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Would You Rather Date Someone With a Little or A Lot of Experience?

No two people have identical romantic histories, so when you find yourself with a new significant other, disparate experiences can be an issue. For example, your partner's previous long-term relationship might be a source of insecurity if he or she is your first serious relationship. Or it might be frustrating if your new significant other is a relative novice and doesn't know the ins and outs of serious dating.

Which would you prefer — a partner who's experiencing almost everything for the first time with you or a well-seasoned significant other?

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Incubuslvr14 Incubuslvr14 8 years
I think it really depends on your own experience - from what I've read, those with fewer serious dating experiences prefer the same and those with more dating experiences.... you get it. In my personal history, I've preferred more experience just because I'm more shy in relationships/intimate situations and those with more experience have been able to bring me out of my relationship shell...
lauraxtc lauraxtc 8 years
A lot more experience. I hate teaching.
cordata cordata 8 years
A little. Part of the reason why I've never liked James Bond is because he's probably caught every STD imaginable! No man whores, please.
cherryblossom cherryblossom 8 years
honestly im far from a prude in many ways, but in this particular way actually i prefer a guy with no experience, i have never been with anyone other than my boyfriend, and hes never been with anyone other than me, and were not even religious, its just much better and you feel much closer to the person, and alot better about yourself when you arent all used up.
juicebox07 juicebox07 8 years
I agree with #12 on this. I'm not very experienced, and I would feel more comfortable with a guy who's more on my level. I love the relationship I'm in now because he was my first serious relationship and first sexual partner. He was with one girl before me, and although I wish he'd been a virgin when he met me, I can still accept that. Even though that girl got his virginity, I was his first for a lot of other things. It's fun being able to experiment and try new things together and know that we're each others firsts for those things.
HoneyBrown1976 HoneyBrown1976 8 years
Define a lot, though. More than 10? That's fine. He'd align just fine with me. Less than 3? That's a problem. Sexually, we're incompatible. I teach for a living. I don't want to come home and have to continue teaching. With that being said, My husband fits in the middle and that's fine.
ECULeah ECULeah 8 years
I said a lot, but I'm in my mid-twenties so I expect more.
xxstardust xxstardust 8 years
Well, my boyfriend and I were each other's firsts, and I liked that we were able to learn how to please each other together. We were able to laugh and brush off the awkwardness because it was all new for both of us.
Pistil Pistil 8 years
In the middle. I wouldn't dismiss anyone purely because they have A LOT of experience. I would prefer a little experience. I like to be in a relationship with someone who is on the same level as me. We can learn together. It's all relative, anyway... if someone has come from a million unsuccessful relationships, is that any better than someone who has very little experience?
mix-tape mix-tape 8 years
Hmm I'm kinda trying to figure this out now. The guy I'm currently interested in hasn't had much experience (from what I can tell) and I think he's even a virgin. I have only had one sexual partner (long term 4 years) so I wouldn't consider myself experienced either, but I want to have sex, it just doesn't seem right to jump this new guy considering it'd be his first time haha. I think dating someone who has had some experience would make my current situation easier, but I am also a bit insecure and would wonder how I compare to his previous partners. I wonder how guys feel about this question though?
Ac2366 Ac2366 8 years
I would rather date a man with experience. I don't want to be with someone who has no idea how to be in a relationship. I wouldn't want to be with a man who had little to no sexual experience either. I want a guy to know what to do and when to do it. I don't want to be a teacher. I did that with my high school boy friends. I'm way over that.
fleurfairy fleurfairy 8 years
Alot of experience.
totygoliguez totygoliguez 8 years
I have not sexual experience what so ever, so I want the guy I loss my virginity to to be experience so he can spread the knowledge. But for a series relationship I really don't care. I don't care if I'm his first as long as I'm his last, and obviously that he is disease free.
SusanTeufel SusanTeufel 8 years
I enjoyed being able to learn together with my husband seeing we were both virgins, and being on the same ground. Also, I don't have to worry he's comparing my parts to some other chick's ;)
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 8 years
It doesn't matter.
staple-salad staple-salad 8 years
I say "a little" because I feel more comfortable when someone's as inexperienced as I am (which is why I think my boyfriend and I were both excited when we discovered we were both virgins). However, I kinda like that my boyfriend dated a lot of girls before me. I don't think he'd be as awesome of a counsellor, and I think his experience has really helped our relationship since it counter's my inexperience (I had one boyfriend before him... and that relationship was just weird).
skigurl skigurl 8 years
at this age, i'd choose "lots" versus "a little" because if he doesn't have more than "a little" by mid-20s, that's weird but i'd choose a middle ground, ideally
WritingLikeCrazy WritingLikeCrazy 8 years
I mean, wild oats to "sow." Ooops...
WritingLikeCrazy WritingLikeCrazy 8 years
Someone with a lot of experience knows what s/he's doing (we hope!) and so together you might have pleasure galore. Plus, someone with a lot of experience may no longer have wild oats to sew (assuming you're looking for a little stability). Of course, quality is more important than quantity. But then again, quality comes from practice. Doesn't it?
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