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You Asked: He Hasn't Called!

You Asked: He Hasn't Called!

Dear Sugar,

I have been hanging out with this guy for over seven months — I am 28 and he is 37. We normally talk every day and see each other twice a week. I recently got a divorce and he was hurt very badly in a past relationship so neither one of us are looking for anything too serious, although we have had sex which I guess developed some type of closeness.

Last Sunday we spoke briefly and his phone dropped the call. When he called me back, I couldn't talk (I was on the way to the airport) and to make a long story short, we haven't talked since. He's mentioned to me that when he has a lot of his mind, he doesn't like being bothered by anybody so I wasn't sure if this was one of those times or if he is just blowing me off. It's been over a week so what gives? Has he lost interest? Is he mad at me? Should I call him or should I just forget about him altogether? —Neglected Natasha

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Dear Neglected Natasha,

When it comes to talking on the phone, guys and girls couldn't be more different. Though this is a generalization, women are "talkers" whereas men simply use their phone to make plans or coordinate dates. Since he's stated before that he needs his space sometimes, perhaps that's exactly what he's doing now. However, if you're not calling him just because he's not calling you then this cat and mouse game could go on forever and reach the point of no return.

If you care about this guy and want to continue your relationship, I'd pick up the phone and call him — what do you have to lose? If you don't reach him and he doesn't call you back then you might be right — he could be blowing you off. Of course, it would be ideal if he were to call you, but instead of sitting around and playing guessing games, I say step to the plate and make the call — you'll never know the outcome unless you try. Good luck!


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