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Women's Common Complaint: Intercourse Doesn't Do It For Me

Women's Common Complaint: Intercourse Doesn't Do It For Me

If you have a difficult time reaching an orgasm solely through intercourse, then you're not alone. Seventy percent of women need special attention paid to their clitoris in order to achieve an orgasm. Logistically speaking, the motion of sex doesn't really provide the direct contact women need, so many women can be left pretty unsatisfied. If sex is consistently mediocre, then you won't be very excited about doing it. But don't give up! It's all about patience and creativity, so start with some of my ideas.

  • Slow down. While it's nice to rip each other's clothes off and go at it, a woman needs to be warmed up. Spend some extra time on foreplay. Kiss each other all over, let your hands wander all over each other's clothed bodies, and then slowly take turns undressing each other. The anticipation of what's to come is sure to build up excitement.
  • Since you know that intercourse is a guaranteed party pleaser for your man, let the focus be on you in the beginning. Have him pleasure you with his hands, his mouth, his words, or a vibrator — whatever gets you aroused. Make sure you reach orgasm before you move on to intercourse. That way you'll have your turn, and he'll have his, and you can both really enjoy yourselves.

Two more tips, so


  • If you need both clitoral and vaginal stimulation, then one of you will have to make it happen. Since men are doing a lot of the work when it comes to intercourse, it may be difficult for him to do two things at once. So while you're having sex, you can use your hand to pleasure yourself, and he can focus on the rest.
  • If you don't want to use your hands, pick up a vibrating ring. It's a little flexible ring that has a vibrator attached. The ring goes around the base of the man's penis, and the vibrator is on top, giving you 20 minutes of stimulation right where you need it.


alexask alexask 9 years
yay i'm not alone. i wish he would have once come across the definition of foreplay. guess it's up to me to reveal it
JaimeLeah526 JaimeLeah526 9 years
I usually don't have this problem but I can just finish myself off after if I didn't get off. The ring is incredible for me but my guy doesn't like it as much so it's not an every day part of our repertoire.
sparklestar sparklestar 9 years
Yep, the ring! I have one but haven't needed to use it yet. Just be pro-active in the bedroom, that's all. ;p
karlotta karlotta 9 years
My guy spends so much time taking care of me before going in (and I return the favor!) that we usually climax exactly at the same time, within a minute! LOL. So that's what I'd advise - drive yourselves up the wall and only get to the serious stuff when you've almost reached orgasm manually or orally a dozen times. Sure works here!
tomatoshirt tomatoshirt 9 years
I think this post should be in GQ mag instead of here.
FoxyJo FoxyJo 9 years
I bought the ring at a pleasure party and the first time we used it the sensation was amazing! But we ALWAYS forget now that we have it! LoL!! Gonna have to bust the bad boy out again soon! ;)
RaCheer RaCheer 9 years
The ring was too tight on my b/ cut off his circulation and we had a hard time getting it off. It's also hard to maintain a constant sensation from it because of the angle. I don't was just complicated!
Beaner Beaner 9 years
Take my advice. Get the ring. I wouldn't use it everytime because it wouldn't be as fun, but every once in a while, def!
SusanTeufel SusanTeufel 9 years
Also, the Hitatchi Wand or Adam and Eve's Magic Massager are really nice vibes if you like a lot of power, plus, they don't run out of batteries because they plug in.
SusanTeufel SusanTeufel 9 years
Make sure you get a good one, the ring is amazing, but some of the cheaper ones don't last very long or aren't that strong. Adam and Eve has nice ones, or for ones that are disposable, Trojan and a few others are good aswell. I'm a fan of the ring, my fiance says it feels nice for him too.
zabrow zabrow 9 years
tried the ring before & it didn't do much for me. :/
Sporky Sporky 9 years
I'm dying to try the ring too.
cordata cordata 9 years
lol - lucky you, txcowgrl! I still don't know how to get it right
txcowgrl077 txcowgrl077 9 years
I am the complete opposite! I cannot unless its through sex.
gigill gigill 9 years
Gonna try the ring, and we definitely do tip #2!
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