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Is Your Boyfriend Making You Fat?

When we start a new relationship, gaining weight is not part of the plan, but unfortunately it can happen. It's a combination of spending more time together and less time at the gym, eating out more, and sharing bottles of wine and dessert. Also, if your guy is eating more and more often, you can end up munching when you're not even hungry. All it takes is 500 extra calories a day and boom! — you're gaining one pound in a week.

A while back I gave you four tips for keeping your diet in check while dating, but what happens if your man's unhealthy habits are starting to rub off on you? Well luckily author Jenna Bergen, who wrote Your Big Fat Boyfriend: How to Stay Thin When Dating a Diet Disaster ($11), has some great suggestions for sticking to your healthy ways. She shared some of her tips on preventing "love-induced pounds" in a recent ABC News interview; check it out after the jump. But in the meantime, tell me, has your relationship affected your waist line?

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bengalspice bengalspice 8 years
I definitely gained weight from all the eating out I started to do when I started dating. I still can't resist high end restaurants even though I have no one to go with.
sparklestar sparklestar 8 years
I have lost 2 stone since getting together with him! I was in an unhappy place and used to comfort eat/eat the wrong foods out of boredom and since we got together I am fitter and healthier. The only times he could be accused of this is when he has said he'll come to the gym, and since I don't drive I rely on him for this, and then he wusses out. We usually make it 3 times a week though, one of which is on my own after work. I just have self-control now? If he is pigging out on biscuits and chocolate then I'll call him a fatty (he doesn't mind) and then avoid it myself. Or maybe have one. That'll be enough though. Just maintain your own self control and cook your own meals if this is an issue! Hardly rocket science.
Autumns_Elegy Autumns_Elegy 8 years
We both gained a lot of weight when we started dating. Whenever I was at his we had pancakes, cookies, a lot of sweet foods that are really really bad for us. When we were at mine we had healthy, balanced but very large meals, or waffles. We're now cooking together and trying to keep it healthy for us, and very very slowly the weight is coming off, it would come off a lot faster if we didnt indulge in a heap of ice cream after dinner!
rowlkitty rowlkitty 8 years
My bf really likes to cook and when we first started dating he would makes these big, elaborate dinners and of course I would eat it all. All I had eaten for the past 3 years was dorm food so it was a nice change. Now we still cook together but try to use healthier things and I'm trying really hard to get him to make smaller portions.
emalove emalove 8 years
I've heard of this happening to some women, but it's never happened to me!
Miss-Senorita Miss-Senorita 8 years
Sure is. We're making eachother fat dining out like every other week and movie nights where we veg out like it's no 2moro. But he's back in the gym and I'm soon to follow.
Spectra Spectra 8 years
In the 5 years that I've been with my husband, I've lost weight and kept it off. I know exactly why, too...when I'm in a relationship, I want to look good so I can feel better about myself and thus feel sexier. Plus, my husband is my first/only sex partner, so I feel like keeping myself fit and in shape is a good thing for the relationship...I don't ever want to disappoint him or anything. Also, he eats like a bear and if we get unhealthy food in the house, he eats it before I can even touch it. And all the healthy stuff I buy for myself is usually stuff he doesn't like, so he keeps his hands off of it.
jessie jessie 8 years
i didn't really pick up his habits...more like getting more comfortable around him. when first dating i would barely time went on..well..i began to eat more. plus we ate out alot, cuz neither of us had a place of our own. now i'm almost down to what i was when we first started dating..yes!
bluepuppybites bluepuppybites 8 years
I was making my boyfriend fat!! I would eat like 6 small meals a day and want him to eat with me, well since I would go running every night and he wouldn't he wasn't burning the calories, he gained like 20 lbs in a month!
crayolasky crayolasky 8 years
Oh, and I work out regularly regardless... it's definitely possible to fit it in even if you spend a lot of time with your bf.
crayolasky crayolasky 8 years
No. My boyfriend isn't the healthiest eater...but he lets me eat whatever I want. Although, maybe I've never really had a problem because a) I don't drink wine or like it for that matter... although I do drink otherwise, and b) ii don't cook much, but the only things I know how to cook are really healthy meals. Although, one of my exes really liked chocolate chip cookies lol and I made them for him. Now, that can definitely be a diet breaker. But I think I've generally maintained my weight. Plus, I always lose weight in the first few weeks or so in a relationship because of the "Honeymoon phase"...too happy to eat!
lauraxtc lauraxtc 8 years
I gained a lot of weight with my ex!!! But now i am back to normal and keeping the weight off with my new bf by keeping up at the gym and working out with him. : P
Muirnea Muirnea 8 years
I think I make my bf fat instead of the other way around. I've never watched what I eat really, I eat ice cream and cookies and stuff all the time, lol. He's the one who usually tries to eat healthy and stuff b/c he used to have a weight problem when he was younger.
TidalWave TidalWave 8 years
Well, I wouldn't date someone who didn't care about his healthy; so all of my boyfriend's have eaten pretty healthy. However, I do only eat out (restaurants/take out) when I'm in a relationship, so that definitely is fatty.
KadBunny KadBunny 8 years
Can't say yet.. we both have freakishly high metabolisms haha. But we do pig out together.
aimeeb aimeeb 8 years
5 yrs and I can say no. What's the difference if you lived with your family and they had poor eating habits. People need to be their own adult and do what's best for them, I would think you would try to help your boyfriend eat more healthy instead of caving in and eating crap. Just my .02.
designerel designerel 8 years
Nah. Not yet, at least. We eat out together about twice a week, but we also work out together so I think that's helping me from packing on the pounds.
deeann deeann 8 years
i have to say i definitely gained weight while with my bf..the fast food dashes and eating late at night. that and he can eat a ton and still be super skinny while i still need to
le-romantique le-romantique 8 years
My boyfriend and I really don't care about weight and what we eat. I've maintained the same weight since i was 17 (almost 21 now), just now i do yoga daily so i don't run out of breath walking down the street ( i was really unfit during college, never "fat" though, i don't think.) Either way, we take turns making food/ picking where we eat and we don't really eat all that bad...
Smacks83 Smacks83 8 years
I had put on close to 30 lbs "because of my boyfriend" (we;ve been dating for almost 5 years now). I used the quote because thats what I would tell myself, then one day while I was being pissy towards him about the fact that I felt fat it kinda dawned on me. Not once did he ever shove food in my mouth or order greasy food for me. Nope. Not once. It is my personal responsibility to take care of what I choose to eat (and choose what not to eat). Thats my new thing for 09 and its been working. Now looking back, I think it was very unfair for me to blame him and be angry at him for my putting on weight. It's an easy way out of taking personal responsibility to say "You did this to me". Unless your bf/husband is forcing food into your mouth and hiding all the veggies in your house, then girl it is your own fault.
cfp cfp 8 years
I guess it should be the opposite, but I tend to gain weight when I'm SINGLE and lose it when I'm dating someone. I think it's because when I'm in a relationship I feel like I finally have someone to impress so I think more about what I eat and I'm more motivated to work out... When I'm single, though none of that applies. I hang out all day eating crap and I don't care because I figure I have no one to show off for and if a guy doesn't like me initially with a few extra pounds then who cares?
Lovely_1 Lovely_1 8 years
lol well i think i made my boyfriend healthy. Before me, he never went to the gym and ate out almost EVERY night! Now I cook good healthy meals for him and FINALLY got him coming to the gym with me! It's nice because now he motivates ME to go one nights when I feel off :)
care0531 care0531 8 years
I cook 2 different meals every night for dinner so I can have something healthier then he does.
1cigarrette 1cigarrette 8 years
I have definitely gained weight because of my boyfriend. During the first 2 years it was all good because I was recovering from an ED and he was the only one who could get me to eat without guilt and whatnot, the third year I got TOO comfortable with food for the first 6 months and then obsessive during the other 6 months (also because the relationship was pretty much on the rocks), we eventually started to fix our problems and the weight came back on (in a good way) and now... well... I do healthy dieting all week and mess it up during the weekends because he just loves food too much (as we rarely see each other during weekdays). Egh. It's sad to see how much my weight depends on him.
chaumeout chaumeout 8 years
It's "happy" weight though, right?
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