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This or That: Your Parents Are Bored or Too Busy?

You moved a few hours away from your hometown just over two years ago, and while things were shaky at first, you’ve really adjusted to your new life. You’ve made a ton of friends, you have a great job, and you love where you live. The only problem is that things with your parents have been kind of frustrating. You’ve always been a close family, but something seems to have changed since you’ve been out on your own and far away from them. Would it be worse if they . . .

This: Call you incessantly, every day, multiple times a day? Their questions are endless; you want to be able to talk to them, but instead of ever having a good conversation, you just feel completely irritated with them.

Or . . .

That: Never have time to talk to you, and usually forget to call you back? You know they’ve tried to take up new hobbies, but this is just ridiculous. Even when you do get them on the phone they seem distracted and uninterested.


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Since I have moved out, I still talk to my mom everyday or nearly everyday, but she seems a lot more apathetic about me. I know she is enjoying her relatively child-free life (little bro lives with my dad), but you can still enjoy your new life without completely forgetting about me, and acting like you don't care at all.
JaimeLeah526 JaimeLeah526 9 years
My Mom is this my Dad is that. It's incredibly frustrating. It wouldn't be so bad if Dad was hearing it from Mom but they're divorced. Is it too much to ask for to have a balance of both parents?
Random2 Random2 9 years
My Mom and I are pretty close, but we have a good balance worked out for talking, and it's better since I've got her on MSN on Facebook (having my Mom on Facebook really keeps me in line with all the 'can Facebook ruin your career' stuff out there. I think twice about what I post now). But, I think 'this' would be worse if I heard from her constantly. I think I'd get annoyed with her and stop appreciating the calls. With 'that', I could at least e-mail her or have a quick chat on MSN while having breakfast.
Meike Meike 9 years
My mom calls me constantly and I appreciate it. It definitely shows me she cares. The second option is worst for me. I'm close to my family.
Marci Marci 9 years
I'd really hate it if my parents had no time to talk to me. I couldn't help but personalize that one.
emalove emalove 9 years
That would be worse for me...I would hate it if my family didn't have time for me and never returned me calls. I'm super-close to my parents and my sister so I can't even imagine that option. I'd rather have them up my a** with multiple phone calls. At least I'd know they missed me and still wanted to talk to me!
JessiShaye JessiShaye 9 years
I've lived away from home for 4 years now and my parents and I talk at least twice a day and 40329874298 on top of that. It doesn't really bother me. They don't get upset when I don't answer, so I guess it's cool. I'd be more upset if I needed them and they didn't care anymore.
omilawd omilawd 9 years
I HATE talking on the phone, so if they called me every day, multiple times a day, I'd get ticked off. Quick.
ninjastarlett ninjastarlett 9 years
My parents are "this" right now! I would love it if they started having more hobbies... then I wouldn't feel as bad about not being to talk to them that much.
rpenner rpenner 9 years
I think "That" would be worse. My parents are neither of these types. I talk to them on average about twice a week. I would definitely be annoyed if they called me three times a day but I think it would be worse if they never had time to talk to me. I've always been close to my parents and it'd be upsetting for them to not be involved in my life.
Hootie Hootie 9 years
"That" would be worse.
KathleenxCouture KathleenxCouture 9 years
I think "that" would be a lot worse. Honestly, I would rather my parents call me all the time and actually care about my life than not call and never listen to what I had to say when we did talk. My parents are kind of in between these two extremes..they let me have my space but when we do talk they are all ears!
bengalspice bengalspice 9 years
My mother calls so much, she doesn't let me have a life!
anna_muffin anna_muffin 9 years
Wow, a tough one. I live with my boyfriend and his parents are the first type and it's awfully annoying him and sometimes also me. My mom, on the other hand, is extremely busy and we don't talk often. I'm busy too, so I don't mind and I have no doubts that she's interested in what's going on in my life. But since "busy and interested" is not an option, I picked the first one, because it must be sad when your parents don't care what you do.
CoconutPie CoconutPie 9 years
My parents are more like the "That" type. When I was in Europe last summer I'd call to give news and get some, and they were always too busy, didn't listen to what I had to say or always had to hang up after a minute. They would never call back and I found it quite disrespectful since they still had time to have dinner with friends every night. I'm sure I wouldn't mind if they cared too much and called a lot.
mnp mnp 9 years
I think my parents are good about this. I'll make the effort to call them but if I don't call them within a week, they'll call to see what's up. But I picked "This" because I'd rather they harass me so I know what's going on with them and what's going on with my surprises for either parties.
Shopaholichunny Shopaholichunny 9 years
Awww Partysugar! :) My parents are not like that at all. They let me live my life and they never call me. I'm the one who calls them to check up on them! :P
partysugar partysugar 9 years
I have parents that are like the this. In fact, its only 9:10 in the morning and my mom has already called me today! It can be annoying sometimes, but I don't mind because I love them and they are my parents!
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