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Dear Sugar,

I am writing for some perspective on a recent fling I had. I am studying abroad and we met in Prague. We had a wonderful night of dancing and I ended up back at his hotel. He is Irish and I ended up staying there with his crazy friends for a weekend of fun. He was a perfect gentleman and an awesome lover. The next morning, we all chatted and I felt like I had known them for much longer than just one night. Coincidentally, I had a trip booked to Ireland two weekends later and we had another weekend of great sex and great conversation.

We are now back in our respective cities doing what we were doing before. I have never had an experience like this before and I am not sure if I should let it go and take it for what it was worth, or hold out for what we said when we left — a possibility of a future meeting later on down the road. Any perspective would be much appreciated. — Ireland on my Mind Mindy

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Dear Ireland on my Mind Mindy,

Your trip sounds amazing! It's totally normal to daydream about the possibilities of a relationship with this man, but you need to be realistic here. Is he adamant about staying in Ireland? Do you have commitments in the US? Could you possibly extend your studies abroad?

If I were you, I'd hold onto your amazing memories from the time you spent together but I would also leave the door open to chance — you never know what could happen in the future. Of course, a long distance relationship overseas would be very complicated, but if you're both willing to take one day at a time, the sky's the limit. Good luck!


meumitsuki meumitsuki 9 years
There is no harm in keeping the lines of communication open. My husband's best friend met a man from Kenya while we were in the UK. They always kept talking and now they are married and have been together for 5 years.
Marci Marci 9 years
I agree that you should stay in touch and see how it goes. You'll know within a short time if it was just a great exprience (or two!). Just don't try to push anything that isn't happening naturally. By the way, I had a very similar experience with someone in Denver - two weekends that were amazing. We saw each other a few times here in New York and still liked each other and had a good time, but it wasn't quite the same and things just fizzled out without anyone getting hurt.
Papaya Papaya 9 years
That is totally romantic *swoon* I would take it for what it is and just love the memory.
erratic-assassin erratic-assassin 9 years
take it for what it is....I did the same when i went to spain and WOW. Still one of my best memories ever.
wambalus wambalus 9 years
Agree with both above comments, but on the flip side I randomly met a Scot while I was in the UK and we've been together nearly 5 years now. We talked very early on about what we wanted, as we knew we'd have to make tough choices in order to stay together. Neither of us initially thought it would lead anywhere, but hey, life works in mysterious ways. I'd say keep in touch but you both need to be clear about the nature and future of any relationship.
nicachica nicachica 9 years
honestly, take it for what it was - an amazing experience and hot sex with an Irishman. If that doesn't make for a great story, i don't know what would! I had a similar experience in Spain when i was studying abroad (it was with an Adrien Brody look-alike) but i didn't end up sleeping with him. However, i knew that it wouldn't work out because...well because i knew my fun was over and it was time to get back to my "real" life. However, if you two really had a connection and can keep the conversations going (email, Skype, etc.) then why not go for it? You wouldn't be the first one to fall in love like this. Good luck!
popgoestheworld popgoestheworld 9 years
Stay in touch, there is no reason not to. I have a friend who basically had a European hookup and whenever she went abroad they met up and had hot sex and a whirlwind weekend. She knew they weren't compatible long-term for a LOT of reasons, but they had quite a bit of fun. Relax and enjoy - no need to decide your future with him right now. Just see where it goes.
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