I've been married for about five years. I have been on various birth control pills the entire time, but I am terrified of having sex without using a condom too. My husband is irritated about this because he obviously prefers sex without a condom, but I'm petrified of getting pregnant. Am I being too uptight or is he being too pushy? — Paranoid Penny
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Dear Paranoid Penny,
The answer to your question is neither. Many women prefer to use backup contraception just for piece of mind while other women feel confident in the statistics of their chosen birth control method, so if you're that terrified of getting pregnant, I think you need to do whatever puts your mind at ease.
Since the pill is 99 percent effective, I'm left wondering if there's something else going on here so I suggest you have a heart to heart with your husband so you can talk through some of your fears. Since condoms aren't 100 percent effective at preventing pregnancy either, you might also want to talk about what would happen if you were to get pregnant, just so you're on the same page. Good luck!