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How Have Your Attitudes About Sex Changed With Age?

Between sex ed and peer pressure, many of our ideas about sex when we're young aren't our own. But as we get older and wiser, we have a chance to develop more authentic attitudes. Maybe we learn that we enjoy casual safe sex when we're single, try things in the bedroom we never thought we would, or become totally OK with dry spells that last a good portion of a year.

According to a new Men's Health survey, by the time we're 40, more of us are willing to have sex on the first date. While 17 percent of women in their 20s say they'd have sex up front, the number almost doubles to 29 percent of women in their 40s.

The data, the magazine claims, suggests that women become more adventurous overall with age. In addition to throwing sexual inhibitions to the wind on the first date, they're also more likely to have used a blindfold or have had one or more orgasms during recent sex.

Now I'm curious, how has your approach to sex changed with age?

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Venus1 Venus1 6 years
For starters when I was younger I thought I was straight, when I hit my 30s I realised my bi-sexuality so the answer has to be yes! Aside from that (and that is pretty major!) my attitudes have changed a little. My first ever time with a boy/man was with a good friend as opposed to someone I thought I was deeply in love with and that really helped me as I was never let down by different expectations. Maybe it's time to re-visit my "On a First Date" poll back from September 2010. I think the most important thing though is not to be judgemental of others.
amber512 amber512 6 years
I don't think I have experienced anything for it to have changed. I wanted to wait until after I was married, and I did. And I'm still married. So no changes for me yet.
looseseal looseseal 6 years
Funny this should come up after I just saw, on The Daily Show, that story about seniors spreading STDs because they have a lot of unprotected sex. Obviously birth control is no longer a concern if you're past menopause, and even deadly diseases like AIDS would not seem as scary when you're already close to kicking the bucket from good old fashioned old age. I would imagine herpes would still be unpleasant, however. But maybe genital warts would only seem a minor annoyance next to all the health issues the elderly have to deal with like achey joints and whatnot. As for people in their 40s... Wasn't there some study that said it's common for women's libido to reach its peak around that age? That could be a contributing factor. That and people likely had more sex at that point, possibly already been through pregnancies and picked up a couple of STDs, so it follows that none of this would seem like as big of a deal anymore. It all makes sense if you think about it. People are so worried about the teens having sex, but teens are probably the most hesitant age group when it comes to sex because it's still scary and unknown. Even though our expectation are skewed by TV and movies telling us teens have all the sex and old people don't have any, in real life the opposite might just be true ;P
Bettye-Wayne Bettye-Wayne 6 years
I usually wait about a month, I've tried jumping into bed right away and I've tried holding out as long as possible and neither of those worked for me. I don't expect that to change but I'm only in my mid 20s. Who knows what the future holds. I have one friend who took her time getting to know a man before sex but once she hit her mid 30s she decided she was never going to get married and now she gets it when she can. She's happy and I guess I see the logic behind that.
Jake2010 Jake2010 6 years
I can totally understand how the attitude towards sex changes and becomes more liberal as we age.... the real question is why?? I know life is too short... but are we more prone to jump into bed faster because at 40 and over..... life is even shorter??? Just asking.... :)
dexaholic dexaholic 6 years
I think your attitude sex has to change as you get older. Your morals and values can remain the same, but as we age, and with everything else in life, we are exposed to more, and the more we are exposed to, the more we grow. Imagine if sex was as lack-lustre as the first or second time you had it... we'd all have a pretty extensive hand-knit doily collection!
Pistil Pistil 6 years
That's nice to hear, because I still have my hang ups. But I haven't had a lot of age to change with yet.
lickety-split lickety-split 6 years
Yeah, I have a "if not now, when"'attitude. Sex on a first date would still be a "no" because I wouldn't trust the person. But once the trust was established: let's get this party started.
trinitycc trinitycc 6 years
Yeah, if I were single and dating, I would do more now than when I was in my 20's, (I'm 48). The body phobia's I had back then are so silly now. I definitely enjoy myself more now.
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