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Are You Commitment Phobic?

4 Questions For Addressing Your Commitment-Phobic Self


We hear about men being not ready to commit constantly, but there are plenty of ladies out there with their fair share of commitment-phobic tendencies. You may be surprised to hear that this is no new phenomena. Often, commitment-phobic ladies misdiagnose their issues and blame it on a lack of good available guys or feeling like they're just stuck in a dating rut. Sound familiar? Here are four questions to ask yourself if you're ready to address your commitment phobia head on.

  1. Do you feel like you're in a rut? I understand that there are plenty of women who feel like just finding a good date is close to impossible. But if you feel like you're dating the same guy over, and over, and over again, I've got news for you sister: it's not their fault. There is very little we have control over, but we do have control over the kind of partner we seek and the rituals we have when cultivating a new relationship. If you want things to be different, the change has got to start with you.
  2. Do you have arbitrary rules? Are you a girl who always says no to a blind date? Will you only date guys who are six feet tall? While I'm all for knowing what you want, these "dealbreakers" may be holding you back. Instead of focusing on what he looks like, how much money he makes, etc., put your energy and emphasis on how he makes you feel when you're together.
  3. Are you worried about losing your freedom? If you're in the right kind of relationship, you won't feel like you're losing anything. When you're in a comfortable relationship that's a consummate kind of love, you're not giving up any of your awesome self. You're simply combining forces with someone equally awesome and spreading your good around.
  4. Are you letting past relationships muck up your present? Maybe you have one, two, or a dozen failed relationships under your belt. Regardless of your past heartbreaks, you can't let your past get in the way of your present. Projecting issues from bad boyfriends and pushing new dudes away is hurting one person. And that's you.

Any other tips for addressing your commitment issues? Share them below!

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