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Your Personality Quirks Come Out When You Eat Out

People say you really get to know someone when traveling with them or living with them. To that I would add — and when you go out to eat with them.

New York Times restaurant critic Frank Bruni would agree. He recently wrote about the odd quirks and desires people bring to the dinner table. Whether your quirks are about sharing food, hoarding food, being picky, or pretending to make a big show of eating when you've left most of the food you started with on your plate — it seems that your relationship to eating, especially when you eat out, can be a key to your personality. "People are as strange about eating as they are about love," he says. "They want what they want."

I have to say — I’m definitely a hoarder type. I hope this doesn’t mean I’m a selfish person in other ways, but I’m not big on family-style eating. One of my biggest pleasures is going to a restaurant, poring over the menu, and after an anguished process of elimination I take dead seriously (salad or soup? steak or risotto?), I settle in and hope I chose well. (But yes — you can have a bite!) I'm a sharer when it comes to bills, however. Folks who pull out the calculator (mentally or literally) drive me bananas. And don't get me started on people who are rude to wait staff or cheap tippers!

What are your quirks when eating out?

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Chrstne Chrstne 7 years
Sharing food is okay with me, but I prefer to finish my own meal. I hate people who are rude to wait staff. The rule is never to be mean to people who serve you your food! My boyfriend told me a horror story of when he was a kid and worked at a restaurant, one of his fellow employees actually ejaculated into a dish!! Table manners are also a must. Since I grew up in a well-to-do family that was big on impressing people, my manners were absolutely on point, all the time. Even at places like McDonald's, I will put my napkin in my lap and arrange any eating tools according to how they should be arranged. It's habit now, and I know it freaks some people out, haha.
ren_kr ren_kr 7 years
I don't mind sharing food, but only in the beginning when NOONE has touched their forks with their mouths. Once that fork or spoon touched your slobber, you better not get close to my food. I am super anal about sharing slobber indirectly. I also can't stand people who underpay their share of tips especially.
Briandiesel Briandiesel 7 years
BTW- That was a really cute article Tres`
Briandiesel Briandiesel 7 years
I have always thought that dinner dates are always the best option and not for the obvious reasons of being able to spend a semi-set amount of time together. When you eat out you get to see exactly how people are from how good their manners are to how they treat other people, to how cheap or showy they are. It's always a definite ender if a date is short/rude to a waiter/busser. If my friends are rude to waitstaff that doesn't deserve, they know pretty quickly I won't have it. Thank you and please are required words when you eat out with me.
Autumns_Elegy Autumns_Elegy 7 years
I just drink too much wine and am overly polite to the wait staff. :p
lellybear lellybear 7 years
i am a food segregationist. and i eat things in specific order. whatever tastes best hot gets eaten first, generally fries are the first to go if i have them. and i don't mind sharing all that much. and as far as tipping, i tip based on the service i receive and it certainly isn't always worth an 18% tip.
MissSushi MissSushi 7 years
I think the wages for the service industry being so low that tips have to be the entire income is pretty ridiculous. You'd think itd be the resturant, you know the place you're spending way more money at then the food should cost, would be the one responsible for paying their employees. My husband is a certified bartender, and it always drove me nuts when he'd inquire in a new area for jobs and their first offer of wages would be ridiculously low. Gratuity should BE gratuity, a gift for good service and helpfulness. Anyway, I was never a food hoarder until I met and started going out with my husband. After we were familiar with each other, he had an incredibly annoying habit of assuming everything on my plate was fair game. He's lucky he never tried it in the beginning, lol, its a deal breaker for me. Not only would he barely ask, he'd just reach over and fork it. UGH. I stopped that quick, but it turned me into the grinch about my meals becuase he still assumes if he asks he can eat parts of whatever. No thanks.. thats why we order for EACH person. I wan't to eat my meal, and take home my leftovers. I loove leftovers. The total irony is that he's kind of stingy with his own food, and i can count the times ive asked to try his, usually something strange or unusual that hes raving about, and he was always very reluctant.
VicVicVictooriaa VicVicVictooriaa 7 years
I'm a waitress so I am very easy to go out to eat with, I love sharing my food and I have no problem paying extra for my meals. But I cannot stand people who do not tip at least 18%...please, if you are going to go out to eat don't forget the waitstaff! We only make $4 an hour which is what covers taxes
fashionplate525 fashionplate525 7 years
I am not only a picky eater, but I grew up an only child and never really learned to (or had to) share my food. So while I make a point to offer a bite of what I am eating while out with friends, it definitely seems awkward and unnatural!
cherrypop cherrypop 7 years
Whenever i'm eating out with my family, i'd usually order something to share with my younger bro, with the occasional exception of either of us wanting something for ourselves. I try to do the same with my boyfriend but that usually doesn't work. The reason why I like ordering something to share is because I know I can never finish a plate of food on my own because restaurant portions are usually huge (and I'm a small eater even though I love food). I do polish off my own plate if it's my mom's cooking. I think my eating personality is weird. Either that, or it's an asian thing.
lickety-split lickety-split 7 years
my girls are very picky (odd) about sharing food. we were at their grandparents (husbands family) and my youngest daughter said she would like more steak. rather than give her another steak, my mil gave her what was left of her own steak :rotfl: my daughter (8) literally had a gag reflex and had to be excused! my husband and middle daughter and i all knew why, but my mil was like "is she coming down with something". ah, funny stuff.
cloroxcowgirl cloroxcowgirl 7 years
I'm what most would consider a 'picky eater' meaning I'm mostly vegan. But in reality I can usually find something on the menu that will suffice, because I'm not hardcore vegan. Also, I like what I like, I know what foods make me happy. And I don't mind sharing a bite with other people.
schnappycat schnappycat 7 years
I don't like to share my dessert. If it's a large slice of cake or whatever and I know ahead of time that my husband or someone else wants to share, it's usually ok (although I then find myself woofing it down to ensure I get more!). But if it comes and it's small and good and chocolatey, hands off! Order your own damn dessert. I don't take kindly to chocolate thievery. :)
soapybub soapybub 7 years
Yeah, I'm also very selective. I usually gravitate towards things I know I already like, which usually leaves me to choose between two dishes at a favorite restaurant. I will offer a bite to friends, but I really don't like sharing my food. I don't really know why, but maybe it's because my dad and my brother always eat everything I buy when I go to the grocery store. My eyes are also quite bigger than my stomach. Family style makes me anxious. I always worry about eating too much, and I also worry about running out of food.
mondo mondo 7 years
I HATE sharing food! I am a picky eater & select my food carefully. I do not when people like to order family style in order to "sample" everything. My other pet peeve is, after carefully narrowing what I'm going to order (oh, there are so many ingredients I don't like -- sun dried tomatoes, ginger, cheese on meat, etc), there's always the "what are you getting? round-robin & someone switches their order to what I'm getting. Other than that, I LOVE going out to eat!
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 7 years
I'm really decisive about my food. I know what I want, and nothing else will do. My husband thinks it's somewhat picky (because I seem inflexible), but that's how I am with food. I'm very specific. :) I'm generous with the bill, though, especially with family and friends. I don't mind evenly splitting, even if my entree was considerably less pricey. Shoot, I don't mind footing the entire bill.
brilliance13 brilliance13 7 years
I love family style too and often I will take half my dish and split our dishes with each other. However I do think it's wonderful to have an accountant or someone good with math at the table to do the final bill whether it is me or someone else :) makes things easier at the end or we just split it down the middle.
Ac2366 Ac2366 7 years
I hate sharing my food and hate even more when people try to help themselves to a bite of what I'm eating.
imLissy imLissy 7 years
I am very good at eating. I'll clean my plate and then eat whatever you have leftover and still have room for dessert. I'm only 100 lbs, so people are usually impressed :P
Pistil Pistil 7 years
I have no problems sharing food. I can also be very indecisive when ordering. I like to try new/strange dishes when I can, but sometimes I panic and end up ordering the usual. And my boyfriend will order a burger at a nice sit down restaurant. And my best friend always makes it a goal to finish everything on her plate, which is funny because she's been notorious for quitting. Interesting.
mix-tape mix-tape 7 years
UGH one of my best friends has a friend from work who has occasionally joined us for dinner. I hate eating with her ANYWHERE because she is ultra picky. Even after 30 minutes has passed (no lie, it took her that long once to look at the menu) and she finally decides on her meal, she has NOT ONCE been satisfied with her food since I've been out with her. Then she begs everyone at the table for their food and complains to the restaurant about her dinner. It's very frustrating to eat with her to say the least.
efsarbaby efsarbaby 7 years
someone once told me i eat like i wild animal.
psychobabble psychobabble 7 years
I'm a big sharer, I'm always offering bites of whatever I have (if it's good!). With my husband though, it's always a trade for some of his food. I'm also a sharer with the bill but less so, I'd rather divide it up to around the price of what I ordered but rounding up to cover the table is fine.
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