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Would you drink around a friend who is a recovering alcoholic?

If you had a buddy who at one point in time was like Nick Cage in Leaving Las Vegas, would you hit the sauce around them?

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veronicaraye veronicaraye 9 years
---that would be horrible!
wynter wynter 10 years
I almost never drink so it wouldn't bother me not to drink in front of them!
blOndiE7 blOndiE7 10 years
I wouldnt, I think that would be rude!!
lexaboo lexaboo 10 years
Drinking around them would almost help, honestly. They definetly need to get used to it, and a friend wouldn't let them drink. And I love drinking and wouldn't want to stop just because a friend quit. But I would watch my intake and try not to throw it in their face.
sexyeyes sexyeyes 10 years
All my friends drink but they weren't alcoholics and as far as someone being one I don't think I would stop drinking just b/c that person isn't anymore. You have to have self control.
Ophelia2 Ophelia2 10 years
Right on Mar...I concur!! Revolution People. Revolution
Faye16 Faye16 10 years
I don't drink at all anyway, so there.
t0xxic t0xxic 10 years
in the begining i thnk it would be insensitve but u cant do it forever
mar mar 10 years
I totally agree with Pad, you just have to make the jugement call with each situation. Everyone has a weakness in life, some of those weaknesses destroy us, some do not, but we cant hide everything from everyone all the time. I certainly would be very sensitive to my recovering friend, bu I think i have great judgment, so I would never put someone in a bad situation that I did not think they could handle.
yayita yayita 10 years
agreed Nee :)
N-e-e-c-a-l-l-e N-e-e-c-a-l-l-e 10 years
LOL ok lets agree to disagree and be friends :)
yayita yayita 10 years
Nee, if it was just a clear cut question of wether I would drink in front of my alcoholic friend. I would say no. But if he or she is getting help and is far along in a program I would drink and help them accept alcohol without drinking it. I'm a fat ass and I allow my friends to eat buritos in front of me LOL hahaha
N-e-e-c-a-l-l-e N-e-e-c-a-l-l-e 10 years
I agree, but the poll question doesn't mention partys or bars and even if it did Im not sure I would agree. I think it would be incredibly inconsiderate knowing what your friend is going through to drink in front of them...its almost like a subtle way of telling them that you arn't taking their problem seriously. I would hope if I ever had a problem like this that my friends would do the same for me.
yayita yayita 10 years
disagree Neecalle, AA and all other programs say that the person with the issue needs to stop going to bars and partys at the beginning, but they then must make a normal life as possible. This includes going out and partying with friends regardless of alcohol. They must learn to live in the real world and avoid temptation.
N-e-e-c-a-l-l-e N-e-e-c-a-l-l-e 10 years
Its not about changing habits,its about being supportive towards your friend during a difficult time. same thing if your friend was a recovering wouldnt suggest a night out at the local just don't do things like that.
yayita yayita 10 years
Nope, you have to cary on as usual, the person has to be in a real world situation to recover. You cant change your habits for them.
Toronado Toronado 10 years
Alcoholism recovery is a life-long battle. I know people who've been sober for years who've picked up the bottle again. I rarely drink, myself...but yes, I'd make a good effort to keep from doing it infront of someone in recovery.
N-e-e-c-a-l-l-e N-e-e-c-a-l-l-e 10 years
this is also assuming that this person is freshly recovering and at risk of drinking again. obviously after so many years of recovery the person would become less likely to relapse. I just think that its important to be there for your friends when they need your compassion the most.
BlondeSugar BlondeSugar 10 years
that would be highly inappropriate. there are a billion other things you can do together. it's a disease and should be looked at as such
N-e-e-c-a-l-l-e N-e-e-c-a-l-l-e 10 years
Theres no way that would be appropriate, alcoholism is a disease and if your friend has a problem its the very least you can do to be supportive when they need it most.
Padraigin Padraigin 10 years
uhhhh... who's "hating"?
sarahlynn sarahlynn 10 years
my bf quit smoking and i didnt' and i still smoke around him. i told him something like he choose to quit and i choose to smoke, hes never asked me to even quit smoking in the apt. it was his decision, not mine. even if i know smokeing is a bad habit ya'll...don't hate :P
Padraigin Padraigin 10 years
You all do realize that an alcoholic is in recovery for the rest of his/her life, right? And you intend to abstain from alcohol around that person for the rest of his/her life? I'm sorry, but that's actually not doing the person any favors. Unfortunately, alcohol is all over the place and the recovering alcoholic has to get used to it. I don't drink that often, and have friends who are recovering alcoholics. When I have a party at my place, I cannot insist that NO one drink in front of one of them. And if one of them chooses to go to a bar or club with a group and I want a drink, I am going to have it. However, if we invite the person over for dinner and it's just "us", then no, I don't drink, nor does my husband. And if it's a newly recovering alcholic, then I do throw "dry" parties. If I go to a club alone with the person, I won't drink. It depends on where the person is in their recovery process. I ask my friends where they stand on having alcohol around them and go from there.
mar mar 10 years
my sister is a recovering alcoholic. I am not a big drinker, but at my wedding, I wanted everyone to get smashed, and I warned her ahead of time that there would be liquor, so she left a little earlier then the rest of the guests. In certain situations like that one, it was my day, and I told her about it in advance, and she was ok with it, so I felt that I was not going to altar such a huge thing for one person. I do not promote doing any drug in front of a person that has a problem with it, but most people that are in programs hang out with other recovering people. That is thier network, and it works for them. I live my life for me, and I can not be having to feel bad about the things I do because others have a problem with it. Life is too short, sorry to sound like a bitach. When some of you guys in your teens and twenties get older, you will understand that much more.
KimmiAnn KimmiAnn 10 years
Friends are supposed to support one another through things like this....not shove it in their faces! Geez! That would be horribly insensitive! Believe in Magic!
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