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This or That: Whining or Gloating?

You and a friend have made a great duo for the past year while you’ve both been single. It’s been so nice to have someone to commiserate with over all the bad dates and giggle with after the great late nights. While you’re not opposed to finding a guy, you’re actually really happy with the way things have been lately. Unfortunately, after a night out a month ago, everything has been different with your friend. Would it be worse if…

This: She met a new guy and just won’t stop talking about how amazing he is and how perfect they are together? You’re happy for her, but now when you see her it’s more like she’s bragging then actually talking with you.


That: After getting turned down by a cute guy, she just won’t stop whining about how terrible her life is, and how she’s going to end up alone forever? You understand where she’s coming from, but her constant pity party is getting old and starting to bring you down too.

Which would be worse?


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injustica injustica 9 years
I've got a friend that complains constantly about being alone, and it's almost intolerable. Being in a relationship myself, it's hard for her to even talk about it because she knows it's not my situation. To be quite frank, although I know it's not very nice of me, I hate listening to her after two years of whining!
ninjastarlett ninjastarlett 9 years
I think the whining would be way worse because there seems to be no talking her out of it. If she's really excited about her new guy, she's allowed to be proud of her catch.
bigestivediscuit bigestivediscuit 9 years
I think I have more patience for gloating than whining. My friend constantly whines about her life in general (AND she just broke up with her bf) and whenever we get together she never, not once, asks about me but the entire conversation is dominated by how everything in her life "sucks." Uh, way to bring me down too. I don't really care if we talk about me or not in the long run, but don't go and piss on my parade!!!
aimeeb aimeeb 9 years
smp glad you agree! I had a friend who went on and on and on about her new guy and it had been maybe 2 weeks. I used to think to myself, how well can you really know him? She would talk insensately about him and how amazing he was and they were together and I couldn't ever get a word in edge wise. Needless to say my feeling was right and then didn't last long. I have no problem being happy for others but when it's always about how "amazing" you are and this guy it's like "'s not ALL about you..."
smp7328 smp7328 9 years
I'm with aimeeb. I hate it when people go on and on and on about how WONDERFUL their new relationships are. enough already!
avettafawna avettafawna 9 years
I voted that the whining would be worse, but I was really thinking about my male friends when I voted. I have a couple of straight guy friends who are just total sad sacks who get all weepy when women reject them. While its easy to talk a woman into perking up after rejection, men usually get really defensive and angry and even more hurt if say something to them, so mostly I have to bite my tongue and endure the whining.
MisterPinkNoTip MisterPinkNoTip 9 years
Ditto bengalspice.
duck-duck-goose duck-duck-goose 9 years
I enjoy sharing in good news, but willful gloating is deplorable.
aimeeb aimeeb 9 years
I don't mind when people are down, I can usually help most people find something positive to focus on... But when people go on and on about how "perfect" their life is gets really annoying especially when no matter what you try to talk about they always turn it around to talk about themselves. It especially peeves me when it's a very new relationship and they make it sound like they are soul mates, it's like uhhh you hardly know each other-people who do this annoy me.
Shopaholichunny Shopaholichunny 9 years
Whining is so much more worse. :OY:
JaimeLeah526 JaimeLeah526 9 years
Whining would be worse. At least if she's happy you'll have an easier time saying "now let's focus on finding a guy for me"
bengalspice bengalspice 9 years
I'm happy if she finds a guy, as long as the guy is good to her. I would rather not hear her complain about how terrible life is when she's got great friends to support her.
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