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Would You Call Your Future Mother-in-Law "Mom?"

Would You Call Your Future Mother-in-Law "Mom?"


My good friend is getting married in a few weeks, and she came to me with a bit of a predicament. She was talking to her mother-in-law about some last minute wedding details, and when they said their goodbyes, her mother-in-law said, "Oh honey, you'll be married soon, you can call me "mom!!" My friend didn't know what to say, since she wasn't planning on ever calling her mom, so to avoid the situation, she said, "uh, ok, bye."

So, what would you do in this situation? Would you call your mother-in-law Mom?

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dani17731 dani17731 7 years
I don't understand why anyone WOULD call their MIL mom. Unless your own mother has passed away and you're really looking for a mother figure, call her by her first name.
Green Green 9 years
nah- I'll pass, I don't even call my mother "mom" if I call her that it'll just start a fight!
MamaD MamaD 9 years
Part of the way I always expressed my love and affection for my parents was by calling them Mom & Dad. Since no one else could ever evoke the love and admiration I feel for them, those names are only reserved for them. I feel as adults there are other alternative names for the in-laws. I have a friend from the south who calls her mother in law Miss Helen. It's a little more respectful than just the first name alone.
zc zc 9 years
if it meant alot to her, id think about it, but id prefer not too-just seems too wierd and hurtful and insensitive to my mom
Ambush Ambush 9 years
This is a funny topic! I would never call my mother in law 'mom' even if she prefers it. I have only 1 mom and I think no matter what it will be disrespectful to my mom... My mother in law wants me to call her by her name, and she writes on cards sometimes 'your other mother' and that is fine with me!
reeeeka reeeeka 9 years
I think it depends on your relationship with your mother-in-law. I adore mine, she's a great woman/mother/grandmother/person...and I call her mum whenever I speak about her. I'm American so my MOM is my boyfriend is English so my boyfriends MUM is my MUM. I think if I didn't like her and visa-versa then I'd probably just call her by her name... BUT I LOVE/ADORE HER! so she's MUM
sdsunshine2119 sdsunshine2119 9 years
Yes. It's a good thing that this woman openly accepts her daughter-in-law to be, she could have been stuck with in-laws from hell. And who wouldn't want two moms?! Double the unconditional love, I say!
sugarbox sugarbox 9 years
no no no! i dont know why, but i find it odd, very odd to do so. i've got one mom. however, if you're comfortable with it i suppose its ok as a casual type of thing. i still find it weird though. something about it is not right...
Lyv Lyv 9 years
Nooo, I feel like I'd be betraying my mom or something, haha.
partysugar partysugar 9 years
I've got 1 mom.
sweet-k sweet-k 9 years
hell no.
mizz_jennii mizz_jennii 9 years
I'm engaged [ not even close to being married, heck we don't even have a date set yet ] and I still call his mother "mom" and always will. :)
divalicious23 divalicious23 9 years
no way..mother in laws aren't your mum. If you're truly happy with yours then you are one lucky lady! I don't know anyone who trust their mother in law completely. Mine is very judgmental and can be really bossy. Do i trust her. NO freaking way. But do i respect her. Absolutely. I respect her because she's my husband mum but she is not my mum. My mum was a very classy lady but his mum is down to earth and sorry not classy. She's a lovely lady but she smokes and drinks a lot. She thinks she's right on every single conversation so everybody stays clear when she's drinking. Thanks god my mum wasn't like that :)
books-and-shoes books-and-shoes 9 years
I call my in-laws "mom" and "dad". If they asked, there is no way I would deny them that request. In my culture, yes it would be rude. I also call my stepmom "mom" because I was forced to by my dad years ago, but now she really is like a mom to me, even though there is no one like my one true mom.
amanda02215 amanda02215 9 years
I used to call my ex's mother mom... we were together for 5 years and I was extremely close to his family. She never asked me to call her that, but she was so warm and sweet, it just seemed natural. Even though her son and I have broken up, if I need a 'mom' talk and mine isn't around, she's the next person I call. I could never imagine calling my current boyfriends mother mom. She just isn't as warm and doesn't seem as cuddly and mother-y to me.
sway- sway- 9 years
i call mine Mary. i never have understood how you make that transition anyway-one day she is "Mary" and the next she is "Mom". I had seen her on at least a weekly basis for at least 4 years before we married though, so it would have been wierd to me-to make that transition.
runnergeek runnergeek 9 years
i couldn't do it (calling her mom). i already have one, don't need another one.
ALSW ALSW 9 years
My Mom is my Mom and she's my one and only. But I have trouble calling my MIL by her first name because it's also my mother's name! So I'm still working on it.
elizabethsosewn elizabethsosewn 9 years
I agree with Demeter. i wold feel extremely uncomfortable calling my boyfriend's mother "Mom." right now i just call her Stephanie, since that is her name. Also. I don't real like her parenting, or habits. So that definitely plays a part in me not being close enough with her to call her Mom. I mean, If I didn't come out of your nether regions, then you AREN'T my mother. you're my mother in law or whatever.
melda melda 9 years
and mother in law never calls her daughter in law by name they call us "gelin" that means bride
melda melda 9 years
oh and in my country brids call their mother in law " Aunt"
stefsprl stefsprl 9 years
I had never really thought about this, but when my husband and I got married my MIL made a big deal out of me "deciding" what I was going to call her...she gave me all these options and explained that she felt it was really awkward when she got married because she didn't know what to call her MIL. I guess she didn't want me to feel that same awkwardness...I just call her by her first name, and we're all fine with it. I have a mom, and even though we're not super close, she's still my mom, and my MIL isn't.
melda melda 9 years
i dont like her lol i wont call her mom! never
demeter demeter 9 years
Unless we were incredibly close, I would never.
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