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You Asked: I'm Textually Frustrated

You Asked: I'm Textually Frustrated

Dear Sugar--

I have been texting this guy who accidentally texted me (he typed the wrong number in) and we have become really close - via text. We have sent each other pictures and text messages daily/nightly for about 4 weeks.

We seem to have a lot in common and I really enjoy texting with him. The problem is - I don't think this is going anywhere. He has made no attempt to meet me in person nor any comments that would suggest he intends to. I am worried that this will remain just a nightly occurrence and I am not sure I want to keep it going if nothing will come of it.

Should I just wait it out or is this an unhealthy fixation with a random
texter? Please advise!

--Texting and Confused Tina

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Dear Texting and Confused Tina--

Honestly, this sounds so romantic (only in 2007 could one find love through text messaging!). I'm a firm believer in making love connections in unique situations, so if you are interested in this guy, I suggest you make it happen. He may be holding off from making plans to meet for fear that you may think it's weird or too forward (he probably doesn't want to seem like an insane stalker or get turned down).

Perhaps you can take it to another level and exchange email addresses. It'll be easier to type longer messages so you can ask more questions and get to know him better. Find out where he lives, how old he is, what he does for a living, and the big question - is he in a relationship. He could be finding safety behind his keyboard because he is involved with someone else. If everything checks out, you could ask if he wants to meet at a local bar or restaurant for a drink. Bring a friend and tell him to bring one too so it's more casual and comfortable (and less like a blind date) not to mention safer since you really don't know this guy.

On the other hand, if you feel in your gut that something is up since he hasn't made the effort to connect in person, then I'd stop the whole texting thing cold turkey. In this day and age, there are plenty of creeps out there, so do what you need to do to make yourself feel safe and protected. I hope this helps and good luck!


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