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Women's Common Complaint: He Won't Perform Oral Sex

Women's Common Complaint: He Won't Perform Oral Sex

Certainly some of us are lucky enough to have a partner who's good at oral sex, but unfortunately that doesn't always means he's so inclined to do it. If that's the case, here are a few tips to get your man to pleasure you.

  • Ask for it. Be bold, take charge, and tell him exactly what you want. Say it in your own sweet way.
  • If you don't want to have to ask for it, place yourself in a position (literally) that communicates exactly what you want. Shift your body and his kisses appropriately to move him in the right direction.
  • You can even make it a little game by taking turns with one another or by incorporating oral sex into something new that you're experimenting with.
  • When it does happen, make sure that he knows how good he makes you feel. If he believes that he's good at it, he'll be more likely to want to do it in the future.

Ideally, it should be fun for both of you, so work together to come up with ways to make it more pleasurable for him. Got your own tips? Share them in the comments below.


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guys love giving it to me... & i love receiving it! as for the other way around, my bf is really the only man i've ever given it to. not to sound closed-minded but i always thought it was demeaning to women. not to mention the diseases. but now that i am with the love of my life, and i know he's clean, i don't mind giving it to him & it makes him happy that i do it
weffie weffie 7 years
I can't believe so many of you don't like it! I can't imagine... My bf loves to give and get, I prefer the receiving end but obviously I return the favour! I can't believe anyone could find it gross when it's so so good lol... Crazy! I think kissing is for everywhere :)
jelizabeth jelizabeth 8 years
I guess it depends on the guy's confidence!
litlekelly28 litlekelly28 8 years
"whistle through the wheatfield" I agree..LMAO..
SuzyQ08 SuzyQ08 9 years
Love to give and love to receive. :)
darkangel2305 darkangel2305 9 years
I agree with RaCheer & Janine22. How do you NOT like *good* oral sex? Bad oral sex can be gross yes (ugh dotn remind me), but otherwise I dont get it...
Beaner Beaner 9 years
I much rather prefer giving than receiving...
Janine22 Janine22 9 years
I don't understand all of the women here who say they don't like receiving it. I think either you have been with a guy that doesn't know what the hell he is doing (in which you need to gently teach him), or you are ashamed of your body. There is nothing disgusting about it. Men can become very aroused by doing this and by the scent of a woman. Either way, you should try to relax and enjoy it more. It can be absolutely amazing. After all, many women don't orgasm just from intercourse, we should be able to receive pleasure in other ways!
socialitebabe socialitebabe 9 years
hehheh...Im a lucky girl. My bf loves to give it. I love the feel of it. We try to 69 it so be both can pleasure eachother.
AKirstin AKirstin 9 years
I would not stay with a man if he couldn't offer me everything I need and want in bed. I don't see a relationship working out if I'm sexually unfulfilled. Sorry dude. lol
RaCheer RaCheer 9 years
Ya'll are crazy! How can you possibly not like getting oral sex?!?! My boyfriend is MMMazing at it and he loves to do it. He begs to do it and I have no problem asking when I want it!
Silverlining10 Silverlining10 9 years
I love giving it, and he complains when a week has gone by and I haven't given him some. In my defense, I only see him twice a week!! He loves giving it, but sometimes, it's a minute before we're walking out the door to eat, and I'm sorry, but I probably haven't eaten in twelve hours. I want FOOD! Of course, I won't mind taking up his offer later, though! Sometimes, I just give-in and receive the lovin' before the food, too.
heineken67 heineken67 9 years
I have the opposite problem: he'd love to give but I don't like to receive. Ick.
ForeverMeg ForeverMeg 9 years
Sporky and I are one and the same!
opisnowpro opisnowpro 9 years
I like to give it and my husband loves it (when its not smelly) and he likes to give it to me but I dont always want it...
MeDestruit MeDestruit 9 years
I didn't suggest that the women who aren't receiving are unclean, you have the wrong idea kenzie.. all i said was that it may be the reason why some men aren't as inclined and interested in doing it because of previous bad experiences. I've have many male friends, and over the years it seems to be a recurring story. All you have to do is show your S.O that it's not the case with you, and likely he'll be more inclined in giving : )
kenziebaby kenziebaby 9 years
i think it may make people --ahem, like me-- feel bad if you infer that women who don't get a lot of oral action are unclean. if anything, not getting much as increased my already ocd attitude towards my personal hygiene.
meggiemegs meggiemegs 9 years
I was with a guy for 3 years who never once went down on me, but he would seriously get mad at me for not wanting to do it to him. Rationale in that? But now bf will do it and I seriously enjoy it.
the-makeup-blogette the-makeup-blogette 9 years
i am not a fan of getting oral sex....
Sporky Sporky 9 years
MeDestruit - that's sound advice, my bf said a few years ago he went out with a girl and he described her smell as "seafood salad" and that turned him off from going down on a girl for a long time Same goes for a guy though, keeping clean down there is important for them as well, nothing worse than a cheesy weenie
ninjastarlett ninjastarlett 9 years
offer 69?
jillerin457 jillerin457 9 years
It's funny when a guy hates to give, but totally expects to receive. Where do they come up with this stuff?! Fortunately, my bf and I seem to be pretty good about reciprocating, and I don't need it all the time anyway.
dkaufmann125 dkaufmann125 9 years
Ugh, I totally hate it, yet my boyfriend would love to do it. I just think its gross.
TidalWave TidalWave 9 years
I love giving it as does he, so I guess it works out. I thought that I didn't like it but come to find out, none of the guys I was with knew what they were doing. Once a found a guy who really could use his tongue down there, mmmmmmmmmmm good stuff!
MeDestruit MeDestruit 9 years
Generally I've found through my male friends and past and present realtionships is that a guy isn't entirely opened to the idea after a traumatic experiance. Now, I don't want to speak for everybody, but what I've learned is that usually somewhere in your guy's past, he eagerly went down on a girl, only to find out it's not so fresh down there. Once, twice.. who knows how many times he's encountered that, and soon enough you all hear the answers "I just don't like it.." well ladies, for a start, why not suggest taking a shower together prior to hooking up, that way your S.O will be sure everything is fresh and clean down there and be more inclined to do it next time. I'm not saying you girls aren't clean, all I'm trying to convey is that a little effort on your part to show him HOW CLEAN you are, can do wonders ; ) I am very OCD about making sure that the day my BF and I get together I am as clean and fresh and smelling like flowers as possible, and my BF loves doing it, but I'm just not a big fan so I usually stop him mid-way and move on. Before me though, he's told me he also had a bad experiance and is very cautious before he goes down on a girl.
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