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You Asked: How Can I Make My Sister-in-Law Feel Welcome?

Dear Sugar--

My sister-in-law from out of state (who I really don't know very well) is coming to stay with us for the weekend. I really want her to feel welcome and to have the feeling that she's really gotten to know me and the kids after the weekend, (my husband works a lot, so we'll be alone pretty much the whole time). What kind of things should I/we do? Her personality is very green. She's the eco-friendly type and she loves anything organic and healthful. She runs marathons as well and has lost weight recently and looks better than ever. She's also an urban planner. I would appreciate any advice or suggestions. Thanks so much!

--The Host Needs Help

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Dear The Host Needs Help--

Well, this sounds really exciting for you and your family. I love seeing relatives getting together and creating stronger bonds. It sounds like you actually do know a ton about her and what she likes, so that's a start. I'd suggest calling her up and asking her if she has anything in mind that she'd like to do while visiting.

Being that she's an active and healthy person, when she comes to visit, maybe you can all rent bikes (if you don't already have them), go swimming, rent a boat, go for a walk in the park, or take her on a hike. She may prefer exploring and going for a run on her own, so give her some simple directions or a map so she can find her way around. Or she might like being in nature, and going on a family camping trip. Also, check for local farmer's markets or health food stores in your community - I'm sure she'd love that too.

Even though she is coming to visit you, she can play part-host too. Maybe she can share some of her talents or likes with you. Maybe she wants to take you all rock climbing, to a local swimming hole or garden store she's heard about online or read about in a book. Maybe she wants to teach you some new healthy eating tips she's learned, or cook dinner together. Whatever you end up doing, you'll be creating lasting family memories and a potentially great new friendship. Good luck!


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lemuse20 lemuse20 9 years
I agree with above; ask her about what kind of organic foods she likes and go grocery shopping with her and cook a meal together. Do an activity like hiking, walking, canoeing, ect.
Green Green 9 years
That's great that you are reaching out. Just try not to offend her eco-friendly stature while she is there.
divalicious23 divalicious23 9 years
Perhaps you can cook a lovely meal after a visit to an outdoor market together?
divalicious23 divalicious23 9 years
I'm a fairly green person myself ( I recycle, I eat free range and organic, and I also don't eat claves from abroad as they're treated very badly). I think organic stores are a bit boring. Do you live in the city? If yes, how about art galleries? How about theatres? Concerts? Is she into classical or anything like that? Do you have a nice park or are you near a beach? Picnic?
beingtazim beingtazim 9 years
i like the advice about taking her to an organic store as I am vegan and when i go to someone's house there often isnt much for me to eat. I think this is a positive step - also going for a walk around your area would be nice as you can tell her about where you live and enjoy being outside at the same time.
Masqueraded_Angel Masqueraded_Angel 9 years
Awwww, that's really touching that you're trying to make her comfortable. I would say to get yourself to a natural organic food store before she comes and stock up on dinner ingredients. You two would probably have a blast cooking and gossiping together. And tell her when she comes, "I really want to make this enjoyable for you, so please don't hesitate to make some suggestions on activites you would like to do." Leave the ball in her court a little bit. And most of all, have FUN! :D
Chouette4u Chouette4u 9 years
I think just the fact that you're concerned about her having a good time shows that she'll feel welcome. Ugh, if only MY in-laws were as considerate!
Marci Marci 9 years
I have several sisters-in-law and love them all. I liked doing anything with them when I was first getting to know them. Drinking tea and talking, shopping, going for didn't seem to matter. I hope you have a great visit with her, whatever you do.
Pink_Lipstick Pink_Lipstick 9 years
I think it's so awesome that you're reaching out to your in-laws. I'm so sister-in-law is a childhood friend of mine. My fiance` and I introduced her to his brother and they ended up getting married last year, after only knowing each for 10 months. There was so much fall out from the wedding (they didn't appreciate our advice to not rush into it, among other things) that now we hardly speak to either of them. I hope you really develop a great relationship with your sister-in-law; it makes family gatherings so much easier when everyone enjoys each other's company!
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