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You Asked: How Do I Blow Him Away?

Dear Sugar,

My fiancé is coming home in a week from being gone for a year at school in another state. I want to surprise him with the best night he's ever had. It needs to be completely unforgettable, but I don't know what to do. Obviously something sexy will ensue, but how do I start it? Dinner? Wine? What can I do to totally blow him away?

— Enticing Tisha

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Dear Enticing Tisha,

It can be overwhelming to see someone who you haven't see in a while: Expectations run high, and there's added pressure, so I think it's a good thing to start slow and rev up. Set the mood with soft lighting, great music, and of course, you, in something cute.

Beginning with food and wine is a great idea, but instead of cooking a lavish meal, which can be very stressful, come up with some easy appetizers — cheese, crackers, cured meats, and fruits are great when served elegantly. Once you guys have reconnected, it's time to turn up the heat! Use some sweet-smelling massage oil and give him a complete rubdown from his shoulders to his toes or pull him into the shower for a steamy rinse.

When he's completely relaxed (and totally excited!) it's time to take it up another notch. Surprise him with a sexy new piece of lingerie. If he's into the more sultry look, choose something black or red, and make up your eyes to match. If he's all about classic beauty, find something light pink or off-white and tousle your hair. I'm sure that from there, things will pretty much take care of themselves! Above all else, it should be fun and stress-free, so only do what works for you guys!


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JaimeLeah526 JaimeLeah526 9 years
Sexy lingerie, delicious foods, nice clean and comfy sheets are all a man needs. He's going to appreciate any effort you put in since it's been so long.
sunnyheart sunnyheart 9 years
More than a few months apart can feel like a first date all over again. I think it's best to have a couple of plans and just let the situation dictate what happens so you don't get too worked up and set yourself up for disappointment. When my ex came back from a deployments overseas, there were each different. One time we needed to get reacquainted, one time it was hands flying everywhere... so you never know. The main thing is to feel happy to see him. Dress up, so that you feel beautiful. Men can tell when you feel excited and happy and confident. I love karlotta's idea of meeting him wherever he is arriving in a pretty (not sexual) outfit with a welcome back sign. Everyone loves those, even if they're cheesy! And decide from there... just ask if he wants to go bowling or putt putt golfing or straight to the bedroom. He'll be happy to see you so it can be great no matter what you choose. Congrats on your engagement!
Sydney-C Sydney-C 9 years
Arrange something that involves his friends. Since he hasn't seen you, he hasn't seen them either I'm assuming, and not hogging him will make you seem incredibly go have fun with a group - dinner, movie, drinks, whatever, and when the night is over, you can have him all to yourself!
TidalWave TidalWave 9 years
Maybe just do something fun and relaxing and casual the first night. Because it will be awkward! Then the second night, do a sexy striptease or something for him. He won't be expecting it so much either :)
platinum89 platinum89 9 years
besides literally blowing him away, make him a favorite dish of his and do some things that he likes to do that he knows you'll do with him, even though you may not like to all the time... for example watching a basketball or baseball game on TV. i know if i didn't see my boyfriend for that long of a time, i would definitely appreciate him taking me to the mall and then fooling around later. it would totally be one of the best days i've had in awhile.
ThePerfectScore ThePerfectScore 9 years
omg I know exactly how she feels... the last time I saw my guy was 2 days after Christmas... He moved to a new state, so I was suppose to see him the weekend of the April 29... I had spent weeks prior planning my outfit and make up, I ordered two new dresses online and did a whole 3 week long beauty regimen so my skin was soft and glowing... We kept having to reschedule b/c flights got changed and what not.... so when he did come in town he surprised me, and I had no time to prep. I was all flustered b/c I had just come out of the showing and my hair was still wet. I only got to see him for about hour and a half, before he went to his friends 30th bday party, (but he wanted me to be the 1st person he saw when he was back in town)... then we were suppose to have "our night" he got food poisoning... A long story short, you can do all the planning in the world and things change. Just treasure the time you get to spend with your man!
austerity austerity 9 years
heineken : LOL!!!@ both your posts! uhm...the pun in the title is too obvious to be NOT intended...
karlotta karlotta 9 years
You guys are so crude. If they haven't seen each other in a year, they're going to be awkward and cute and probably won't "recognize" each other for a couple of hours - so, no, I don't think going down on him is what she had in mind or what's most appropriate. WHATEVER HAPPENED TO ROMANCE, FOR CHRIST'S SAKES?? So this is what I would do - pick him up at the airport or train station - as a surprise. Wear something nice, but not too sexy, because he will be incredibly intimidated already, you don't want to make him feel inadequate! Then I would either take him to his favorite joint (not fancy restaurant; but maybe his favorite diner or burger place!) so you guys can catch up and not feel the pressure of being home in an intimate setting just yet. THEN I would bring him home, where I would have hung up christmas lights (and prepared some candles!) for lovely mood lighting, and a huge hand-made sign (painted on an old sheet, or even drawn on thick paper towel!) saying "welcome home *alonzo*". Nice music, fresh flowers, a little bottle of champagne, and fresh strawberries. It's the season! Maybe a little gift too - something meaningful, like a picture of you together, or a set of your keys... etc. I think a bunch of little gestures will have a nicer effect and won't set up incredibly high expectations (if one fails, all the others remain!) - one big thing may be too much for either of you! And that way he'll keep on being surprised all evening, it will be lovely. And of course, don't forget - what means the most to him are your fabulous conversation, your attention undivided and your arms to rest in. Yeah, yeah, I'm a sucker. But my very cynical BF loves that about me!
emily60608 emily60608 9 years
Like others are saying, just don't over plan it! I know sometimes you can plan something out to every detail and then if it doesnt go how u imagined the night is ruined! Try to do something nice but nothing that is too different than what u 2 might normally do together
heineken67 heineken67 9 years
Oops - I wanted an embarrassed face, not kissy lips!
heineken67 heineken67 9 years
I thought the title said "How Do I Blow Him Anyway" at first... :X
kurniakasih kurniakasih 9 years
Hee..blow him away ;) That's actually good suggestion. Keep it simple. He wants to see you and be w/ you, not w/ the food, although food and drinks are good to have after a long journey. Just jump him and have sex all over the house, living room, bedroom, kitchen, wherever you guys want. Make it all 'hungry' sex or whatnot...Then you guys can indulge w/ good food or whatnot after sex..that's what I'd do. Food can wait, my hunny can't! :lol: But then again, you kind of want to see how 'tired' he is (hopefully he won't be too tired for some sexy time though!) before you jump him, we all don't want some 'disappointment.' :p Good luck to you!
tatsauce tatsauce 9 years
I agree with the other ladies that are insinuating oral. Head is the way to go!
popgoestheworld popgoestheworld 9 years
I would just relax and keep it super simple, personally. He's going to want to spend the evening with YOU, not waiting for you to apply makeup to match your lingerie, which he will rip off you two seconds later.
cravinsugar cravinsugar 9 years
I would say do something before eating and the other stuff dear go bowling...a fun date activity, to get you too laughing and talking incase there is any awkwardness. I say that because, I had an ex boyf go away for 16 weeks to boot camp, and when he first came back, I felt like i was on a first date again with him. I love bowling with my current bf. It gets us all palyfully competitive and flirty, and IMO sets a great mood for the rest of the evening!
Sun_Sun Sun_Sun 9 years
pun intended...its hard to resist ;)
happiness80 happiness80 9 years
at sarah, that was the first that came to my mind as well lol.
clareberrys clareberrys 9 years
That's exactly where my mind went too! Sorry! =) But in all could surprise him with some sexy lingerie or a sex toy or porn (whatever floats your/his boat) but to start you could maybe ask him exactly what he wants to do or surprise him by doing something he has always wanted but you have never done together....since I don't know either of you I can't say what that would be, but I'm sure you could think of something!
sarah_bellum sarah_bellum 9 years
"What can I do to totally blow him away?" You could... blow him away. ;) Sorry. I couldn't resist.
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