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Would You Go on Vacation With a New Love Interest?

One of my friends has been going out with this really fun guy for about a month now. They met through mutual friends and seem to have a lot in common.

Well now this guy has invited her to go along on a trip he has planned to Thailand with his best friend. My friend has been wanting to take a relaxing vacation, but hasn't been able to get friends on board. She sees this invitation as a great chance to explore a new part of the world, but she can't help but worry about making international travel plans with someone she's still only casually dating. Would you do it?

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sparklestar sparklestar 8 years
Definitely not for a trip like this. It was planned between him and his best friend and she'd just be the third wheel.
MissSushi MissSushi 8 years
I have to say that's a pretty stupid comment, Fit. She's only been dating him a month, and at that point you just don't know enough about people. It's more about safety for a good portion of the people leaving comments then it is about not wanting to go with them. This is a foreign country with someone you just don't know. You don't know how prepared they will be, the state of their finances, how well they handle stressful and panicky situations, etc. There are so many variables that make it incredibly dangerous to just hop off to Thailand with someone you've barely known 4 weeks.
Fitness Fitness 8 years
If you don't want to take a vacation or trip with the person, then you probably shouldn't be dating them.
sugajen sugajen 8 years
Heck yes!!! adventure baby (unless he seemed untrustworthy)
bchicgrl bchicgrl 8 years
I wouldn't go on vacation with a guy I have only been dating for a month. That is a little to soon for me to spend that much 1 on 1 time. For myself that would be a kiss of death for the relationship.
mix-tape mix-tape 8 years
I wouldn't personally, but I can see more adventurous and trusting people having a lot of fun with this. I wouldn't mind a weekend road trip somewhere though. You can really get to know a person this way, but maybe too soon?
AlexisSF AlexisSF 8 years
a trip, yes, but maybe not to a foreign country!
Home Home 8 years
My second date with a guy was going on a four-day snowboarding trip in Utah with him and his high school friends and their spouses. It was an amazing trip, and that guy is now my husband. You just have to trust your instincts on the person in question!
Chrstne Chrstne 8 years
Going on a vacation with someone I barely know is just not my thing. I appreciate getting to know new people, but there are certainly other ways of doing it as well. In this case, this is a guy she is casually dating, which means to me that she has seen him, been on dates with him more than just one or two times. I guess it would be fine, there's nothing wrong hanging out as a pseudo-couple or as just friends.
totygoliguez totygoliguez 8 years
I don't think I would vacation with someone I just met. You never know who he really is, and what he could do to you. I'm very crime conscious.
tarabara1229 tarabara1229 8 years
I might not go in this situation since I'd hate to be a third wheel, but I would definitely go on a vacation with a new love interest if it was just the two of us or a bigger group, like leslie says.
nancita nancita 8 years
I have done it several times! And I've never regretted it. When you are single it's often hard to find people to travel with and sometimes, when the opportunity arises, it's hard to resist. Plus it's a great way to get to know someone, and if you don't get along, you can always turn it into a solo vacay instead.
Beauty Beauty 8 years
Earlier this year, I went to Spain with a man I'd met only three times. It was super-great and now I'm hopelessly smitten. I don't think I would have done it if he weren't a friend of a friend, though — just some dude I'd known for a month, no way.
hlj504 hlj504 8 years
I've done's fun! But I tend to be very impulsive, so.... And it may not be right for everyone...and Thailand is quite far.
Chouette4u Chouette4u 8 years
Has your friend seen Bridget Jones: The Edge of Reason?? I would be OK with some domestic traveling, but going to Thailand with someone you barely know (and his friend) sounds like bad news.
Fashion Fashion 8 years
Stick with doing something not so far - like a camping weekend. I've been to Thailand and it's very foreign and fun - better to go with a best friend. It's too early, make him earn you as a travel buddy. ;)
MissSushi MissSushi 8 years
I probably wouldn't both becuase its a preplanned trip and because its a foreign country with someone you don't really know. Maybe if you were bringing along a friend or so of your own, but I just don't think id accept.
leslievanhouten leslievanhouten 8 years
Since this is an existing trip the boy has already planned with his best friend, I say no. If I was the best friend, I'd be annoyed. Seriously. If it was a group trip (3 or 4 other people) or just the two of them, I'd say yes
mamasitamalita mamasitamalita 8 years
why not?? my girlfriend/coworker took her new man on a 5 day trip for her birthday to Hawaii, and they're moving in together now. I think its adventurous. I'd be super neurotic about telling people where I was going etc. to make sure I was keeping in touch and that people would/could keep track of me to ensure my safety, but I say why not? what better way to get to know someone and really connect?
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