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You Asked: Should I Follow My Dreams?

Dear Sugar--

Ok ok, I know this is a pretty broad question, but I'm a 29 year old female (and I'm not getting any younger) who lives in Boston and has an office job. Needless to say... I hate it! I know I should be grateful for what I have and I definitely am, but I'm way too creative and passionate for this!!! I also don't have a degree either so it makes it even harder to search for a good job.

However I've always wanted to get into acting, I absolutely love it... I love the movies, I love the way they make me laugh and cry, especially because the actresses are truly amazing. I know this sounds crazy but I feel like given the right opportunity I'd be the right person for the job! (given the right job, ha) I know crazy right? But I wake up every morning and think about it. I watch commercials and movies and reenact them, and I feel this strange feeling in my heart and soul when I just think about the possibility of having a career that I love. I by no means want to be a Hollywood "starlet." I just want to contribute something and get something back in return. Am I wishing on a falling star? Could this really happen?

--The Girl Who's Asking For Too Much?

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Dear The Girl Who's Asking For Too Much?--

You are a lucky girl and do you know why? You actually know what your dream is. You know what you want to do with your life. You know what will make you happy.

Here's the thing - you don't want to wake up tomorrow, quit your job and run down the street screaming "I'm an actress!" Not yet anyway. Keep plugging away at your boring job (that pays the bills), and find ways outside of work to channel that creative energy. Local playhouses are always having try-outs for shows and 1-act plays, so give it a try. Get your feet wet in the theater river so you can see if you really like acting after all. If you do, you can sign up for acting classes and who knows, maybe you'll get discovered!! On the flip side, you may realize that you wouldn't want to do it ALL the time after all, but that a few hours a week may satiate your passion.

I think it's awesome that you want a job that makes you happy. E. Jean said it best, "go work somewhere you will LURVE working". Money isn't everything, so if I were you, I'd follow your dreams.


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Talullah76 Talullah76 10 years
I'm in a similar dilemma. It's hard leaving the security with an office job to chase a dream;BUT it's a shame to wonder what could've happened.
hills hills 10 years
i reckon the whole point of life is making the most of it and doing only what makes u happy, its fab u have this dream and if u want to go for it u should. dont just stop if u get knocked back first time keep going but if u really dont think the actress stuff is working out how about looking into being a director or producer or anything to do with films or smthing u love. also its gr8 because if by chance this dosnt work out then u have the privalige of having been in the feild ur in atm so u could just slip bk into it if u wanted while u were finding a job best suited to u. good luck!
Marci Marci 10 years
I am a big believer in doing what you love. Life is far too short to postpone exploring doing something you'd love to do. I've always done that. Of course, there is a downside to a lot of creative pursuits, which is not making a lot of money. But I've always been practical and careful, and I wouldn't do it any other way. As long as I can pay the bills and have what I need, I'm happiest doing what my heart craves. I say go for it.
pinupsweetheart pinupsweetheart 10 years
I agree. Take some classes and see if you really like acting and all the work. It is not all rich and fame. There is a lot of hard work. But do you want to be 90 years old and wish you had at least tried? Go for it!
kristyrk kristyrk 10 years
Go get 'em! Take acting classes! Honestly commercials are the way to go when you first start out. You get money for each time its ran on-air. That would help you cut back on your hours at your day job so that you could look into more gigs. I hope you go for it!!!
Muirnea Muirnea 10 years
If you keep the job you have and don't reach for your dreams and then way down the road you are on your deathbed (sorry, I don't mean to be morbid), would you regret that you never tried for your dream, or would you be ok with the fact that you had a boring office job your whole life? Yeah it will probably be very very hard and there will be many times when you might wonder why you decided to leave your comfortable office job, but why on earth would you waste your life if you know you want to do something else? To me there is just no reason to do that. If it makes you feel any better, I have decided to pursue my life passion, I want to be a horse trainer, I am going to college to major in equine studies (only horse stuff), and many people think I am crazy. Many people also think I am going to be pretty much broke my entire life, which is actually very likely, but I am absoultely ok with that, because guess what???? I am going to LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE my entire life!!!!!!!!!! I am going to enjoy my entire life!!!!!! I am not going to have to work and then have a little fun whenever I am not working, because my work will be fun!!!!!!!!!!! So absoultely follow your dream!!!!!!!! Sorry if this post was really long, but I just hate seeing people that think they have to have a "real" job and never enjoy their lives!! I don't understand that at all! Go after your dream, its not like you have anything else to do with your entire life!!!! LOL! Other than that, the only thing I would say is to be smart about it, just like blackjade and auddie said keep your office job to pay the bills while you have to. Hope I didn't rant to long! haha! Good luck!!!!! :-)
jennifer76 jennifer76 10 years
I totally agree with Dear - you have a lot of options for getting a taste of acting already. Start taking them! Especially in a big city like Boston, you'll find plenty of avenues. Good luck!
rubialala rubialala 10 years
Do it!!! You will have so much fun and feel fulfilled.
auddie auddie 10 years
If nothing else could possibly make you happy as much as acting would go for it, but know it is a rough, hard road (I'm really not trying to be a downer, but I'm speaking from years of experience in acting and technical work here!). Take classes and any role you can possibly get. Forget about making money at it right now, you need to keep your office job to pay the bills, and most acting jobs pay very little (there is a reason the actors you see in crap movies do amazing theater work - the crap pays enough for them to afford to do the great stuff on stage) . Find auditions online and try out for everything you can - student films, community plays, extra work, commercials, even print modeling work. And read everything you can get your hands on - there are many schools of thought on acting methods and the more you know about them, the more you have to work with. Also, start by checking out Jenna Fischer's (Pam from "The Office") blog on myspace ( She has a great one about what it really takes to make it as an actor and how much work it took her to get to the point she's at now. Good luck.
blackjade blackjade 10 years
Do it!! Keep your day job (or get a different one that offers more flexibility), go out and audition for commercials, join a drama group. Then if you REALLY love it, move - go to where the action is. Subscribe to Callsheet (crap I haven't read it in a while - I think that's what it's called) but it has open casting calls all over the country.
gooniette gooniette 10 years
Dear Sugar's right. Find some drama geeks to hang out with and start auditioning for community plays or commercials. It'll be a really good learning experience if nothing else.
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