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You Asked: What If I Can't Fit Into My Bridesmaid Dress?

You Asked: What If I Can't Fit Into My Bridesmaid Dress?

Dear Sugar,

I was asked to be a bridesmaid for a friend a year ago and since then I've started graduate school and, sadly, piled on some weight. Unfortunately we bought our bridesmaid dresses a year ago, preweight gain, when they were on sale at Ann Taylor. The wedding is coming up in two months and I'm worried I won't be able to lose enough weight to fit into the dress. What do I do if I can't? — Gained Weight Wednesday

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Dear Gained Weight Wednesday,

You have two months so get on it sister! Stop eating junk food and start eating lean protein, whole grains, and a ton of veggies. Get to the gym every day and stop drinking alcohol until the wedding. If you've gained just too much weight to lose in such a short amount of time, call Anne Taylor and see if they can track down another dress for you in a bigger size. If that's not an option, get a referral for a seamstress and hopefully she'll be able to work some magic on your dress: let out some seams, add in some extra fabric, etc.

If all these options I've suggested won't work for your situation, I'd talk to the bride. Ask her if there's another girl in the wedding that you might be able to trade dresses with and as your last resort, ask her if you can buy a different dress in the same color and style that will match the other girls.

Whatever you do, don't leave it to the last minute — two months is still pretty far away so hopefully diet and exercise will do the trick! Good luck.


missyd missyd 9 years
Master Cleanse is dangerous
jrosenberg02 jrosenberg02 9 years
Wow PinkPrincess, if someone had asked me to be in their wedding and then made it clear I needed to lose weight before the big day, not only would I back out of the wedding, I'd probably back out of the friendship. What an awful awful thing to do to your friends. If these are the people you've chosen to stand up with you on the most important day of you life, it seems you should have some reason for wanting them there that has nothing to do with looks.
emalove emalove 9 years
Perfect advice, Dear.
JaimeLeah526 JaimeLeah526 9 years
If you can't/don't want to lose weight then I think your best bet would be to talk to the bride right away. She might be able to help you come up with a solution. If I were her and you didn't come to me and couldn't fit into the dress for the big day I'd be so pissed.
jessie jessie 9 years
check ebay and the ann taylor store like some others suggested. **it happens sometimes, we can't help it. just go with the flow and it will all work out in the end!! :)
ragus ragus 9 years
Yeah I'm with Snowbunny11 as well, If you are looking for thinner people to be in your wedding your looking for models not friends! There is a difference in wanting someone to be happy and healthy and wanting them to be an imgage for you and your wedding. ~along with what everyone else has said... my advice is, get some great music that "pumps you up" and hit the gym!
snowbunny11 snowbunny11 9 years
"why did you gain wait knowing you'd have to fit into this dress?" lol...I'm sure THAT was the number one thing this girl has been thinking about while she was in grad school. And also, we don't know, she could have been underweight before, and NEEDED to gain weight, gaining weight in and of itself does not make someone a fat cow! I agree 100% with Chaton, I'd NEVER be in someone's wedding if they really wanted a skinnier version of me! It's ONE day. I mean, geez, telling people a YEAR before your wedding they should shed some pounds before the wedding day...that's crazy! Like all year long they are thinking about your wedding. I mean, if people are going to lose weight, you think they'd do it for other reasons, like their health, or their own satisfaction with their personal appearance, not the bride's! If you (the poster) are unhappy about gaining weight, you should join a gym or weight watchers. I think people have given some great advice on how to go about that. You can make fitting back into your dress a goal! But I would definitely start looking for your dress on ebay, and meeting with a seamstress just in case. It took you a year to gain the weight, perhaps you can lose it in two months, and that would be the best thing, but don't get too stressed over it!
kendallina kendallina 9 years
This happened to me when I tried on my bridesmaid dress three weeks before the wedding I was in. I couldn't even get the zipper zipped up and started freaking out. I ended up doing the Master Cleanse diet and lost over 20 lbs. in three weeks. I also did a body wrap, which made me lose over 22.5 inches and stayed off until I started eating again and gaining weight. Of course I do not recommend this at all, but I was desperate. Since you have a longer amount of time before the wedding I would suggest working out and cutting carbs. Also, see if you have enough time to get a larger size or if the seams can be let out by a seamstress. Good luck!
sundaygreen sundaygreen 9 years
Yeah, of course she should look into getting the dress altered if she has to, or possibly getting a larger size if possible. But I think just TRYING to lose the weight in the first place is a good idea. I would be doing it anyway, regardless of an event or not! If it's 'extra weight' and not simply a matter of 'oh I have to fit into a certain dress size', then it's perfectly reasonable to shed a few pounds (and hey, even 5 lbs makes a difference!) I think telling your bridesmaids to lose weight before your own wedding (no matter how polite you put it) is a bit much, to be honest... I was maid of honour at my friend's wedding recently and I lost a few before the do, but just for my own peace of mind.
colormesticky colormesticky 9 years
I think the eBay idea is a great one. Then you can resell one or both dresses when you're done with them.
RockAndRepublic RockAndRepublic 9 years
You wont lose it if you dont actually try.
Kelliegrl Kelliegrl 9 years
This happened to two other girls in a wedding I was in a month ago. They ended up buying new dresses. I would think Ann Taylor has things on back order should they not be available in the store. But since the wedding is coming up in two months, that should be enough time to lose weight. Since you're in grad school, take advantage of the gym facilities, many schools have excellent gyms and personal trainers either free or at very low cost for students.
Zulkey Zulkey 9 years
it definitely is not easy to lose weight. if she can afford it, the poster should check in with a dietitian a few times to see what is actually attainable and to have someone to give her some tips and root her on. If the chick needs to lose, I dunno, 40 pounds and the dietitian says "No way, the max you can lose is 10" then do that and work with the dress/bride.
krock19 krock19 9 years
Thanks Sunnyheart. Personally, I can totally relate to gaining weight from medication. I've always been very small due to great genes as well as a really healthy lifestyle. But in the past year, I've been on and off this medication thats made me put on some weight. Not substantial but it would be really hard to loose the weight - particularly given that I exercise daily as well as eat pretty well. I felt like everyone hopped on a bandwagon against this poor girl and it made me rather annoyed. Its not always easy to quickly loose weight. And I really do agree with the past poster who said your friend will understand. This is small potatoes in the realm of wedding planning.
Zulkey Zulkey 9 years
if anything, cutting calories makes the most impact (so don't think you can eat all you want and exercise it away). Fill up a lot on veggies in all forms--gazpacho, crudites and hummus, baby carrots...
WhatTheFrockBlog WhatTheFrockBlog 9 years
Foundation garments may smooth you out and make you look better in a dress, but they don't shrink you. Although I wish they did!
Brooklynbee Brooklynbee 9 years
Foundation garments.
DCRoamer DCRoamer 9 years
* eat, not ear...
DCRoamer DCRoamer 9 years
Why bother going through all that effort (watching what you ear, exercising - what a pain!) Just have the dress let out.
Indigo4320 Indigo4320 9 years
Surely you can lose enough weight in 2 months to fit into it. Honestly though and this isn't said with mean intentions...but why did you continue to gain weight knowing you had to fit into the dress?
cubadog cubadog 9 years
Obviously you know what you need to do as far as diet and exercise, the Ebay advise is great but I would also invest in really good shapewear, I personally think there are better options out there than Spanx. I would definitely invest in Lipo in a Box it is amazing.
millarci millarci 9 years
I just wanted to say I know almost how you feel. I also gained weight before a wedding I was in. Fortunately, I just made it into the dress but I had a hard time breathing throughout the ceremony and reception. Do yourself a favor and don't be like me and try to squeeze into the dress. Try to lose the weight first. Plus, DearSugar had some really good suggestions. I'd give them all a try.
sass317 sass317 9 years
I would stalk ebay for a bigger size dress just in case and get to your nearest Weight Watchers center or join up online. My mom lost 60 pounds in 10 months. Thats the bad thing about buying a dress so far in advance, anything can happen- My husband told me about a wedding where he was a groomsman and the bridesmaids bought their dresses really far in advance and one girl got pregnant! There was some crazy dress swapping right before the wedding hoping she could fit into one of them.
lickety-split lickety-split 9 years
look for another dress on ebay or another online type resale site. don't stress yourself out. in the big picture this is SO not important. i'm sure your friend is deeper than what size you are and is just excited to be getting married. what matters is that you share her special day and support her. :)
sunnyheart sunnyheart 9 years
I agree, Krock19... she may have started a medication that caused the weight gain or something she cannot control. If that is the case, I think trolling ebay or calling Ann Taylor are great ideas to investigate *before* freaking out the bride. That way if you have to talk to her, you can at least say "well I've investigated X, Y, and Z." Good luck!
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