a loving commitment to only love and have sex with each other in marriage. Call me old-fashioned, conservative, "crazy-religious," naive, homophobic, whatever, I believe that and stand for my beliefs. The world would be a much better place if people took love and sex seriously.
leeluvfashion leeluvfashion 9 years
Ugh, I hate the term "bang." So crude. I also hate the terms "screw" and "make( or making) love." Why not just say "I'd sleep with (or do) him"?
Marci Marci 9 years
I think of Bang more in the get down and dirty sense; just hardcore sex with no emotional entanglements. But I agree with those who can't get 'making love' to roll off the tongue. That just does NOT work in my dialogue.
Meike Meike 9 years
I'm indifferent.
rickimc rickimc 9 years
I only use the term "bang" when playing Kill, Bang, Marry (like Do Dump Marry, but I guess slightly more sadistic).
i-am-elle i-am-elle 9 years
Haha indie.. I'm with you on that. ;)
i-am-elle i-am-elle 9 years
Hmm. My ex & I used this term a lot (along with the f-word... yah yah, I know). It never bothered me. Different strokes for different folks! And for the record, I don't use these terms much with my current boyfriend, & it never really crosses my mind.
Stacey-Cakes Stacey-Cakes 9 years
I actually use it a lot, especially when two people are just engaging in casual sex: Yep so-and-so are banging.
thorswitch thorswitch 9 years
This is probably just because I'm old, but I've never cared for "bang" much. In my older, wilder (i.e. pre-married) days, I just usually thought of it in terms of having sex, I didn't have any special terms I used for it, or if I was talking to a friend about it, it was the basic "I slept with him" kinda thing. With my husband, we usually refer to it as "making love" - but I've never seen it as trying to create something that isn't there - I've always thought of it as making MORE of what we've already got. Sometimes he likes to get kind of "down and dirty" and will use rougher terms, which will make me laugh, but is less likely to get me in the mood than something less crude.
Ikandy Ikandy 9 years
I never say least not in reference to sex...
rocknrollmaw rocknrollmaw 9 years
Totally! I have a sailor mouth anyway and BANG is one of my favorite words.
ikimashokie ikimashokie 9 years
I use "bang" because I think it's cute at times. It's not the only word my boyfriend and I use for sex, but "bang" allows for subtle immaturity, which we enjoy. Now that it's been brought up, maybe I will refer to it as "exclamation point". Though what will end up happening is that ! means "not", so we will end up saying "wanna not?" and giggling like school children. "Making love" just seems... weird. Why do you need to make something that is already there? Shouldn't you be expressing it, and not making it come about?
krys786 krys786 9 years
Nothin's wrong with 'bang'...'making love' is super CHEESEBALL! Haha
indielove indielove 9 years
I don't see anything wrong with 'bang'. Though I would rarely say it. Out of 'bang', 'making love', or 'fuck'...I'd rather say 'fuck'.
cyan45 cyan45 9 years
my bf of 3 yrs. loves to say (rather enthusiastically), 'i wanna bang you hard!' lol. sounds passionate and rough, which is great when the mood strikes. other fun ones: 'gettin' down to bid-ness' and 'ride the nasty wagon'. we always laugh. i don't find 'bang' at all offensive coming from my partner. in the company of friends and/or random guys, i'd blush. weird, but true.
kiwitwist kiwitwist 9 years
I don't care for that word or the F word when it comes to sex. I am with you Dear!
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