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Would You Bring a Girlfriend to a Wedding?

One of my single girlfriends, let's call her Francesca, is in a bind. Francesca was invited, with a guest, to a wedding that is happening this weekend. The bride allowed for a plus one because she knew there wouldn't be too many single guys at the wedding.

Francesca RSVP'd saying she would bring a guest, figuring she would invite either a love interest or a guy friend. Since then, she has dated two different guys, but things didn't work out with either of them. Francesca has gone through her pool of guy friends, but no one is available! She's thinking of bringing a girlfriend. Would you do that?

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lilxmissxmolly lilxmissxmolly 8 years
I would bring my little sister - can't go wrong with a cute kid :) Funny story - my aunt (only about 8 years older than me) was invited to a wedding and had just broken up with her boyfriend. She asked me if I wanted to go.At the time, I was in my low-teens and still had braces. Sitting at a table with her boss, he asked me, "So, How did you two meet?" I was like, "Um, she's my aunt." So awkward- apparently he thought my aunt was a lesbian pedophile.
bbrimacombe bbrimacombe 8 years
This past February, I was a plus 1 for a female friend. Her boyfriend had decided that they needed a break about a week before the wedding so she asked me to go with her. People would come up to me and ask me if it was the bride or the groom that I knew. And my answer was neither!
kulikuli kulikuli 8 years
Even if the meal hadn't been paid for yet, the initial invitation is for +1, period. 1 person of your choice, friend guy or girl, gay or straight whatever. People need to get over gender roles in this day in age! If i get an invite, i don't really date, so i'd never think to invite a guy, i'd invite my sister or girlfriend so i had company. Going alone would be awkward too if you didn't know a lot of people. People need to get over themselves and their sexist ideals or don't invite anyone to your wedding at all.
dleighl dleighl 8 years
I usually bring a girlfriend since my husband hates weddings and I'd rather not go than go alone.
mandaleebee mandaleebee 8 years
I say yes, but only if you run it by the bride first. If she has a problem with it, go solo!
TheEnchantedOne TheEnchantedOne 8 years
You've already RSVPd, if I'm the one getting married and you turn up alone I'd be pissed. I already paid for that plus one, I've arranged the seats. That's why it's a plus 1, there's no name or gender specification there, just + 1, I invited you and I just want you to be comfortable so you can bring a friend and celebrate this special moment with me. If I wanted you to bring a specific someone, I would've put his name on the invite. :)
clareberrys clareberrys 8 years
Yeah, I agree that if you invite someone with and "and guest" at the end then they can bring whomever theyd like! You arent saying to your female friends "mary and MALE guest" you are just saying a guest as in someone to accompany them to the wedding regardless of who that person may be (unless of course they are someone that wasnt invited to your wedding that you would not want there)
dm8bri dm8bri 8 years
If you're a bride inviting guests with a +1 you kind of have to be open to the fact that they are going to bring whomever they see fit. If I was a bride and all of my friends brought girlfriends, I would be all the happier for it because I would know they were having a great time with the person they felt most comfortable around. As a guest wanting to bring a female friend rather than a significant other, I would be careful that it wasn't a mutual acquaintance the bride hadn't invited in the first place for a reason. Otherwise, who cares about gender and titles??
Advah Advah 8 years
Bella - blergh sorry to hear about the crutches! :( I'd say "heck yes" (agreed that bringing a date to a wedding can be very meaningful, if not for you for the other person), but I guess it depends on how formal the wedding is. I know that I'd have WAY more fun bringing my best friend with me than someone I'd been dating for a few months only - and if I'm close to the bridge and groom, I'd rather have my best friend share their happy day than a date.
jazzytummy jazzytummy 8 years
Who cares what gender your plus 1 is? What, you have to go with some replacement guy when you would have better company in a good friend? Gimme a break. If a bride is going to be "upset" because my plus 1 isn't a guy, that's probably not the kind of chick I would be friends with in the first place.
b1uebunn b1uebunn 8 years
Yeah, this is ridiculous. If the guest has a +1, they can bring whomever the like. I wouldn't be friends with a couple who was really that weird about it. And at my wedding, we had people who weren't given a +1 just bring someone anyway. Roll with the punches, people.
suziryder suziryder 8 years
I think if the invitation was for a +1, then the guest gets to bring a +1, regardless of the sex of that person. And I really don't see why people would have a problem with that. You invited them to bring a guest, they get to bring a guest. Period. Anyway, if the RSVP is already in, and the tally has already been given to the caterer etc, it'd be better for the bride to have someone eating that meal than to have an empty seat because the person's +1 wasn't the right gender. I think it's awfully bridezilla of her to say "you can bring single males but NO FEMALE FRIENDS RAAAAH"
chloe-bella chloe-bella 8 years
I don't see why it would be ok for someone to bring a guy who is "just a friend" but not a girlfriend. First, if the bride cares *that* much she would probably invite you without a guest to begin with. Second, I agree that it's WAY worse to RSVP that you're bringing a guest and then show up without one to where you're just flat out wasting the bride's money.
hlj504 hlj504 8 years
I accompanied a friend to a wedding once! Her boyfriend found out about a week prior to the wedding (which was on a Friday evening) that he was going to have to work late, so I went with her. And we had an awesome time! :)
kia kia 8 years
I think the biggest factor here is the kind of friends you keep. It is a judgment call if bringing a female friend would upset/offend the marrying couple.
tarabara1229 tarabara1229 8 years
This just happened to me last night. My friend RSVP'd for a wedding with a plus one before she and her boyfriend split. She asked the groom if she could bring me instead, and he was totally fine with it. We had a great time! I agree with care0531- If I ever get married, I wouldn't be opposed either. You're already paying for the meal, so I don't see the problem.
TidalWave TidalWave 8 years
BellaSugar has some great friends. I lol'd at "helper" :)
care0531 care0531 8 years
I don't see a problem with it at all. To be honest when I had my wedding we had to turn our RSVP's in and we already had paid for it at that point. So I wish that some of my friends that ended up dateless had brought a friend since the meal was already paid for! You want your friends to enjoy themselves too and not be bored at your party.
elizabelle elizabelle 8 years
I taken my sister as a guest to a wedding before and gone by myself or with a male friend. I don't see what the issue is. At our wedding, I encouraged one of my female friends to bring another female friend as her guest. it was great :)
Yogaforlife Yogaforlife 8 years
I would have no problem with taking a female as my date if I had a breakup or the man could not go for any reason. That being said, if you feel that uncomfortable about taking a female and are worried, talk to the bride. Usually the bride has to turn in a final headcount to the caterer a week or two before the wedding (I had to 2 weeks before) and if you talk with her before that period, you may not have to worry about finding a date since she can just reduce the headcount by one (if you're comfortable going alone) and that way you don't have to feel guilty about her paying for a plus-one.
Beauty Beauty 8 years
Spacekatgal, yep. Hobbling is so sexy. ;)
Ac2366 Ac2366 8 years
If I already RSVPed that I was bringing a guest and my love interest fell through then I would bring a girl friend if that was my only option.
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 8 years
I would be open to bringing a female friend. I had a friend who brought her sister as her plus one to a wedding. She and her sister are best friends. No one had a problem with it.
Angelica Angelica 8 years
I think it's fine to bring a female friend if you were invited with a plus one. Inviting a date to a wedding — especially one that involves travel — can feel like a huge commitment at the beginning of a relationship. I went to wedding this summer and brought one of my best friends and we had a great time. I cleared it with the bride first, but she was completely understanding that I wanted a partner in crime. I'm not sure I would have traveled alone and having a friend ensured I could share the special date and still feel comfortable.
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