If you have a difficult time reaching an orgasm solely through intercourse, then you're not alone. Seventy percent of women need special attention paid to their clitoris in order to achieve an orgasm. Logistically speaking, the motion of sex doesn't really provide the direct contact women need, so many women can be left pretty unsatisfied. If sex is consistently mediocre, then you won't be very excited about doing it. But don't give up! It's all about patience and creativity, so start with some of my ideas.
- Slow down. While it's nice to rip each other's clothes off and go at it, a woman needs to be warmed up. Spend some extra time on foreplay. Kiss each other all over, let your hands wander all over each other's clothed bodies, and then slowly take turns undressing each other. The anticipation of what's to come is sure to build up excitement.
- Since you know that intercourse is a guaranteed party pleaser for your man, let the focus be on you in the beginning. Have him pleasure you with his hands, his mouth, his words, or a vibrator — whatever gets you aroused. Make sure you reach orgasm before you move on to intercourse. That way you'll have your turn, and he'll have his, and you can both really enjoy yourselves.
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- If you need both clitoral and vaginal stimulation, then one of you will have to make it happen. Since men are doing a lot of the work when it comes to intercourse, it may be difficult for him to do two things at once. So while you're having sex, you can use your hand to pleasure yourself, and he can focus on the rest.
- If you don't want to use your hands, pick up a vibrating ring. It's a little flexible ring that has a vibrator attached. The ring goes around the base of the man's penis, and the vibrator is on top, giving you 20 minutes of stimulation right where you need it.