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Where Do You Stand: Wearing White to a Wedding

Being the traditionalist that I am, I can say, hands down, that wearing white to someone else's wedding is a major no-no. Dresses with white in them are OK, but competing with the wedding gown is just plain tacky. For whatever reason, not all people feel the same way — I've been to a handful of weddings where guests wore white, so tell me where you stand on the subject. Is wearing white to a wedding a faux pas in your eyes are do you think that in this day and age, anything goes?


BrunetteSugar BrunetteSugar 9 years
people have taken it upon themselves to shy away from traditions, and in some cases this is okay, we are moving on as a society. but this is one tradition that we need to keep. it is not appropiate to wear white to any wedding and if someone wore white to my upcoming wedding, i would be beyond offended.
egilbe2 egilbe2 9 years
I think white to someone else's wedding is a definite NO and I dont consider myself that traditional. I am not married so dont think it is about brides having egos I think it is about respecting someone else's day and time to shine. I think black is ok for evening and formal weddings. In the end I think alot of it depends on how you're wearing it.
tawndy00 tawndy00 9 years
Unless the bride said she doesn't care, white should be okay. I went to one wedding where the couple asks that everyone (both genders/no kids attended) wear only white because the bride was wearing a slim red gown. The theme of their wedding was white with red accessories. It was very nice and the guests joined in on the theme. Black and red is okay if it's tastefully done. I wore red one time to a wedding but the red was not a bright red. It was a softer pale red that went just below my knees and was a tube top. The bride even commented on how she wants to borrow it for another wedding she had to attend a couple of months after hers.
chou chou 9 years
Seriously pallas athena? I don't find that very realistic at all. I think white signifies much more than just virginity. Also, I cannot believe that some girls claim they've never heard of this faux pas. Those bitches.
EricaJane EricaJane 9 years
It's a HUGE don't! My MIL wore a beaded ivory dress at my wedding. I told her the colors of my bridesmaids and mother were bronze/brown.. she's a bit inconsiderate though, and at the rehearsal got completely trashed during our 4 course meal at an extremely formal function, so whatever, right? Red is also out, unless you know for sure that red is desired by the bride, it is an attention getter, that should be avoided.. if you have an issue with thinking the bride needs to get over it, then don't go, because it is her day. Black for very formal weddings is perfectly acceptable and can even be preferable. I think that in any thing less than formal, though, black should also be avoided.
sunnyheart sunnyheart 9 years
I would MUCH rather someone wear a white little summer seersucker dress than a black dress to my wedding. The last wedding I went to was a summer wedding and there were SO many people wearing black it was ridiculous! It felt like a cocktail party (in a very religious afternoon ceremony) or a funeral, both felt out of place. Ladies wear something other than your hot black cocktail dress to a wedding please!
herjoiedevivre herjoiedevivre 9 years
a white and black dress would be okay. otherwise I think it's completely tasteless to wear white. even so- if it happened to me on my wedding day, I wouldn't care that much. it's not about anything but what we're there to do, not about some tacky color choice.
sundaygreen sundaygreen 9 years
I wouldn't wear white just because I'm not a fan of white dresses, but I had to wear a white dress as a maid of honour at my friend's wedding - it was a beach wedding so totally appropriate. In fact, the bride and her husband initally wanted all the guests to wear white, too. So obviously it depends on the type of occassion. There are some people who say wearing black or black for bridesmaid dresses are inappopriate, but I'd rather have my guests / bridemaids look chic in black than look terrible in pastel.
Pallas-Athena Pallas-Athena 9 years
I think if the bride or groom asks specifically that no one wears those certain colors then it is okay. I personally think that if you have had sex then you shouldn't wear white. I don't see black as a funeral color. I don't care what anyone wears to my wedding as long as it doesn't look like my dress and it isn't too bright or too short.
Jinx Jinx 9 years
:rotfl: @ sonya Very to the point girl!
sonya-ina sonya-ina 9 years
If you'd rather NOT be ridiculed then DON'T do it. Unless of course the bride says you can wear whatever you want, or requests white. However, going by proper wedding etiquette, don't do it. If you're a selfish attention whore who couldn't care less about anyone else, then go for it -- I guarantee you'll get all the attention you deserve.
aylee aylee 9 years
I coudn't care less what color my guests wear. I agree with erinridgeway. How could you confuse a guest wearing a white cotton dress who sits with all other guests, to a bride wearing an elaborate long white gown/dress who sits upfront where guests look up to? If the guest is wearing a white ballgown or something similar, then that's a different story. I will never wear white nor red to a wedding though unless requested by the couple, just to be on the safe side and avoid conflict. But I also think that it's a little too demanding of the bride to mention what color she's wearing and to demand guests not to wear the same color. In my country, the parents of the couple and primary sponsors usually wear something in the white color family.
looseseal looseseal 9 years
I like red, but since it's a wedding color in many cultures, too, I err on the side of caution and avoid both white and red for weddings. Pastels and Jewel tones (other than the reddish ones) tend to be safe bets. Yeah, something with a multicolor pattern is probably even safer. Never heard of the problem with black. Don't most suits and tuxedoes come in black? I would understand how it would be weird, however, if you were wearing a huge black funeral veil... I don't want to piss off the bride, and even if she doesn't mind, I don't want to have to deal with people getting in my face about what I'm wearing. That would just be a major pain in the ass.
faerymagick15 faerymagick15 9 years
I would never wear white or black to a wedding. Unless the bride asks guests to wear a certain color. I have heard of "black and white" weddings where guests were asked to wear black or white. Other than that type of situation...I wouldn't do it!
ninjastarlett ninjastarlett 9 years
I'm with kikidawn; it's okay if it's part of a tasteful print but solid white or ivory is not acceptable.
amerynn amerynn 9 years
Definitely no white at a wedding. Imagine my surprise when my mother-in-law showed up to my wedding in white... We'd even discussed that my mom was wearing green and the bridesmaids were in purple... Shouldn't have been too hard
nv27 nv27 9 years
I would never wear white to a wedding, Ive worn black once but the wedding was very non-traditional, it was a Vegas wedding, very 'anything goes.' Red I'd never heard of but I wouldnt wear a red dress anyway, reds for clubs, its not very formal. I would be livid if someone wore white to my wedding. Id probably go balistic.
ajennilynrushhh ajennilynrushhh 9 years
i agree with wadewifey. I don't wear white. Not even black because I'll think I'm going to a funeral. I think the bride should only wear white.
Silverlining10 Silverlining10 9 years
I would probably wear off-white because I'm a bit traditional, and I don't want to give the impression that I saved myself. I think having people walking around in dresses that are the same color as the bride's gown is tacky, so I might mention the color of my dress on the wedding invitation. I would also insist people don't wear red or low-cut, not because it would take the attention off of me, but because boobs & general skankiness can be very distracting to ME (And no, I'm not a lesbian!).
snowysakurasky snowysakurasky 9 years
i always thought that you weren't supposed to wear white,black or red, for the reasons mentioned. Now perhaps ivory should be taboo too since a lot of brides (even first timers) are going with ivory dresses these days. I think any patterned dress would be a good bet though, even a pattern with the taboo colors. And grey is in style right? No excuses to wear the taboo colors ladies! It is not that hard to CONSIDER what you put on when you are invited for such an important event.
sfbutterfly24 sfbutterfly24 9 years
Unless someone is showing up in a white ball gown with heavy beddings I would care less. But again I am someone who if I ever get married wants my bridesmaids to look at freakin hot as possible because they are my family and friends.
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