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Which Comes First? Meeting His Parents or Him Meeting Yours

When you're in a relationship, I happen to think that meeting the parents is a huge deal. Let's face it — I wouldn't introduce my mom and dad to just any Joe Schmo! I like to meet his parents early in the relationship, too, since an evening with his mom and dad could give some eye-opening insight into the kind of person he is. I know geography has a lot to do with it, but if you had it your way, which would come first: meeting his parents or him meeting yours?


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Symphonee Symphonee 8 years
They usually meet mine's first but that is because they are always around. I don't plan it that way it just happens. I have yet to meet my current bf's parents. Since my parents have a habit of dropping by without too much notice, I try to prepare my boyfriends beforehand.
keiraz keiraz 8 years
like skigurl exactly!
ilanac13 ilanac13 8 years
in a perfect world i would have preferred to meet his parents first, but we had interesting circumstances with the family meeting. about 2 months into our relationship, i was up in NYC (we lived in florida and i was on a business trip in NYC, which is where my family is from - NJ actually) and i broke my knee and landed myself in the hospital for a week. so, the first time that my man met my mom and family was when he flew up to be with me, and they picked him up at the airport while i was laid up in the hospital JUST after knee surgery on heavy meds. not the way that i would have liked it all to go down, but 2 and a half years later, we're still all happy with each other, and i've spent quite a bit of time with his family.
ayanaphil ayanaphil 8 years
He'll be meeting mine on New Year's Eve. It'll be a while before I meet his since they're in TN and we're in TX.
pixelhaze pixelhaze 8 years
when I lived at home they would meet mine first as soon as they came to pick me up, it wasn't a big deal. Though with the last guy I dated our parents knew each other and my parents met him before I did!
LilyLyra LilyLyra 8 years
And oh my myst, I thought my dad was hard on my fiance, but it seems it is nothing in comparason to yours!!!
LilyLyra LilyLyra 8 years
I met my fiance's siblings and mother before he met my mother when she was visiting me. I then met his father and when I went to visit my family he also went to visit them and he met my dad. It was all kind of chaotic because I live overseas, but in the end it worked out ok.
princess_eab princess_eab 8 years
ha ha - our parents met each OTHER first! it's a long story. Basically everyone met everyone before we started dating because my mom and I were traveling through Scotland and stopped by their summer cottage to say hello.
patrice888 patrice888 8 years
brookberrys .. that's really sweet :)
GScott86 GScott86 8 years
I met my gf/ex's mom first, then she came over and met my whole family, and last month I actually finally came over and met her fix his computer.
Myst Myst 8 years
good luck Liberty :D I know I'm scared sh*tless for him to meet my parents. My parents have a funny way of deliberately scaring guys. The first thing my dad likes to say whenever he meets any guys that my sister and I bring is, "I can kill you from 400 yards." And my mom's is, "I know where all of the human pressure points are".
LibertySugar LibertySugar 8 years
Ahk! I'm about to meet my SO's parents over the holidays. The live out of town, so he's hung out with mine a bunch, but I'm still a mystery to his!
Myst Myst 8 years
Meet his parents first. I never introduce any guy to my parents, unless I know I'm going to be in it for the long term. With my guy, it's a really long distance relationship so I met his parents first time last winter, and he's meeting my parents when he flies down next week.
psterling psterling 8 years
I think geography has a lot to do with it. He met my parents first because they're in the area, whereas his parents live two states away. It took him 2 months to meet my parents and I took 6 months to meet his.
sparklestar sparklestar 8 years
Whichever one happens first! He met my parents long before we started dating. Then I met his parents officially before he met mine. :)
aimeeb aimeeb 8 years
I'd say meeting mine has always come first...
krae85 krae85 8 years
my family is so open and friendly, of course he met them first. I still wish I'd never met his evil mother..
heatherhas heatherhas 8 years
Haha Bekkachan! My parents are like that too. My mom has no filter. She told me to date other guys when I traveled away for an internship in front of my bf of 4yrs! I ended up listening to her advise and met someone better. Damn. I hate it when mom is always right. My little brother is the best at calling out D-bags too. I always listen when he doesn't like a guy. And I wont even tell you what they said to my fiance and I when I brought him home. Talk about raking him over the coals. . .
oohsexypenguin oohsexypenguin 8 years
I met my fiance's dad first, then he met my parents, then I met his mom. If I'd had my druthers, though, I'd have wanted him to meet mine first.
starangel82 starangel82 8 years
Meet mine first. My dad has outstanding 'he'll turn into a jerk later' radar.
jacklin jacklin 8 years
It really doesn't matter whom meets whom first. What matters is that all are treated with respect and try to get along with one another.
rellicDragon rellicDragon 8 years
Meet his parents first ... always ...
Chrstne Chrstne 8 years
My boyfriend met my mom first, then my dad, then I met his parents. I don't care either way. I was glad he met mine first, I wanted to spare myself the pressure as much as possible.
brookberrys brookberrys 8 years
I don't really have a rule about it, whichever one happens to meet first. My boyfriend met mine first. He's known my stepfather since he was a kid, and he asked my mother for her permission before he asked me out on a date.
Lovely_1 Lovely_1 8 years
Usually they meet mine first. My parents are realyl nosy and like to know EVERYTHING lol, so naturally they want to meet the guy that has my interest!
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