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Which Comes First? Holding Hands or First Kiss

When you first start dating someone, I love the little affections you begin to show. Gazing into each other's eyes, smiling uncontrollably, playing with each other's hair, and hugging good-bye. As you feel more comfortable, the next step is either holding hands or sharing your first kiss. To some people, one is more intimate than the other, so when you first start seeing someone, which comes first?


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vanalex vanalex 8 years
First comes offering her our arm when walking. Then comes holding hands. Then the first kiss. But I am Latin, it's how we do things. Kissing on a date is not a given in our countries. Thus, one can date even friends.
vanalex vanalex 8 years
First comes offering her our arm when walking. Then comes holding hands. Then the first kiss. But I am Latin, it's how we do things. Dating on a date is not a given in our countries. Thus, one can date even friends.
babysoftpink babysoftpink 8 years
I think it's more romantically to hold hands first. However, we kissed first and later that day we held hands.
otay otay 8 years
haha i was reading these comments, the thats what she said joke, classic! love it! haha Personally i think that holding hands would come first for me, cuz its not as personal and intimate as a kiss would be, a kiss is so much more than holding hands. Like i would hold hands with anyone, but kissing, that's a different story. Holding hands: Casual. Kissing: intimate, personal.
bonniebonnie bonniebonnie 8 years
Holding hands before the first kiss can feel so electric! While holding hands is such an innocent action, it can be so charging if you haven't touched this person that you're really into yet.
tsocolate tsocolate 8 years
I go for the hand holding but not really on the first date. It will come when I would sense that there is mutuality on our feelings, means at least we like each other (already). The kiss would go later, when we will start to be intimate on another level. Maybe, I'm a bit conservative. But leaving some excitement for later really thrills me.
xxkrist24xx xxkrist24xx 8 years
I think to hold hands you have to be more comfortable around each other than for your first kiss. At least that's how it was for me :)
zai21 zai21 8 years
Not yet but I prefer holding hads first
Lukin Lukin 8 years
For me, holding hands is much more intimate than a general first kiss. I am not big on hugs, hand-holding, etc., so getting to that stage with someone is a much bigger deal for me, and it obviously means I like him quite a bit.
Miss-Senorita Miss-Senorita 8 years
Holding hands.
emalove emalove 8 years
I've been in relationships where each of these came first...doesn't matter to me!
oohsexypenguin oohsexypenguin 8 years
I can't even remember when I first held hands with my husband, lol! So I'm gonna say kissing came first, but only because that's what sticks out the most in my mind.
Spectra Spectra 8 years
Holding hands, for sure. I think I held hands with my husband on our second date and we didn't kiss until our 3rd date.
kea718 kea718 8 years
I HATE holding hands. I'm always nervous that my hands are clammy and sweaty. Holding hands is always so awkward for me
dm8bri dm8bri 8 years
The first kiss is more important - I will not continue to date someone if they can't kiss.
xopiperxo xopiperxo 8 years
holding hands
aimeeb aimeeb 8 years
HoneyBrown1976 HoneyBrown1976 8 years
First kiss.
sourcherry sourcherry 8 years
I'm not a fan of holding hands. I mean, during an intimate moment, yes, but not while walking on the street, for example. But like others said, I need to be reeally close with that person. So, the kiss comes first.
sprinkibrio sprinkibrio 8 years
Whoa. Holding hands is like at least a month into dating... first kiss is like third date. Don't a lot of people kiss on the first date. I can't imagine holding hands before that.
pippins_halfling pippins_halfling 8 years
Weird, I always thought holding hands first was universal. I guess I'm wrong. :P
frannyfan frannyfan 8 years
I definitely agree about hand holding being soooo intimate. I hate it in the beginning of a relationship or dating if a guy holds my hand bc it doesn't feel genuine, to me it's too early to have those kinds of feelings. It needs to happen naturally. But kissing is expected and a way of seeing if you mesh physically with that person too.
neonbee neonbee 8 years
The kiss. Holding hands is not something I do with just any guy. I find it so intimate that the guy and I should be together for some time before I can do it. I'm a weirdo.
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