My boyfriend just broke up with me last Wednesday. Deep down I know he is not good enough for me and that I could do better, but it still hurts so much. I can't sleep and I don't want to eat. I try to stay busy, but even when I'm out with friends, my heartache prevents me from having a good time. Do you know how to get rid of the pain? I check my phone every half hour (even when I am sleeping at night) in hopes that he'll reach out to me, but I haven't heard a peep. Why am I still so hung up on someone I knew I wasn't going to end up with? — In Need of Relief Rachel
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Dear in Need of Relief Rachel,
The feeling of rejection after being broken up with can be overwhelming, but remember that it won't last forever. It's not uncommon to feel the sting even though you know deep down that it wasn't meant to be so stop beating yourself up over having hurt feelings. I'd think something was wrong if you weren't upset! When you're in a relationship, you get used to the companionship and connection that developed over time and when that's all of a sudden gone, it can be a hard adjustment so the best thing I can tell you to do is to stay as busy as possible. Lean on the people you love for support — that's what friends are for. Although this may sound cliché, time is a great healer and before you know it, you'll be ready to get back in the game.