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Why Isn't My Diet Plan Working?

Why Isn't My Diet Plan Working?

Dear Sugar
I am 19 years old and weigh about 165 pounds. I'm not fat, but I'm not slim, and I'm having a hard time losing weight. I go to the gym regularly and eat healthy foods, but nothing seems to be working. I've never had a boyfriend and I feel that all the guys at my school don't think I am pretty because I'm not skinny. Can you help give me some weight loss tips? Dieting Daphne

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Dear Dieting Daphne
Go easy on yourself, ok. It sounds like you are doing a great job eating right and exercising. Accepting yourself for who you are, no matter how much you weigh, will boost your self esteem and will give the guys at your school a chance to see you for who you are inside, not just what they see on the outside. Staying healthy always does a body good, but remember, maintaining your goal weight will not happen overnight.

Choosing a healthy diet and hitting the gym regularly are the first steps to losing weight and leading a healthy lifestyle so keep up the good work. Every once in a while, remember to change your exercise patterns though. If your body isn't challenged, you won't see results.

Keep in mind that you should be doing at least 30 minutes of cardiovascular exercise at least three times a week to jump start your metabolism. Lifting weights in addition to a cardio workout will help you tone your body and to burn calories more efficiently.

Eating healthy is a very important component to slimming down. Stick to a high protein/low fat diet and don't forget to drink lots of water. Make sure to watch your portions too. Remember, you don't need to finish everything on your plate. When you go out with friends, skip out on the fried foods, heavy sweets, and sodas. Choose healthier options such as grilled meats and fruits and vegetables. Keep up the good work; soon you'll be swatting away the boys like flies!

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JessNess JessNess 10 years
I meant to type walking not working I also remembered something from my diet that helped my portion control. Use smaller plates it really helps
JessNess JessNess 10 years
Dieting Daphne I have been in that situation and still am in some ways. Im 5'10 and when I started college I weighed 185 lbs. I took advantage of my dorms free gym and started working out three times a week for at least 30 minutes. In terms of my diet, I ate what I always ate but in smaller portions and with a salad (mostly because I dont like a lot of veggies) I still ate things like chocolate but just downsized by portions. I also did a lot of working. By the end of the year I had lost about 20lbs and toned up. I am 19 and have never had a boyfriend either. When I was in my skinnier state during that year of college the attention I got from guys didnt change. During the summer I put some weight back on and lost my tone which was hard for me to handle. Im starting to work out again though. The thing to remember is if a guy is going to like you only because of your size then he is not the guy for you. Keep working out and eating right but do it for yourself for your health and nothing else. The right guy is going to come along one day. The most attractive thing you can have is confidence . I recently saw a card on post secret that I really liked it said: I'm 19 I've NEVER kissed a boy I've NEVER been on a date I've NEVER had a boyfriend I've NEVER been in love I've NEVER been loved Im still HAPPY
bluejeanie bluejeanie 10 years
i would hide the scale and take measurements on a weekly basis. unless you're a dancer or gymnast it doesn't matter what you weigh. :) i eat my veggies first always and then move on to carbs and protein. it's a good way to sneakily cut back on calories. and no pop! or soda, whatever you call it.
nycgirl nycgirl 10 years
My fiance is heavy, and I implemented a 'lifestyle change' for both of us, to help him get a handle on his weight. While he hasn't lost weight on diet alone, it's key to know that he hasn't gained weight either, which he steadily did prior to meeting me. I believe that if you combine this with a good workout schedule, which I have him on now, you'll be doing fine. 1. No white flour. This is the hardest and means, no cupcakes, no cookies, no pasta, and of course, no white bread. 2. No fried stuff. 3. No sugar. 4. No stuff that is obviously bad for you. So if you take those rules, doughnuts are like the holy grail of all things evil :) I allow for 'cheats' like real burger buns or pizza or ice cream a few times a month to keep ourselves sane. If you make your diet too harsh, you will never stick to it! And make rules for everything. I was so tickled to read that Britney Spears dropped all that weight by cutting out white flour and sweet treats! :)
BlondeSugar BlondeSugar 10 years
True, you should calculate your BMI>
rkdub rkdub 10 years
Also remember that muscle weighs more than fat. So the actual number doesn't matter much. You could start getting smaller but your weight will go up....
BlondeSugar BlondeSugar 10 years
I agree with DRchic. It could also be your thyriod.
DesignRchic DesignRchic 10 years
Have you considered going to a nutritionist or your primary care physician to ask questions and get help? There are medical conditions that can cause women to gain weight even if they work-out, and eat healthy (this has to do w/ insulin and hormone levels). You might want to consider looking into it medically.
Bunbunhun Bunbunhun 10 years
You don't say how tall you are - If you're anywhere around 5'9", you're probably close to the normal range, so be careful about how much you lose. One thing to try is writing down everything you eat. Even if you think you're eating healthy, you'd be amazed at how many little bites of things you may be taking in without realizing it. I know this is getting long, but my last piece of advise is to make sure that you're losing weight for yourself, not a potential boyfriend. The happier you are about yourself, the more you'll shine to others around you! :)
Cranberry Cranberry 10 years
This might sound silly, but be sure to get plenty of sleep. A stressed body tends to hold onto the weight. Also, remind yourself of all the non-weight loss perks of working out and eating right, like how good you feel and how much more energy you have. That will help you not get discouraged. Good luck!
My-Opinion My-Opinion 10 years
actually 'starving' yourself is the worst thing you can do, yeah you'll lose all that water weight but your organs will start deteriorating because there is no more stored fat that your body had to use as food...if you're not doing this for you, then you're doing it for the wrong reasons. Obviously you are really tall because you say you're not fat or skinny, me that sounds alot on the perfect side!! Being super skinny is ugly, you need some butt and boobs! for all of the people who say just be who you are, that is excellent advice., that is unless your midsection is much bigger than your top or bottom, that is very unhealthy and could cause heart problems. Good luck to ya, keep us informed how you're doing on this.
ishtar ishtar 10 years
I agree with DEAR. You have to accept yourself for who you are. People are built differently and it is possible that your natural size is what you are now. Also, if you have just started excercising and eating right, don't expect to see much of a difference. It takes a little time. Please don't try to hurry it up by starving yourself. Lasting weight loss comes from a slow and steady weight loss pace. However, if you don't see a difference after working out and eating right for a while, just know that you have built up muscle and are healthy and accept yourself for who you are. I know have probably heard it from your mother but true, worth-it guys that really like you and care about you can see past any imperfection you think you might have. While physical attraction may be the first thing that comes for some relationships, if you start out being friends, it can develop. Good luck with everything :)
My-Opinion My-Opinion 10 years
I'm not sure how often you go to the gym, a few times a week is good, change up your workout cause your body will get too use to the same ole thing.....anytime you reach for something to drink , choose water, every once in awhile when you eat out, ask the waiter/ress for a glass of ice water and a bowl of lemons and treat yourself to a yummy glass of lemonaide with only half of the lil sugar packet....(it's really good).. Breakfasts~ maybe 1 piece of wheat toast and a piece of gotta drop the coffee, choc. milk, ect.....or even some kind of bran flakes with skim milk. or some oatmeal or scrambled egg whites with 1 piece of toast. If you're at work and need a snack before lunch, make it some veggies or watermelon. Lunches....salad with a half of a turkey or chicken breast sandwich with lowfat mayo, and a slice of tomatoe....or tuna, fish broiled with 1/2 cup of steamed veggies. If you choose broccoli, choose the ones that have lots of purple on the top.. Dinner..something broiled, a salad (but not with all the drama), steamed veggies.....DON'T forget to workout!
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