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Would You Propose to Him?

A few weeks ago, I was talking to my yoga instructor after class. We were chatting about relationships and such, and somehow it came up that she proposed to her boyfriend (now husband). She said that she loved him deeply and was ready to be engaged but didn't want to wait around for him to pop the question so she just did it.

I thought her story was really amazing and it made me realize just how much times have changed for women. We now have well-paying jobs, professional careers, we can run for President, and do just about everything men can do (except pee standing up), so why shouldn't we propose?

I happen to be very traditional when it comes to getting married so I wouldn't be the one to propose in my relationship, but what do you think? Would you ever propose to your man? Or do you think it's the guy's job to get down on bended knee?


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-Maryan- -Maryan- 9 years
No way, never!! I'm old fashioned and traditional too, the guy SHOULD do it!!
MamaD MamaD 10 years
We were both married before and those marriages ended after our spouses had cheated on us( not with each other!)So when we got together and everything was just so good right from the beginning, I figured why jinx it? We were very happy the way things were! But my now husband insisted we get married and we would constantly go back and forth on this issue!!!He finally said "you ask me when you're ready." When a couple months went by and I didn't ask, he bought a fabulous ring and got down on his knee and proposed. I knew how serious he was about it and it took a lot of nerve when he knew I could say NO!! But I said yes! I truly felt like I was married to him already!
jsknutson jsknutson 10 years
I'm not going to read the other comments, just give it to you straight- Hell to the no Whitney. Screams of desperation! End of story. Done. Don't ever think of this again.
nlw nlw 10 years
I proposed to my boyfriend while we were baking chocolate chip cookies. :) We had talked about marriage, but never seriously. I realized that I was serious about him, so I asked. He said yes and we had our 7 year wedding anniversary in June. lol, turns out that he was waiting to ask me when I had graduated from college, which was a year away at that point!
elmendoa elmendoa 10 years
i am pretty traditional. wait for him. Britney is a fine example of what happens when those roles are switched. i am all about equal rights for women, but some roles are a loooong ways from being reversed.
aimeeb aimeeb 10 years
I agree with ClassicsDiva. I have been with my boyfriend almost 4 yrs and I knew two years ago he was who I wanted to marry. I am beyond anxious on when he'll pop the question but not anxious enough to reverse the roles. Even though we've been together ages, he knows I'm ready and when it's the right time for him-he will do it. Or so I hope...ha.
dopey3636 dopey3636 10 years
I like the idea of an open discussion. That's pretty much how my husband and I did it. We had been talking about getting married for quite a while, we both knew we wanted to get married, it was just a question of when's the right time financially. Also, I was still in school and we were debating on whether we should wait until I finished. Neither of us proposed, we just sort of decided one day that it was time to do it, we set a date, and bought a ring, and that was that! I feel like it was the perfect way for us, we both knew we were ready and there was no guessing, on either part, of whether or not the other person wanted to/would say yes/was ready.
Jinx Jinx 10 years
I *might*, it would really depend.
JChipman1 JChipman1 10 years
I have to admit I'm surprised that so many people are so horrified at this. I've always thought that it was weird that I would have to wait around to be surprised with a major, life-affecting decision. Plus, I don't like the idea that I have to go around with some symbol of being "taken" (an engagement ring), while my partner gets to walk around completely free of doesn't seem very empowering to me. I agree with those who indicated that a life-altering decision should be made mutually...
razzing razzing 10 years
my partner is totally clueless when it comes to traditional roles. i asked him if he would be my husband and we're designing a ring together, using family gold.
heather13 heather13 10 years
I don't think I would but never say never! My mom did with my stepdad and it's worked out wonderfully (and he's 14 years younger)!
LadyP LadyP 10 years
No, I don't think I could of done that to my husband. I guess I'm a traditionalist.
lala788 lala788 10 years
i have no problem to propose to my boyfriend
nessabum nessabum 10 years
a definite no for me. it's his job to get down on one knee and ask me. i'm just very traditional that way. and also, i'd rather have him be ready and do it than me do it and have him refuse or evade answering because he isn't ready.
ducks ducks 10 years
demeter demeter 10 years
NEVER. I'm extremely old fashioned, and I would never ever propose to a guy. No matter the circumstances.
chakra_healer chakra_healer 10 years
Yes, and I have! If the feeling of overwhelmingly wanting to spend the rest of my life with someone was there, why wait? Because it sounds better to say he got on one knee and proposed? How about how it sounds for him to proudly tell his buddies how you 'got him' that one night in bed, your nose is in his armpit, he elbows you in the head, again (kisses it to make it better), gives you your blanket (cause 'its cold in here'), turns on sportscenter and you debate about how your team (marlins) are soooo much better than his (the mets), and it clicks that you wanna do this for the next 50-90 years. So you say, "baby, you know I love you do you wanna marry me, like now?" he says yes, and you buy a ring for him and lovingly call him 'your bitch'. Which he is until he buys your engagement bracelet (I don't like rings). It works, if there is anything uncomfortable about it, it would be that you either aren't certain of his response or true feelings... basically the same anxiety guys have when proposing. If he would have said no, so be it. Either the timing wasn't right or he wasn't in the same place as I was, no need for tears just an honest discussion of how you want the relationship to progress.
reese05 reese05 10 years
No, I want to be able to tell my kids how their Dad proposed to me andnot the other way around. But I admire women who can do that...just like what PINK did!
chrisTyyy chrisTyyy 10 years
I'm too scared to be the one asking! Besides, I know he's not ready anyway so I'll let him ask me cause he knows I'm ready any time. :P
tati33 tati33 10 years
I'm I'm agreeing with those traditional folks!
thexxnewxromance thexxnewxromance 10 years
ehhhh. i WOULD do it, but i'd rather just wait. Chances are...when he's ready, he'll propose. If he's not ready, then when you propose to him....he might say no because he's not ready. I don't know. lol
Michelann Michelann 10 years
I think I'm the least traditional of all. I don't think either person should "pop the question". I think it should be a joint decision to get married, and when you're ready, you'll both know.
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