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Which was Worse?

As women, we have all experienced getting our period for the first time and losing our virginity. Both events are looked at as life changing and can be quite overwhelming and emotional, but are important rites of passage nonetheless.

Most mothers wait the day when their daughters will confide in them about these firsts, so, which was more embarrassing to reveal? Losing your virginity or getting your period?


calli-gurl calli-gurl 9 years
she would FREAK out about the virginity thing!
Frank-y-Ava Frank-y-Ava 9 years
weh i got my period she was the first person i told!! but when i lost my virginity i definitely didn't tell her and still won't. she even found a opened condom wrapper in my room and i denied it!!!!
XDeexDeeX XDeexDeeX 10 years
When I got my period I had cramps so I had to tell my mom. She was ready to talk about it with me at all times. She needs to know, to by the pads and stuff =P I'm a virgin and proud to stay that way until I get married.
nessabum nessabum 10 years
my mom kept on saying stuff about how i got my period early. i got it when i was 12--that's not early. but she was talking about how she got it when she was 14. i could never really talk to her about things. like tampons. she's so old-fashioned. she thinks they're wrong. which just so happened to be a problem when i was younger because i swam a lot. so i had to hide things and i never brought up the word tampon (tampon commercials became even worse to deal with than commercials about valtrex). sex, i don't even discuss with my mom. i learned about periods and sex on my own. my mom never talked to me about that. she didn't even explain to me what a period was (i played dumb when i first got it).
BKNYGal BKNYGal 10 years
I tell my mom pretty much everything. I couldn't wait to get my period so I could tell her. I felt like I had that "woman" status and all grown up. She kept me home and we had a mother daughter day. We have had conversations about sex but I never told her anything about when I lost my virginity and to whom.
cravinsugar cravinsugar 10 years
I got mine when i was 12. although, my mom had rasied me that womanhood was a beautiful thing, so, when i started it was like, i am a woman, and mom and i talked. unfort i started at school and had to wear one of those big thick mega pads the nurses office had. *ew* unfort i was unable to wera tampons until i was in my 20's so, summer was boring once a month haha. What's even funier is that my sister is younger than me and she is mentally retarded. my mom wasn't ready to talk to her about this stuff so when she asked why i couldn't go swimming i told her i had an earache. lololol. when she got old enough and started hers, mom explained to her what was happening and that is why i couldn't go swimming, she called it her 'earache' and would need 'earache pads' hahaha. we all now refer to it, around each other, as normal, but for the longest time it was earache and so funny.
simplybe1 simplybe1 10 years
mmm, i got my period at 11 too, and i was home with my mom and had no idea what was going on (you know, we had a sex-ed class about it the very next week? go figure)so of course i told her. and she was so nonchalant about it, "oh yeah, ok, you've got your period." it was strange. as for losing my virginity...i was stupid and drunk and 16. it's just not something you tell your mom..."so yah, i was at this party (oh did i forget to tell you about that?)and uh, i got *slightly* drunk and um, i don't know his name..." ok, admittedly, i was a very bad teenager, but in my defense i'm a much smarter/more mature person now! and closer with my mom too, but we still don't talk about sex. i think she knows since i've been dating/living with my bf for 4 years...but if i'm lucky, maybe not. ok i'm gonna stop before i say anything else really embarassing.
Amity-A Amity-A 10 years
My dad was the only one home when I started. I was more mad than embarrassed. I was only ten and I knew that the unpleasantness was going to last for years and years. Oh and it was Friday the 13th.
cravinsugar cravinsugar 10 years
It was found out accidently that I was having sex by my then boyfriend, now ex's mom, she told my mom, we were shamed, and made to feel like disappointments.
Midnightkiss4u09 Midnightkiss4u09 10 years
My Mom and I are very close - I can tell her anything.
ALSW ALSW 10 years
I pretty much tell my mother absolutely everything. I was barely 11 when I got my first period and we were at a friend's house swimming, so I had to tell her just so I could find a tampon or something! Plus, she was really supportive and made sure we went home fairly quickly after that. As for losing my virginity, I didn't exactly call her up the next day and tell her, but she certainly knows and I don't have a problem talking to her about the fact that I'm having sex or the OBGYN or anything along those lines.
LaLaLaurie06 LaLaLaurie06 10 years
I was home alone when I got my period but thanks to sex-ed classes, I knew that I needed to find a pad. My mom called from work a few minutes later to check on me and I told her what had happened and she brought home some pads for me, since all she had were pantyliners. When I lost my virginity at 21, I was so proud of myself for taking responsibility and getting on the birth control pill as well as buying condoms that I told my mom. I was in love with the guy I was having sex with (although we are no longer together) and it was exciting for me. My mom was excited for me too!!
kendalheart kendalheart 10 years
I never told my mom when I lost my virginity however Im not understanding how loosing it is embarassing?? My period, that is a natural part of getting older...not embarassing maybe a bit confusing along with the emotions you have surrounding it.
swwonder swwonder 10 years
I'm comfortable talking to my mum about stuff, but I wouldn't say that I tell her everything. Although, She seems to know everything, which doesn't bother me.
wackdoodle wackdoodle 10 years
I got my period on my 11th birthday. I knew what menstruation (mom had told me and showed me) was but when it happened it didn't look like blood. As short as I can- my birthday is in summer and I wanted to go swimming on my birthday but my mom said "no" cause we were having a fancy dinner with my dad at the Naval Officer's Club and she didn't want to redo my hair. So I snuck out and went swimming away (thank goodness for swim caps). I thought the chemicals in the pool water had made me sick (cramps) and were causing a bladder infection or something (the blood). I showered at my friend's house and went home. I kept going to the bathroom and finding "stuff" in my panties. Eventually I ran out of clean panties and borrowed my moms. She finally went in the bathroom and found the stash of soiled panties, examined them closely and asked me what happened. I told her I went swimming. She was mad, she had me sit on the toliet and wipe to confirm her suspions. And yup my first period. She had to tell me! Then the cramps kicked in big time and she gave me a shot of whiskey. She cried, she was happy and sad she said that I had cherry pit boobies and now my period and that she got to she me reach puberty. My sister didn't get her period until she was almost 18 and then she didn't tell my mom when she did. I never got to tell my mom about losing my virginity (and I would have and she would have wanted ever single detail) because she died when I was 13 from a brain tumor. It was the second brain tumor she had had the first one was one I was 4. I'm looking at Bugnesses post - I thinking "damn I'm not alone in this. So many women have lost their moms when they were young and didn't get to share pivotal life moments with them." I would gladly tell my mom anything and everything if she were alive and healthy today.
bugness bugness 10 years
I didn't get my period until I was 14, so it was a little strange, and my first intention wasn't to say anything, but somehow my mom just sensed it, asked for a confirmation, and announced it to my father. Yay. She passed away before I lost my virginity, but I always wonder if and how I would have told her. I never really had to TELL anyone, but most of my family assumes it since I've been dating the same guy for a year and a half, and I visit him every other weekend where we share his twin-sized bed.
JessNess JessNess 10 years
Im surprised with how many people wouldnt tell their moms about getting their period. Maybe because I grew up with an open mom who works in medicine things just were not weird to talk about. I remember when I started, I called my mom (she was at work) and told her. She told me where the products where and that was that
rubialala rubialala 10 years
When I got my period my mom was super supportive of any questions I had and understanding about all the stuff that goes along with it (cramps, mood swings, etc.). So that wasn't bad. We didn't talk about sex at our house at all when I was growing up. It just wasn't something that you did before you got married. So I never go "the talk" or anything. But I did have sex before I got married, and when I was engaged and my mom was helping me plan the wedding, we were driving to look at wedding dresses, she handed me a paper bag and said to open it later and that I might need this on my wedding night. I opened it later and it was a tube of K-Y! All I could do was laugh. I never mentioned it to her and she didn't bring it up again, and I am sure she just assumes that everything went "smoothly" that night!
bookgirl bookgirl 10 years
I was more embarassed about telling my mom about my period, but I was a very shy kid at the age of 12. I never really told my mom I lost my virginity (when I decided to do it I made an appt w/the gyno, got on the pill, and never told her about it) she just kind of assumed. Now she knows I have sex, and is alright with it.
popgoestheworld popgoestheworld 10 years
lol lickety! I was embarrassed about everything when I got my period. I think I was young, like 11 or something. When I had sex for the first time, I told my sister first, and she took care of telling my mom, even though I would have. And she actually told our next door neighbors also. I remember being pretty ticked about that.
katie225 katie225 10 years
i picked "other" because for me it's both. i cannot talk to my mother about anything. i can't even talk to her about love or anything like that. i just don't like having those sorts of conversations with my mom. it's not that i think she's some old-timey lady who has sensitive ears and will faint if she hears anything uncouth. she's the opposite: loud and obnoxious (wonder where i got it from?), and we just don't have that sort of relationship. she has that with my sister, though. go figure. i hid the pad wrappers in my nightstand drawer when i got my first period so that no one would know. lol
lickety-split lickety-split 10 years
my mother was all over me practically everyday about when i was going to get my period "you should have had it by now" "all your friends have had it for ages". so when i finally got it and told her she was like "i knew it! didn't i tell you you would start any minute! i said that yesterday didn't i!? yes you did. and the day before that, and the day before thast, etc. so telling her was horrible. i felt like she hung up the phone and made an anouncement in the breakroom at work. as for sex. my parents prefer to believe that i am still a virgin (yes i have 3 biological children).
designergirl designergirl 10 years
Telling my mom about my first period was awkward. My mom's super religious so we have an unspoken don't ask/ don't tell agreement when it comes to sex. I tell her everything else, though.
pinupsweetheart pinupsweetheart 10 years
I tell my mom almost everything - almost. I am very private when it comes to things like sex.
PrissyLilBadAss PrissyLilBadAss 10 years
Well I never had "the talk" with my mom, so I clearly didn't tell her when I lost my virginity. I wasn't embarassed at all to tell her about my first visit from Aunt Flo... so I guess that leaves me in the neither category?
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