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Would You Propose?

This wedding season, it's one thing to worry about how to respond when a proposal is in public or (cringe) on cupcakes, but what if you had to worry about doing the proposing yourself?While some women may find it a matrimonial tradition that can't be broken, others may see it as another "men only" duty that should be more inclusive. I wonder, if your dating relationship is one in which the guy calls all the shots, are you less likely to get down on one knee? And if you are planning on or hoping to do the asking, is it because he's dragging his feet? Or is it something else?

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Anneleah Anneleah 7 years
I wouldn't propose! If he likes me, he'll marry me.. On the other side girls should use the Rules of Attraction: How To Get The Guy.. Maybe that's what were missing!
sparklestar sparklestar 7 years
I'd never propose! I need to make sure he's ready for marriage, and not just me. I know he is but I can't wait to see how he proposes. :) We've discussed it & have even set a date. He just needs to get the money together once I'm working & job done.
spanishgirl69 spanishgirl69 7 years
a proposal would not be ideal for me, a mutual agreement sounds more romantic and intimate. and i dont care for a wedding either
Kellanawida Kellanawida 7 years
I wouldn't. I think my boyfriend would be upset and take it very personally.
Miss-Senorita Miss-Senorita 7 years
No way my bf would prob get a lil mad.
LittleMzFit LittleMzFit 7 years
No. It's not because of tradition, either. I just want to know that he thinks enough of me to ask.
Daisy-Doe Daisy-Doe 7 years
He beat me to it :P Plus, I liked it that way. But I think I would have done it myself if he took too long to do it haha!
medenginer medenginer 7 years
Never.
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 7 years
Personally, no. When it comes to a formal proposal, I prefer the man to do it. However, like Pistil, I'm okay with some sort of discussion to express mutual agreement PRIOR to the actual proposal. But when it comes to the actual proposal, I prefer the man to take the lead. Again, it's just a matter of personal preference. Incidentally, this is how my husband and I went about it.
Pistil Pistil 7 years
I imagine my engagement to be a mutual agreement between the both of us. I don't like surprises. If the discussion doesn't come up soon though, I will have a proposal: elope.
snarkypants snarkypants 7 years
he'd have to do it in order for me to believe that somebody actually wants to marry my crazy @ss :P
Lyv Lyv 7 years
Don't think I would. Not because I strive to be traditional (ew), but it's just common sense - more often than not, girls will be ready for marriage before the guy so if he hasn't proposed, he's probably not in that place yet! You don't wanna sound pushy - whether you're a guy or a girl. Marriage is really just one fancy party and some legal perks. If you really love someone you shouldn't be in a rush to prove it to the rest of the world, in my opinion.
HoneyBrown1976 HoneyBrown1976 7 years
No, I was too traditional. I left that for my husband to do.
tlsgirl tlsgirl 7 years
My wedding won't be traditional at all, and for the most part I'm not very traditional, but that's one thing I don't want to give up.
lawchick lawchick 7 years
I guess I kinda did... I would have liked a romantic proposal and nice ring. But my husband was in school and couldn't afford a nice ring and would've rather waited to get married until he could afford one (solely for that reason). I decided I'd rather go on and get married w/o a ring rather than wait two more years. I convinced him I was serious about this over dinner one night and we decided to go on and get married. It wouldn't have happened that way if I hadn't instigated it, so I guess I kinda did propose :)
stellaRuby stellaRuby 7 years
I did.
cfp cfp 7 years
I wouldn't do it, either. My bf is also extremely traditional and I think he wouldn't take me seriously if I did and he'd probably feel emasculated. In general, I also think that women tend to be "ready for marriage" before their boyfriends. Like Tres said, "he's dragging his feet." I think if that's really the case it's important to wait for him to do it to make sure you're both ready. You don't want to try to strong arm him into marriage if he's not ready yet.
skigurl skigurl 7 years
i wouldn't for a few reasons, 1) i think my bf is pretty traditional and wouldn't like it, 2) i would like to experience it the traditional way...it's something i've always looked forward to! i wouldn't want to ruin that, 3) i wouldn't want to rush him. i know i'm ready but not in a rush, and i would want to make sure he's ready too, and do it on his own time.
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