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This or That: Your BF or Your BFF Forgets Your B-Day?

While you’ve never been one to make a huge deal out of your birthday, you’ve always liked to celebrate it with loved ones. This year, life has been so hectic that you don’t even realize that it's that time of year again, but you find yourself actually looking forward to celebrating. Unfortunately, things turn out less festive than you expected when the closest person in your life completely forgets the big day. Would it be worse if …

This: You wait for your best friend to call all day in hopes that she’ll take you out for a bite or at least come over for a drink, but you never hear from her? You’ve been friends since high school, and if anyone other than your parents should remember your birthday, it’s her!

Or …

That: After waiting for a mention of your birthday from your boyfriend all day, you assume he has something planned, but instead, the day has just slipped his mind? You’ve both been busy, but it’s upsetting that you had to actually remind him on your birthday what the day was.

Which is worse?


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babycat25252 babycat25252 9 years
this actually happened to me as well! by ex-boyfriend forgot my birthday for 2 days! AND I had to call him eventually! I cried the whole day of my birthday because I seriously thought he was dead in a ditch (not answering his phone!). We had been together for 4 years and he didn't even immediately apologize. Obviously, this is why he is my ex-boyfriend.
lindholmka lindholmka 9 years
This has happened to me! The day of my birthday my ass hole (ex) boyfriend now, we woke up the morning of my birthday and he told me he was leaving to go work on a school project all day and I was like wtf, you are joking and I got pissed and said I couldn't beleive he was leaving me on the day of my birthday. He got pissed off and didn't say Happy Birthday or anything and said I'm not dealing with this and walked out and slammed the front door. Then I cried for like 2 hours!! He finally called me at 3 in the afternoon saying he was on his way back. Basically ruined my birthday because I was pissed at him the rest of the night. What an ass hole...grr.... i hate him...
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 9 years
Neither is acceptable. Truthfully, my husband, family, and friends are really good about remembering b-day, as I am with them.
aimeeb aimeeb 9 years
I could deal with it if my friend did but not my boyfriend.
kikidawn kikidawn 9 years
It'd be worse if my guy forgot. That'd break my heart :(
Beastiegirl5 Beastiegirl5 9 years
Both of these suck spectacularly. Being that my birthday is Christmas Eve, neither of them have an excuse to forget. I think having my best friend forget would be worse because we've known each other for so long, but a guy who forgot would probably get kicked to the curb (or made to grovel for ages). If it were a husband that forgot...oh boy, then that would be worse by far...
LadyP LadyP 9 years
Both would be a total bummer!
Hootie Hootie 9 years
My husband has never forgotten my birthday! He always makes it a very special week for me! The day of is always spectacular!
emalove emalove 9 years
Aw, both would really hurt...but I think I'd be more understanding if my friend forgot than if my man forgot.
JaimeLeah526 JaimeLeah526 9 years
Boyfriend is much worse. I'm sure my BFF has other things to worry about but my BF needs to be focused on me.
yadiet yadiet 9 years
TASTEthiss TASTEthiss 9 years
my boyfriend forgetting is much worse.
SusanTeufel SusanTeufel 9 years
I'd be devastated if my fiance forgot my birthday.. If a friend did, then so be it. I forget sometimes too.
looseseal looseseal 9 years
Wouldn't be a big deal either way, because I'd rather not celebrate my birthday. It's not because I'm old or anything like that. I just don't see what the big deal is. So I was born on one particular day. So were millions of other people in a planet of 6 billion and growing. BFD.
cvandoorn cvandoorn 9 years
I don't really care if they forget my long as they make up afterwards!
juliex0x0 juliex0x0 9 years
ugh I can't even choose on this one. My bff from high school is like my wifey, and if the boyfriend forgot that is a huge diss, too :( I have a pit in my stomach thinking about either situation..
AujahAcorn AujahAcorn 9 years
both would be a big bummer.
Shopaholichunny Shopaholichunny 9 years
It would be worse if my boyfriend forgot about it. But, in reality and fortunately for me it's my 21st B-day today and nobody has forgotton it! :D Everybody has been texting me a Happy B-day all day and my boy sent me flowers this morning to my work. :LOVE: it.
injustica injustica 9 years
it would be worse if your boyfriend forgot your special day. your friend may have had something going on and didn't get the chance, but your boyfriend should know better than to forget it.
ThePerfectScore ThePerfectScore 9 years
I'd rather have my Best Friend forget... b/c we've known each other since we were little kids.. so i can forgive one mistake in the time frame of 16 years.... plus we have come to the point where we dont buy each other gifts for birthdays or holidays...we just spend time together... but my boyfriend better not forget! I do soo much for him! haha its the job of a bf to remeber
popgoestheworld popgoestheworld 9 years
I would feel worse if my boyfriend forgot. Mainly because I'm not that great at remembering friends' birthdays so I don't really expect them to be great at remembering mine!
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