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Are You Into Sensitive Men?

Pretty much every serious boyfriend I've ever had has been a hidden softie. You'd never know it from the outside, but they tended to be emotionally open when it counted.

Some guys are always emotionally open, though, and like to tell you how they're feeling — a lot. Some even cry freely. I'm with screenwriter/all around Queen of Quips Nora Ephron on the crying business, though:

"Beware of men who cry. It's true that men who cry are sensitive to and in touch with feelings, but the only feelings they tend to be sensitive to and in touch with are their own."

Is this fair? Are you into overtly sensitive men, or are you suspicious of them?

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crimson-scarlet crimson-scarlet 8 years
A guy who has a genuine cry now and then makes a better lover! There's a big difference between men like than and selfcentred drama men..same goes for women. I agree with teabiscuit. We're all people, people have feelings. We should be considerate of each other. A relationship shouldn't be a competition for attention.
calli-gurl calli-gurl 8 years
i like sensitive guys, yeah. but, depends on what kind of stuff he gets sensitive about. O_O
Teabiscuit Teabiscuit 8 years
I disagree with Nora. I don't think it's fair to say that guys who cry are only concerned with themselves. I wouldn't want a guy who cries all the time or is overly emotional or who uses crying to get what they want. But in the proper context, it's ok if a guy cries. Guys have emotions too and it's ridiculous to think that they could experience something painful and be expected not to cry. I agree with bvhashion. Why reduce men and women to stereotypes? It's trite and unoriginal . Maybe in the 60's and shortfly after when women were fighting for basic rights this line of thinking was a bit more justifiable. But time marches on and we are past that.
bvfashion bvfashion 8 years
I like guys with a sensitive side. I can't Nora Ephron though or any of her movies, all she does is reduce men and women to stereotypes.
Glittersniffer Glittersniffer 8 years
I'm the same as luna! Whenever a guy has cried in front of me, he's been trying to get something, or trying to get out of something.
Nadia24gv Nadia24gv 8 years
It's soooo annoying. My husband is like that and it isn't cute.
Aimeelo Aimeelo 8 years
My bf cries in movies. It's really cute its think, but it does make me feel horrible when I don't cry and all I can think is suck it up buddy.
Natalie-Love Natalie-Love 8 years
When I'm PMSing, or upset over nothing, he gets upset too, while it would be nice if he could be more of a "rock", it's kinda sweet how he cares so much that he could get upset over a little problem of mine. I end up the one saying "No, no need to be upset! It's not that big of a deal, I'm just making it sound like it!" He gets sad that I'm sad. I would get really annoyed if I had a bf who wouldn't stop whining about his own life, though. I know it's a double standard, but meh.
Symphonee Symphonee 8 years
Crying is just a turn off for me unless there is a death in your family or severe emotional distress. I think a guy can be sensitive to emotions and not cry all the time. I agree with Hypno's idea of a good man acknowledging his feelings while still recognizing that they are not the end all be all in every situation
Ac2366 Ac2366 8 years
Men that cry are a huge turn off for me. I used to think it was a good thing when a man could cry in front of me, but my ex ruined that for me for life. He used crying as a tool and purely to manipulate me. It was pathetic looking back. I'm not a big crier myself. I have to be REALLY upset about something for tears to start flowing. You don't have to cry to be able to tell your mate exactly what you're feeling and have good communication.
totygoliguez totygoliguez 8 years
I like a happy medium. A guy that is over sensitive is a turn of fro me but someone that can't tell me how he feels is not a keeper ether. I like someone that when something is bothering him he would tell me and can communicate with me.
hypnoticmix hypnoticmix 8 years
*who is....not who (if).
hypnoticmix hypnoticmix 8 years
Well there's two different topics here "Are you into sensitive men" and "Are you into overtly sensitive men" there's a huge difference in how both will effect a relationship in the long run. IMO the key to normalcy when it comes to this matter is a man who if (comfortable) with their feelings not afraid. However not inclined to use it as a crutch either because then it enters the realm of manipulation and self loathing.
lemamike lemamike 8 years
I like guys who are comfortable talking about and sharing their feelings. I dont need tears.
luna08 luna08 8 years
In my experience, every time a guy cried he was trying to manipulate me. I'm def. jaded when it comes to crying men! :P
mallorycurtis mallorycurtis 8 years
a little sensitivity is always a plus, but i'd rather have a guy that will comfort me when i'm crying rather than the other way around. there's gotta be a balance between sensitivity and toughness.
Chrstne Chrstne 8 years
Sensitive within reason. If you cry all the time -- wow, just not into it. I don't even cry often. However, my BF used to be a bit more sensitive, which made no sense, since he's kind of obsessed with himself ;) Definitely only sensitive when it came to himself. Now...he's not very sensitive. At all. The grass is always greener!
bigestivediscuit bigestivediscuit 8 years
Depends on what he's crying over. So no, I don't particularly mind if he cries or is emotionally sensitive (appropriately so). I'd rather him be in tune with his emotions than the alternative.
genesisrocks genesisrocks 8 years
I like guys who have a hidden soft side. Guys who openly cry not so much.
kismekate kismekate 8 years
Ahh, my high school sweetheart was such a cry baby! And yah, totally still into himself 100%.
nikkisoda nikkisoda 8 years
My sister's bf is a crying machine. Oh and guess what!? He is a selfish piece of shit. :)
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