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You Asked: Did I Get Played?

Dear Sugar,

I have been in a long-distance relationship for seven months now. I just went to visit him for a week, and it was the most wonderful time of my life. We each felt as though we were an old married couple already, and we were making plans for me to visit again. We were very much in love (or so I thought) up until a couple of weeks ago when he stopped contacting me and basically told me not to bother contacting him.

I found out through a mutual friend that he asked a girl out from his work last week; apparently he's had feelings for her for a while. The same guy who left me a heart-wrenching voicemail while I was flying home, telling me how much he missed me, is now apparently dating someone else! I don't know what to do. I keep thinking I did something wrong while I was there, but my friends are telling me I got played. I really thought he was the one for me and I don't want to give him up, but I don't know how to handle this situation if he won't talk to me. Should I just wait it out or give up? — Baffled Brenda

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Dear Baffled Brenda,

After reading your note, I can't help but feel like something is missing here. If you're feeling the same way, I'm inclined to say that you were unfortunately played. Like you, I'm not sure how someone can go from hot to cold so fast, but he did, so the best thing you can do is move on. This man sounds very manipulative, and though I'm not privy to your weekend together, I can almost guarantee his decision to turn his back on you is not a result of something you've done. I'm sure it's incredibly frustrating not to have answers to your questions, but you'll be better off without this man in your life.

Sometimes we get lucky in love and sometimes we don't, but try not to let this break your spirit. He clearly wasn't the right one for you, but someone else out there is. Good luck.


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