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For some people, receiving and performing oral sex in any form — cunnilingus, fellatio, or anilingus — is irresistible. It's intimate, it's hot, and it offers some (especially people with clitorises) a quicker path to orgasm. Not to mention, the tongue is an incredibly powerful muscle, capable of intensely stimulating some of the body's most sensitive parts. The catch? So many default oral-sex positions can feel uncomfortable to be in for long periods of time. A little dramatic, sure, but have you tried 69ing as the partner on top? It's a lot of work! Lesser-known comfortable oral-sex positions do, in fact, exist to allow both you and your partner to feel supported and free to soak in every satisfying bodily sensation instead of worrying you'll crush your partner if your arms give out.
Before you worry that "comfortable" is synonymous with "vanilla," rest assured the oral-sex positions below are as hot and fun as they are easy on your body. Plus, if you're a little less focused on sex gymnastics and more focused on feeling stimulated, it's likely you'll reach orgasm quicker than you think — not to mention, you'll have more energy to keep sexy time going even longer.
So let's start with blowjob-specific sex positions. Carol Queen, PhD, a sexologist for sex toy retailer Good Vibrations, says that blowjobs aren't normally comfortable because of the way a penis naturally curves. "Most penises have some degree of curve to them, and often the positions we choose — or just wind up in, TBH — have the penis curving one way, and the curve of our mouth cavity and throat going the other." (This is the reason why kneeling in front of your partner doesn't always work.) Instead, Queen suggests getting into positions where the penis follows "the curvature of your mouth," which will allow you to enjoy blowjobs more and stay more comfortable as you give them.
See below for two A+ specific blowjob sex positions that are both comfortable and fun. (FTR, they can be used for cunnilingus or anilingus, too.) Then keep reading for more oral-sex positions you can use, no matter your partner's genitalia.
Blowjob Oral-Sex Position: Sideways 69
In the typical 69 sex position, one partner lies on their back while the other partner hovers over them with their body facing the opposite way. This may work for short stints, but if you say your arms never get tired from supporting yourself, you're probably lying. The sideways 69 sex position, however, offers both parties all the good parts of 69ing, minus the strain. For this oral-sex position, both partners face each other and lie on their sides, with one partner's head in line with the other's genitals and vice versa. From here, both partners can go down on each other simultaneously. For blowjobs specifically, this is a position Queen recommends since your mouth will likely be aligned with the curve of your partner's penis.
Blowjob Oral-Sex Position: Face Down, Ass Up
This is another blowjob-specific sex position that's both comfy and kinky. Similarly to 69 and sideways 69, the receiver lies face-up, while the other partner kneels over the receiver with their butt in the direction of the receiver's face, says Queen. You can do this with both your legs on one side of their body or fully straddling them. Queen says, "from that position, the penis (most commonly) curves in the same direction as your throat, which is easier to maneuver, even if you are not trying to deep-throat them."
Oral-Sex Position: Sitting Pretty
Use the edge of the bed or a comfy chair to your advantage: Have oral sex while sitting down. For this oral-sex position, the receiver should sit as far to the edge of a comfortable surface as they can, and the giver will perform oral while sitting or kneeling in front of them, using their partner's hips as an anchor if necessary. This position allows the receiving partner to maintain full support of their body, and it allows the partner performing oral to spread their body weight across their legs instead of just their knees.
Oral-Sex Position: Classic Horizontal Oral
A classic oral-sex position you can't go wrong with is one in which the receiver lies on their back while the giver lies on their stomach with their head at their partner's pelvis. For added leverage, the giver can wrap their arms around their partner's upper thighs. For added stimulation, the giver can use a free hand to finger their partner, massage their balls, or tease their nipples. Regardless, both partners' bodies are fully supported on the bed at all times.
Oral-Sex Position: The Kivin Method
The Kivin method, or sideways oral, is one of the more underrated oral-sex positions, in my opinion. Not to be confused with sideways 69, the Kivin method involves the receiver lying on their back, bending one leg at the knee and bringing it up toward them. The giver lies perpendicular to their partner, placing their neck under their partner's raised leg and their head at their partner's genitals. Given the angle, this position gives way for even more stimulation and pleasure for clitoris owners.
Oral-Sex Position: Tummy Time
In this oral-sex position, both partners lie on their stomachs. The giving partner will lay with their head between their partner's legs at their pelvis. This is a solid position for anilingus, but for a slightly better angle — especially if the receiving partner has a vulva and clitoris — slide a pillow underneath the receiving partner's pelvis to elevate it and allow the giver an easier reach.
Oral-Sex Position: Modified Face Sitting
Sitting on someone's face sounds incredibly hot at face value (ha), but I'd be lying if I said I didn't have a slight fear of suffocating my partner if my legs get uncomfortable or vice versa. Modified face sitting is a slightly easier solution. For this, the giving partner should lie on their back, with their upper body propped up at an angle using a couple of pillows. The receiving partner should then comfortably mount their partner's face, using the bed frame or wall in front of them as a balance. This should, ideally, require less effort on both the giver and receiver's part.
Oral-Sex Position: T Stand
Standing sex positions can easily be adapted for oral sex in a way that doesn't involve one partner digging their knees into the hard ground. Instead, especially if you have a mattress that's lower to the ground, try what I call the T stand, an oral-sex position in which you and your partner will form a sideways capital T. The giver should lie on their back with their head at the very end of the bed's corner, while the receiver faces the bed and stands over their partner's head. From this position, the receiver can easily lean over and tease and pleasure their partner during sex.
— Additional Reporting by Taylor Andrews