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You Asked: Why Is My Boyfriend So Paranoid?

Dear Sugar,

My boyfriend is convinced that I am out of his league and that I'm going to run off with somebody "better" than him. The truth is he's is the sexiest, most intelligent, kind, generous human being that I know and have ever known. He treats me like a princess and he's just totally amazing. No matter how many times I tell him these things though, he doesn't seem to believe me. He worries that I'm going to leave him and that I'll get bored of him. What can I do to make his paranoia go away? It's really starting to get to me.
—Getting Annoyed Gretta

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Dear Getting Annoyed Gretta,

Having an insecure boyfriend can't be any fun. Since he's so paranoid about you leaving him, something tells me he's either been cheated on in his past or grew up in a broken home as a result of cheating. He's clearly very sensitive so the best thing you can do is give him as much positive reinforcement as possible through your actions and your words.

Since you'll be asking him to open up to you, it's important for you to do the same. Let him know how draining it is for you to constantly have to boost his confidence and that it's starting to take a toll on your relationship. There's only so much you can do so urge him to open up and talk to you about his suspicious and paranoid behavior. His actions are most likely coming from fear so I hope you can get to the root of this problem before it's too late. Good luck to you.


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