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Whoa! He Went For Fifth Base!

Dear Sugar
I've been dating this guy for about three months now and I really like him. We are intimate and it has been amazing so far, well, until the other night when without warning or asking me, he went straight for fifth base! I was horrified, not to mention in pain. Afterward, it was totally awkward between us. How can I talk to him about this without sounding prude? Back Doored Bella

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Dear Back Doored Bella
Wow, I am sure you were shocked (literally). Experimenting sexually should be mutual, not something that evolves through trial and error. Try bringing up the situation while you are snuggling on the couch or doing something non-sexually related.

Tell him that fifth base is something you don't enjoy and that you don't wish to further explore, but that you are definitely open to exploring other kinds of sexual ideas. This would be a great opportunity to exchange fantasies with each other! Good luck.

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