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You Asked: Should I Break It Off Before He Does?

Dear Sugar,

I have been going out with my boyfriend for almost seven months now and it's been great. The only thing is that one of my not-so-great friends likes him, too. My best friend said she heard a rumor saying that they are seeing each other "undercover," and talking all the time over IM. My friend also found out that this girl is telling him to break it off with me and he's actually been thinking about it. My best friend is not the kind to lie but I don't want to believe it. When I asked my boyfriend if it was true, he just said they were friends but that he thought she was hot. Do you think I should stay with him or break up? I really do love him like I've never loved anyone else, but I also know that love can make you blind to the obvious. I don't want to end up getting my heart broken.

—Insecure Samantha

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Dear Insecure Samantha,

There's nothing wrong with your boyfriend thinking that someone else is good looking — I bet you think other guys are hot too. The thing that matters is whether or not he's cheating on you. Jealousy is a nasty character trait which makes people do crazy things sometimes, so if you have no evidence that your boyfriend's been unfaithful, ignore the rumors that you hear. If you believe in your heart that he wants to be with you, then I'd stay with him.

The key to a healthy relationship is trust and honesty, so keep the lines of communication open and get this girl out of your head. Of course there's no guarantee that you won't end up with a broken heart, but at the end of the day, at least you can say you gave the relationship all you had before quitting over petty gossip. I hope things work out for you two.


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