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You Asked: Can I Recycle?

Dear Sugar --

Since you are the Love & Sex expert, I thought I'd ask your opinion on this subject. Is it in bad taste to use lingerie from a previous relationship with your new partner? I have some great pieces and I'd hate to give them up, but I can't decide whether or not that's tacky. I was wondering what all of the Sugar ladies (and gentlemen) out there thought. Any suggestions? -- Economic Erin

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Dear Economic Erin --

Building a lingerie wardrobe takes a lot of money and time, so I happen to feel that recycling it isn't the slightest bit tacky. Lingerie is like clothing, so ask yourself, would you feel bad wearing one of your favorite sexy dresses with a new boyfriend that you wore with an ex-boyfriend?

If you bought special lingerie for an anniversary or birthday, you might want to keep those in the back of your drawer if it will remind you of your past relationship. Re-wearing lingerie is a completely personal decision so if you're going to feel uncomfortable about it, I would use this time as an excuse to shop for more - a woman can never have too much!


barjar1122 barjar1122 10 years
before I was married, I had a hard time with this. I was always associating the outfit with what occassion I bought it on for. Now my hubby can pick them out and I have to guess sometimes what he was thinking.
JessBear JessBear 10 years
Of course it's okay!! I've had a few outfits (not just lingerie) that reminded me of exes...I didn't wear them for a while, but eventually the associations faded. I would certainly never throw something away just because I wore it with an ex!
the-makeup-blogette the-makeup-blogette 10 years
Why not?? your garment's history has nothing to do with the present.... so wear them!!! unless ur current partner knows specifically u have worn them for another guy before and hates it.
SeptemberLights SeptemberLights 10 years
Lingerie is expensive. As long as it makes YOU feel sexy that is what matters!
Vannuccia Vannuccia 10 years
Keep them!
sofi sofi 10 years
That's funny, I never even thought about that before. As long as you aren't thinking about your ex or a specific occassion you wore it with an ex- who cares. Didn't you buy it for yourself, too? Enjoy...
GeikoSera GeikoSera 10 years
I don't see a problem with it! I'd certainly do it! :D
i-am-elle i-am-elle 10 years
Sure why not!
yoan190 yoan190 10 years
As long as your mind doesn't wander to other relationship, it's nothing wrong to wear the same. It's only thing.
Junebug36 Junebug36 10 years
OMG. This question is absolutely ridiculous. Who cares that you've worn it with your past boyfriend!
nessabum nessabum 10 years
you know, no matter how nice it is, it will come off in the end anyway. ;) and if it's a really horrific memory, i'd just get rid of it. you'll remember less if you don't see it.
bluebird bluebird 10 years
hahaha, my boyfriend says that the lace just gets in the way : )
Lovaajn Lovaajn 10 years
That is just ridiculous to say it's bad to "recycle" the lingerie. It's just going to come off anyway. I've done it and guess what....he never knew...and I didn't think about after like two seconds.
nomerz nomerz 10 years
never occurred to me that it wasn't -- that could have the potential to get VERY expensive! :-p
popgoestheworld popgoestheworld 10 years
I have some cute outfits that just remind me of the guy I wore them with. So I typically let them gather dust until they don't really trigger any memories. Otherwise I feel weird. BUT, there is nothing really wrong with recycling in principle.
lolabella lolabella 10 years
AMEN amedmondson! i have lingerie that an ex-fiance bought me back in 1991 that for some reason i haven't tossed! if it still fits, wear it! your focus should be on the person you're with, and not the person from your past. if a stupid bit of cotton/lace can distract you from your current lover, the lingerie's definitely NOT the issue. and wear it for YOU, not for anyone else. ;)
Lila-Fowler Lila-Fowler 10 years
i would throw out the stuff the ex gave, but otherwise i think if its stuff you bought yourself it should be fine
jhuck jhuck 10 years
I agree with amedmondson. I buy stuff for me to feel good in. It's an added bonus if someone else enjoys it too!
amedmondson amedmondson 10 years
I buy the pieces for myself. My boyfriend happens to love them too - that's just an added treat for him - but it's all about me! That stuff is crazy expensive anyway!
Sharon-Akiko Sharon-Akiko 10 years
OF COURSE it's ok!!!! You're not gonna tell him with whom you have already wore the pieces, are u??? Don't worry!!!
reese05 reese05 10 years
Hey, it definitely not wrong! except of courseif it is a gift from your ex or it has a sentimental value to your past relationship...
ANP_NYC ANP_NYC 10 years
Absolutely not, unless you have some sentimental attachment to it (in which case - I'd throw it out!). Lingerie is about making you feel sexy; I think your man is probably more interested in what's underneath anyway. My boyfriend likes when I wear his button-down work shirts to bed, so I guess it's a case-by-case thing.
cgmaetc cgmaetc 10 years
Uh, NO. Unless you tell him it's old. And why would you do that? Just because you are dating, doesn't mean he has to know Everything!
shawneefaye shawneefaye 10 years
Hell yeah!! girl if you looik sexy in it, wear that shit!! they don't care anyways... what they don't know won't hurt them lol.... keeping it real.........
Jennifer777 Jennifer777 10 years
Thank goodness it's okay! Honestly, it never occured to me that it wasn't ok. It is soo hard for me to find cute lingerie that fits so when I do I truly enjoy wearing them when I can.
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