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Zoning Rules Don't Consent to Sex Parties

Zoning Rules Don't Consent to Sex Parties

The Party Police totally killed the vibe recently in one Maryland neighborhood. Families in the close-knit Bethesda community weren't happy that neighbor Paul Pickthrone was hosting "bondage and discipline, dominance and submission, sadism and masochism" (BDSM) parties in his castle-like house that is decked out with dungeon apparatuses. As one participant explained, the parties attracted a diverse group:

"Men, women, transgender, heterosexuals, gays, bisexuals. Every ethnicity. White-collar and blue-collar. It's really very, very diverse — though we do have an unusually high percentage of lawyers. I don't know why."

Despite the cross-section of people, the nonkinky residents wanted to put an end to the "sex parties." But since the law does not regulate what activities people can consensually engage in at a party, the police couldn't do anything — until they found a loophole. Paul collected donations to cover the cost of hosting the party, and he donated the rest to a sexual freedom group. Since money changed hands, zoning officials declared that he needed a commercial permit. So now Paul must either cancel his parties or stop collecting donations. I'm guessing his next event will be BYOW (bring your own whip).

Would you get upset if your neighbor hosted sex parties?

Source: Flickr User Pro Bondage

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shangri-la shangri-la 6 years
Wish I could participate the parties some day
Yogaforlife Yogaforlife 7 years
The neighbors are probably just uptight and are not comfortable that there is a house in their neighborhood hosting that kind of party. I say, as long as it's maintained indoors and the party goers are discreet, then nobody should care. Yeah, parents may be freaked out but maybe they could have advance notice of upcoming parties so that they know to keep their kids away from that house?
postmodernsleaze postmodernsleaze 7 years
Yeah, I'm with everyone else. As long as it's not noisy and their business isn't exposed through a bunch of open windows, I could care less.
trinitycc trinitycc 7 years
Ha! I live about 20 miles away. Nice neighborhood; someones spouse probably wanted to go and that's how the cat got out of the bag. I agree with most; if it's quiet and all are consenting adults, who cares?
Studio16 Studio16 7 years
I can see why parents would be a little freaked out - some of that stuff can get pretty crazy, but if they're dressing discreetly until they get in the house and keep hush-hush about the whole thing, then it's no one's business. If I were a mom in that neighborhood, I'd probably be creeped and grossed out, but unless they'd kidnapped someone's kid for a sacrifice, I wouldn't be outright terrified.
Autumns_Elegy Autumns_Elegy 7 years
I would be annoyed if I didn't get an invite. ;) Not really my thing but it'd be a nice compliment. As long as they didn't do it outside I'd be happy.
Venus1 Venus1 7 years
Agree with all the above. As long as they are not noisy who cares. ANd no, it's not something I would want to attend in a million years!
Kimpossible Kimpossible 7 years
ditto, betty wayne. And I also agree with the first few posters as well. What goes on behind closed doors as long as all are consenting adults - it's none of my business.
runningesq runningesq 7 years
Ha, Betty ! Honestly, I'd perfer my neighbors host sex parties than what they currently do - which is sell drugs (hellllo no knock warrant at 3:00 am).
xgreenfairyx xgreenfairyx 7 years
Ditto, Betty Wayne.
Bettye-Wayne Bettye-Wayne 7 years
I would only be mad if they didn't invite me.
jenni5 jenni5 7 years
I do wonder how his neighbors found out about what was going on inside though?
jenni5 jenni5 7 years
Agree with both of you. So long as it's kept behind closed doors and quiet it's not that bad. But then again, I probably wouldn't want all these people wandering into the house next door to mine either.
tlsgirl tlsgirl 7 years
I don't care, as long as they're not keeping me up in the middle of the night. Most of the stories have said that participants were instructed to dress discretely when outside the house, and I believe the renter's story about taking donations rather than outright charging. It seems like it was more about complaints from neighbors who said the parties were loud than anything really zoning-related.
fuzzles fuzzles 7 years
"...we do have an unusually high percentage of lawyers.: :rotfl: As long as guests are respectful to the neighbors, what goes on behind closed doors between consenting adults really is not the business of anyone else. It's sort of a whatever makes your peanut butter Skippy kind of thing.
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