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You Asked: Should I Hock My Jewelry?

Dear Sugar,
I just got out of a ten year relationship and I feel great. Fortunately/unfortunately, I received some beautiful jewelry from my now ex. I have tried to give it back to him, but he said it's all mine to keep but I don't want to wear any of it as I am trying to start my life post-ex and don't need a pink sapphire given by Mr. X glaring at me every time I look at a new suitor!

I have decided to consign the pieces but have no idea how to go about it. I live in Los Angeles and I know there must be some fabulous jewelry consignment stores around. I have looked all over the Internet and asked around but nobody seems to have any ideas except eBay. Can you help? — I Want it Gone Wendy

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Dear I Want it Gone Wendy,

Before you sell all your jewelry, I want you to make sure you are 150 percent certain of your decision. I am sure that right now the pieces given to you by your ex seem like negative reminders of him, but later down the road, once you've moved on, are you going to wish you had kept those mementos? Once they're gone, they're gone, so don't make any rash decisions.

Since I'm not from LA, I don't have any particular stores in mind to suggest, but if I were you I'd go to my local jeweler and ask them if they buy consignment jewelry themselves. If they don't, I would ask them for their recommendations as a professional will be able to point you in the right direction so you aren't taken for a ride. The downfall with consignment stores is that they will most likely take a cut of the sale price, so eBay or Craigslist might be a better option for you since you can name your price and be in charge of who is your buyer.

Whatever you decide to do with the jewelry, I hope you get the closure you need. Good luck.


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Buncynooces Buncynooces 9 years
There's a website called It's awesome! You can buy, sell or trade your exboyfriend jewelry. You can also tell your story! It's hilarious and fun and it makes it all a little less creepy:) I highly recommend it!
Daddisgrl Daddisgrl 9 years
I would put it in a lock box and forget about it for now... You can then revisit this in a few months / year. If he bought you quality pieces, you can use the stones and have them reset in a different piece of jewelry. IMO you will not get anywhere near what he paid for them and if at some point you want to buy yourself something, you will be putting a lot of money out.
Gdeeaz Gdeeaz 9 years
i have a bracelet my ex from 3 years ago gave me, and im glad i didnt get rid of it. sure it reminds me of him, but it also reminds me of the fun we had together.
alltherage alltherage 9 years
keep it for a year if you still feel the same sell it. but by then it may be nice jewelry and not nice jewelry from your ex.
elsiebelle elsiebelle 9 years
I say keep it! I was in a very long term relationship and things ended [for what it seemed like at the time] "for good". My mom took hold of the jewelry for safe-keeping and everything else was boxed up and stored into my parents garage. After our break up, I had moved on and was enjoying life. I even started to become serious with a new relationship. My ex and I went almost a year never seeing each other or contacting each other--it was really OVER... ...but then for whatever reason we were brought back into each other's lives and ended up getting back together! You can never predict the future...but I am very glad that despite everything I kept everything.
vanyvrgs vanyvrgs 9 years
I had the same predicament years ago and sold the jewerly,at the time I could care less about jewerly. I now regret it because the jewerly was worth more than I got for it and jewerly is an investment. I would be worth even more now. The pieces were also very nice..... I agree with those who say just keep it and wait until the emotions you have tied to him do not rule your thoughts about the jewerly.
sugarbritches sugarbritches 9 years
Or, if it's not too expensive you could hang on to it to pass it down to a niece or younger sister or something. It would turn something negative into something positive.
sugarbritches sugarbritches 9 years
I say make it something new and interesting. Seems like a waste to have to sell it for so much less than it's worth.
wonderwoman80 wonderwoman80 9 years
Hmm, I'd never give up a fine piece of jewelry.
CaterpillarGirl CaterpillarGirl 9 years
I was in a five year relationship, engaged for two and at the end he was a B*stard. So i kept the jewelry (several rings, engagement ring, etc) I put them on consignment, but they just didnt sell so one day I went back and said "I will take 800 for the lot" and Bam, I bought a computer, my mom a kitten, and some clothes and never felt better. even though they were worth so much more, they were all worthless to me and I couldnt give a rats hiney about them, and I didnt want to keep "checking" in on them either.
cmachter1 cmachter1 9 years
If you do Hock or Hawk are not going to get any where near the value of what the piece of jewelry is worth. I took a couple pieces of jewelry that I no longer wanted to a shop and he took it all weighed it and gave me a quote based on what the price of gold is going at. I received not nearly as much as it was worth.
RockAndRepublic RockAndRepublic 9 years
What are you waiting for? Do it! If you want, scan through and keep the few you really like but otherwise, get rid of it.
millarci millarci 9 years
I wouldn't give it up. I still have jewelry from my ex's (not as nice as a pink sapphire or engagement ring), but even if it was, I still wouldn't do it. I think they make nice mementos. However, if it was a bad relationship, I would definitely sell it.
spiceG spiceG 9 years
dont get rid of it, unless you absolutely need the money. i had the same situation. I put it in a box in the back of my closet and just let it sit. Now I am in a new 5 yr relationship, I have recently got the jewelry out and have been so happy to have lovely stuff to wear. My current boyfriend does not think of jewelry to give as gifts, so it is nice to have it still. I dont mention to anyone where it came from, even when I get compliments. I enjoy the jewelry as jewelry and feel that it doesnt matter how I got it. just be beautiful and enjoy your new life.
onesong onesong 9 years
No, it's hock. hock 3 (hŏk) Pronunciation Key tr.v. hocked, hock·ing, hocks To pawn: hock a diamond ring. n. 1. The state of being pawned: put the diamonds in hock. 2. The state of being in debt: thought we'd never get out of hock. She's not wandering around selling it like a street vendor at a fair. That said, follow DS's advice to the T and ask your local jeweler. I just got rid of 3 cts worth of diamond earrings from my ex; I never wore them, and they were just sitting there in my jewelry box...but I waited 2 years to do it. So I'd give it a minute!
cubadog cubadog 9 years
I agree I think I would make something else out of it. A dog collar for Cuba would be awesome! Just kidding!
Random2 Random2 9 years
Wait a while before you make the final decision. And I really like the idea of turning your jewels into something else or whipping out certain pieces at special occasions.
runnergeek runnergeek 9 years
i agree with hvanness331! i just finalized my divorce, but my ex and i are still friends. i am turning my gorgeous engagement ring into a necklace. my ex and i hand picked the diamonds and they are very special to me, although the marriage is no longer. although, i too am a sentimental person, so this may not work for everyone.
Marci Marci 9 years
I would put everything away for awhile and make this decision at a later date. Good jewelry is good jewelry, and after awhile who cares how you got it! You also don't get much for jewelry in resale, so you have to really want to get rid of it to do that. I thought about selling jewelry from a long-term relationship too, but have always been glad I didn't succumb to those first emotions after the split.
KrisSugar KrisSugar 9 years
I say keep them. put them away. You'll know they're there, and if a real rainy day ever comes and you need the money... it's there. I would bet in a few years the sentimentality won't seem so intense. Or you could sell them and invest the money in something positive and future related. Like a house, or retirement. Or you could just blow it on something special for you! :) whatever you decide, I wish you the best!
hvanness331 hvanness331 9 years
turn it into something else! I had some gorgeous amethyst earrings, set in gold... I took them to a jeweler and he made me an awesome ring set in silver that I designed myself. I wear it almost every day and I love it! I still have the other earring, so someday I might make a necklace.
time_after_time time_after_time 9 years
do not sell the jewelry. I was in the same position two years ago and wanted to do the same thing. My mom talked my out of it and I'm really really glad she did. I don't wear any of it (especially my promise ring or engagement ring) but every now and then on special occasions I wear a diamond bracelet that he gave me. Now that I can look back fondly on my relationship i'm glad I kept the mementos. My advice would be to keep it all in a drawer for a year, then go through it. Good luck!
the-makeup-blogette the-makeup-blogette 9 years
i think it should be HAWK not peddle or offer for sale by calling aloud in advertise or offer for sale: to hawk soap on television.
the-makeup-blogette the-makeup-blogette 9 years
i think it should be HAWK not hock. 1. to peddle or offer for sale by calling aloud in public. 2. to advertise or offer for sale: to hawk soap on television.
citizenkane citizenkane 9 years
I would probably keep some, and then sell some. I am a pretty sentimental person, so there is no way i could sell every single piece. I agree with DearSugar that you should check with an actual jewlery store before taking it just anywhere. I don't think I would go the Ebay route, though. Good Luck!!
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