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If You Think You're Sexy, Then You Are

If You Think You're Sexy, Then You Are

Sometimes you can be washing dishes in a grubby old t-shirt and sweats and feel super gorgeous and sexy, and other times you can be in your hottest LBD and feel disgustingly unattractive. I'm not talking about horniness, I'm talking about sexiness, and it's all a state of mind. It's about feeling good about yourself, feeling confident in your own skin. It's about the positive, bright energy people can feel illuminating out of your soul.

The bottom line is no amount of makeup, hair appointments, or expensive clothes will make you feel desirable unless you have a healthy ego and strong self-confidence. If you believe that you're beautiful, worthwhile and sexy, people will sense that when you walk into a room. So tell me, even though we all have flaws, what makes you feel sexy?


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anakiya anakiya 9 years
feeling sexy is a state of mind. Have ever heard the saying "fake it till you make it?" That's a trick I use for when I don't feel confident, sexy, smart, tall..... you name it. I convince myself that I'm all those things and eventually I believe it. If you believe something enough eventually it becomes a reality. Others will believe it as well. It becomes a vicious circle.... you fool yourself into believing all those things about you, others will notice it and believe and they will treat you accordingly, when that happens you no longer have to "fake" it and instead "become it." TRY IT it works. I'm only 5' tall but some days I feel taller. I've had people tell me that they do not believe I'm only 5' tall. I don't look it. Hahahaha Obviously I don't believe I can change my height but I sure can make others see me differently. Just my 2 cents.
odd-man-out odd-man-out 9 years
Hmm, but how does one feel sexy if there is nothing about themselves that makes them feel sexy and confident? I know a few people (male and female) who honestly have many things to feel sexy about, but they just can't seem to see that...
skigurl skigurl 9 years
i feel most sexy when i have a great tan, and don't need to wear much makeup
missyd missyd 9 years
I'm guessing that comment got removed (shopper) Dont try to hard to be sexy. Sexy is not something you try to be. Either you are born as one, or you aren't. There are not that many TRUE chicks who embody sexy naturally. PS I am not one of them :-p .
austerity austerity 9 years
shopper ~ ehm...people post on the Sugar network because they like fashion, beauty, style, love, sex and a whole lot of other stuff. That doesn't spell U-G-L-Y to me.
jessie jessie 9 years
okay..i never usually comment back, but i gotta this time.. shopper90210...that was very rude and uncalled for. we visit this site for OUR enjoyment, not for others to ridicule us. we offer our opinions when asked. which is what the question was asking. you need to reread the little paragraph that goes under the post a new comment about attacks on other users.
sourcherry sourcherry 9 years
I think I agree with KimBurnett! Some people no matter how they look or how they feel that particular day, they just got it! It's not something you can turn on and off just like that... But I do agree it has a lot to do with the person's self-esteem, and that inner glow... So, in my opinion, you can actually feel sh*tty one day, and be sexy just the same, and vice-versa.
jessie jessie 9 years
when i'm having a bad day,sick, pmsing, dressed in jammies/sweats/lounge clothes or whatnot, i always spray perfume on. that makes me feel sexy. smelling good. i may look like shit, but when my man comes up to give me a hug or a kiss and puts his face in my get the idea.;)
oliveoyle625 oliveoyle625 9 years
When my boyfriend confirms it by telling me how hot I am.
Blackwood Blackwood 9 years
I'm with glowingmoon, and it's not about being vain like skygurl suggested, but BEING TOLD by a lot of people... and a lot of times, I can tell it's true, and I agree with the car accidents incidents, I had a biker looking back to me and hit a parked car (he had stopped to talk to me and then I crossed the street and he kept talking to me while riding, hence hitting the car that was just in front of him), a trucker talking to me (I was the only one on the street and he had already slowed down to imitate my pace and kept talking to me and saying quite nasty things, so I did not really feel flattered either) didn't see the red light and almost gets hit by another car. It was a lucky thing that he had slowed down because otherwise it would have been hell. Sometimes, I had friends witness some of these things and telling me, as I had no clue of what was going on (I'm quite a dreamy person...) And it's not because I believe I'm quite the looker - it's just I happen to attract some people that are creepy/goofy like that (trust me, I could do without the daily creepy old man and construction worker remark). I actually think that all my friends are prettier than me (and I know deep inside they do think so too!), and if I go to a nightclub no guy would ever hit on me (or at least they never do), guys my age don't fancy my body type or (as I've been called by my own mother) my trademark "ice queen" look (a friend of my father said I looked like Jane Russell, my sister says I have Tarja Turunen's features). So I agree with girls who say it's a matter of confidence and/or self-awareness, so for me it depends on my mood and day, sometimes I feel sexy, sometimes I feel like a piece of sh*t.
Advah Advah 9 years
When my hair's curly (and not frizzy), but the best moments are these seconds long passages when I'm walking in the street back from work, and the weather's nice, and suddenly this great song comes on to my iPod and for some reason I get this uplifting feeling and end up smiling for no reason. The random smiling thing hasn't really happened to me in a while for a lot of reasons, but when it does, I feel incredibly sexy, like I own the world. :)
austerity austerity 9 years
Absolutely Eilonwy, you summed it up greatly. It's amazing how much a little playing with your hair, giggling, a pair of naughty eyes and a sexy walk (all that with a touch of subtlety :P) can do. Sure some of us have a natural headstart, but if you don't hone what you've got, it'll go nowhere. Sex and sexiness is all between the ears and you gotta learn how to play with it.
Eilonwy Eilonwy 9 years
I disagree KimBurnett. No matter one's objective degree of attractiveness(if that exists), one's mannerisms, facial expressions, movement and attention to one's body and those of others contributes to sexiness. The feeling of sensuality emanating from someone is *exactly* what I could consider to be a primary factor in allure, appeal. I think someone is especially sexy when they make themselves look as attractive as possible, while still exuding confidence, satisfaction, intrigue and a certain mischievousness/curiosity towards others. As well, modesty renders the person *so* much more sexy - conceit and arrogance (as opposed to confidence) contaminates the beauty, the sensuality of a sexy moment or interaction.
KimBurnett KimBurnett 9 years
I don't agree with this. You are either sexy naturally or you are not. Feeling it has nothing to do with sexiness eminating from you.
havok636 havok636 9 years
this one is going to sound strange: there's a group of modern pin up girls called the suicide girls. they come in all shapes and sizes, have tattoo's and piercings, and they range from fluorescent purple hair to completely bald. now, some women may think them harlots, but i think that they empower women. if a woman who isn't a size 2 with fake boobs and long blonde hair can feel comfortable in her own skin, well then so should we. they always make me feel sexy, and i'm working to put a portfolio and application together.
Greentea1203 Greentea1203 9 years
i feel sexy all the time
RocknBabe RocknBabe 9 years
-When i'm striding out of the gym, soaked with sweat. I turn on an upbeat song and walk like I am the queen of the world. I feel so sexy when I see sweat on my calves... I guess it's that 'high' that exercising gives you! -When I have dark eye make up on because it makes my green eyes REALLY stand out. I always feel sexy when I have my 'smoldering' eyes. :)
lauraxtc lauraxtc 9 years
I feel sexy when I am naked laying on my bed. Or in my bathing suit getting tanned. Or when I get dressed up at work with my work skirts. But mostly when I am with my partner getting it on and he is grabbing me passionately. <3
bigestivediscuit bigestivediscuit 9 years
I need to get my sexy back ... seriously. I lost it like, three years ago. :(
radmama27 radmama27 9 years
Feeling good about my self, the way I look and am feeling that day - thats what makes me feel sexy and confident. Also, catching someone checking me out doesn't help.
citizenkane citizenkane 9 years
I agree with austerity that certain times of the month I feel sexier than other times! I am way more confident during the winter than the summer (probably the opposite of everyone else!). I believe I look better in jeans, tutlenecks, jackets, etc. Also, I have red hair & freckles and I LOVE LOVE LOVE that about myself! I used to hate it, but now I love that it sets me apart!
skigurl skigurl 9 years
easy GlowingMoon. if your head gets any bigger you may not make it out the door.
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 9 years
Feeling good about myself makes me feel sexy. I like the person that I am, and I am comfortable in my own skin. I'm healthy and fit. It's good to be me. I am one of those women who's a head-turner. Both men and women look at me when I enter a room or walk by. I've been known to cause some near car accidents when I was walking down the street. The drivers were too busy gawking at me to pay attention to the road. Fortunately, there was no collision -- just near-misses. :)
Lovely_1 Lovely_1 9 years
I feel sexy when I am naked! I am a naked person, I love stripping down when my bf and me are just watcing some TV on the couch. He loves it, and it makes me feel sexy knowing he loves it :)
austerity austerity 9 years
I SO Agree! I actually feel very sexy when I'm in the right part of my menses cycle, that is the week or two after my period had ended. Sometimes even during. But never before, during PMS. I also want to remarkt that being sexy is so different from being pretty/beautiful. I have seen friends that were rather plain to look at but once they walked into a room with their feline walk, every single guy noticed them. Then again I have gorgeous, classically beautiful friends who are so unaware of their sensuality that only a few men take notice!
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