The Type of Man You're Not Meant to Be With, According to Your Zodiac Sign
Have you ever had a really bad date? Zodiac signs could be to blame. Emily Ratay at YourTango is telling us who we shouldn't date according to our zodiac signs.
Incompatibility is sometimes a hard pill to swallow.
What's your love compatibility? It might be easier to just ask you if you know what zodiac signs you're most compatible with and the ones you should avoid at all costs? You always hear about the type of guy you're meant to be with, but never the one you're NOT meant to be with.
Wouldn't it be so much easier if astrology and your daily horoscope told you which guys to look out for instead of the ones who will end up just being another ex?
I know it would for me. I would be too worried about trying to find the men I should stay away from (so that I could stay away from them) that I would totally miss out on all the other guys who would be the better options for me. Maybe that's just me, but you get my point.
Of course, knowing which type of guy you're NOT meant to be with when you're already in a relationship might actually be a good way to know if the relationship you're in is actually worth the trouble.
Finding the right guy — like, the one you want to spend a long time with — can be difficult. Finding out the truth on love compatibility is not easy; it's hard to read the signals.
It's so hard to know what someone wants upfront (without being too assertive and creepy) that you almost have to waste your time just to get a straight answer about his intentions.
That sounds bad, but I am not a fan of dating. Sure, I like to meet new people, but actually going on dates is always so painful for me.
I'd rather go on a date with Jigsaw than another date with a guy who makes me drive 45 minutes just for him to be unable to keep a decent conversation.
It's happened before and I'm sure it'll happen again. But dating isn't always that bad. It's being with someone for a long time, trying to decide if it's meant to be, that takes some deep thought.
Trying to know whether the person you're dating is the one you want to spend your life with can be difficult.
Obviously, you can't outright ask him — I mean, you could, but I don't know how that kind of conversation would happen — and just "knowing" if the guy you're with is the one you're meant to be with forever doesn't always work for everyone.
What does work is knowing what astrology teaches about your zodiac sign says about you and your preferences for love.
If your personality is more outgoing and extroverted, say, then you know that the man you're meant to be with isn't going to be someone who would rather stay home on a Friday night instead of at the club, right? Makes a lot more sense that way, doesn't it?
So, by that logic, keep reading to find out which guy you're not meant to be with, based on astrology. Because let's face it, not every guy is going to be "The One," but it's up to you to weed out the bad guys and find that special one.
Aries (March 21 — April 19)
Aries, the only thing you hate more than having a "lazy day" yourself is dating someone whose lazy day is the only thing in their schedule for Saturday. What I mean is, you are all about go, go, go and the only reason why weekends exist is because they let you get done everything you couldn't fit in during the week.
So, when going out for sushi and a movie is on your schedule, and your SO would rather stay in for the six weekend in a row, you know that this relationship probably isn't going to work out.
There might have been a time when you thought that the fact that he's probably about 50% couch potato was endearing and a way for you to "slow down and smell the roses" or whatever, but now, you know better. You need someone who is on your level all the time, not just when the mood strikes. Get yourself a new man, babe, this one isn't meant to stick around.
Taurus (April 20 — May 20)
Taurus, you love all the lovey-dovey crap that would make any other person roll their eyes and you expect your partner to feel the same (as you, not everyone else). So, when you finally realize that the man you're with — or the one you've been considering asking out — is so much more infatuated with himself than you, then you know something isn't exactly right.
You don't mind having someone who takes pride in looking good before you two go out and all that, but when he'd rather kiss his own reflection before bed and not you, you know it's not gonna last.
Unlike some people in this position, it's not so much the fact that he likes being the center of attention that bothers you; it's the fact that he would rather take care of himself than YOU that really bugs you. How are you supposed to keep up with his exhausting schedule of making him feel loved when all it does is seriously drain you? Exactly — there's your answer.
Gemini (May 21 — June 20)
Gemini, you're an in-charge kind of woman, which means that you need an in-charge kind of guy to be your one and only. You love the thought of ruling the city like a Kim and Kanye type of power couple that you're always on the look-out for someone to be your other half when you're out with friends. But you need to remind yourself that this is the best way to find the one you're meant to be with, instead of giving up and trying the library or a coffee shop.
You're an extroverted person and I hate to say it, but the only people who frequent coffee shops and bookstores are the people who aren't very social. The last person you're meant to be with — and I mean like last person on earth — is the shy guy who seems mysterious, but is really just a wallflower. There's nothing like hating your relationship when it's Friday night (again) and you have to drag him out just for one drink — AGAIN.
Cancer (June 21 — July 22)
Cancer, when you think of the ideal relationship — ideal meaning the two of you will live in your princess castle forever and ever — you think of someone you can lock it down early with. You're the type of person who plans her wedding before she can even spell wedding, so you need someone who's more similar to you than you think. The kind of guy who says stuff like, "When you know, you know!" because that's the type of thing you ALWAYS say about dating.
The guy you absolutely need to stay away from is the playboy who doesn't care about you, your feelings, or your princess castle. All he wants is to get laid and flirt, and if you're unlucky enough to get sucked into his web, then you already know it can be tempting to just stay and let him get what he wants, even though it's a terrible idea to put what you really want on pause.
Leo (July 23 — Aug. 22)
Leo, you're the type of gal who constantly demands to be the center of attention and on the receiving end of gifts and affection at all times — except not in a cranky Toddlers and Tiaras kind of way. You know that you thrive best in relationships where this happens ALL of the time and not just some of the time. So, when you look for that one guy you want to spend all of your waking hours with, why you would go for anyone BUT the worshiping type is beyond me.
The guy it'll never work out with in a million years — despite you trying to make it work — is the manly man. He's too busy flexing his muscles in the mirror and texting his bros to notice that you're even there. You need love and affection, and if he isn't up to the challenge (which, let's face it, he isn't), then he isn't the one for you. You need someone who loves that you demand it all from life, not the one who thinks you should share (who even shares anymore!?).
Virgo (Aug. 23 — Sept. 22)
Virgo, you've got a good, practical head on your shoulders, which means that you make some of the best decisions when it comes to love and relationships. You don't often make mistakes, but when you're REALLY into someone, it can be hard for you to use that pretty noggin of yours for anything besides thoughts of your loved one. You know that relationships take time, which means that being in one with a hopeless romantic is just a recipe for disaster.
With a hopeless romantic, everything is a whirlwind. You can't really take the time to slow down and make the right decision because as soon as he has a thought in his head, he's off and running with it. You need someone who will be just as smart and practical as you (but still push you to do the things you're too scared to do) rather than someone who loves love, but not necessarily everything that comes AFTER love.
Libra (Sept. 23 — Oct. 22)
Libra, you're known for being the mediator with all of your friends because you just know how to stop arguments and cat fights before things get really nasty. Your friends might not always say it, but they appreciate you keeping your cool when they can't.
So, when you look for love, you tend to look for someone you can talk to. Being someone who likes to communicate, you know that relationships never really last unless you can communicate like a boss with your significant other.
This also means that it'll never work out with the guy who is less of a thinker and more of a doer. When it's time to talk about your feelings or, better yet, argue about what's wrong, your partner needs to know that this is how you get through things.
If he's too worried about hurting your feelings or is more of the strong, silent type, it won't work out. You need to yell and scream sometimes to let your partner know you still love him (and he needs to be able to do the same).
Scorpio (Oct. 23 — Nov. 21)
Scorpio, you may be known as the mysterious woman who always keeps men guessing, but let me tell you, that's not the type of guy you should be going after. It might seem like a sexy cat and mouse game at first, but when it's time to think about getting serious, you can't have to keep wondering if he's really into you or if he just likes the back and forth. All this does is make it harder for you to decide if he's worth the trouble or not (and he's usually not).
Instead, all two mysterious people in a relationship lead to are a lot of lies and secrets. You might think him leaving the apartment without telling you where he's going is fine for a while, but when he refuses to tell you ANYTHING after however many months you're together, it's not fine; it's just a mess. You don't need the stress of trying to decipher everything he does because chances are, you'll never find out anyway.
Sagittarius (Nov. 22 — Dec. 19)
Sagittarius, as an optimistic, carefree, and, may I say, gorgeous woman, you like being independent and any other synonym of the word. So, when you're in a relationship, you need to be with someone who will make you feel safe and loved without all of the clinginess that sometimes comes with love. Because at the first hint of feeling uncomfortable, you're going to flee — you don't need someone who's going to make you question your feelings.
At the same time, you also need someone who is on your level when it comes to excitement and fun. If you want to up and leave for the weekend, he has to already be in the car waiting for you, not worrying if he can leave his pet goldfish for a few days. Just like a shark can sniff out blood in the water, you can sniff out the cautious people who aren't worth your time.
Capricorn (Dec. 20 — Jan. 19)
Capricorn, you would much rather have your whole life already figured out instead of worrying about love, money, career, and all that junk. But alas, that's not how life works. So, instead, you take charge of every aspect of your life, including relationships.
You already know what you want when it comes to love, you just need to find someone who feels the same way. And the one guy you should NEVER assume is the right person is the guy who doesn't really care where his life is going.
Anyone who could be described as rebellious or a free spirit type of person isn't going to make it in your book. You need someone who is not only serious about life and the future, but serious about getting serious with you. If all he cares about is having fun and not being on a schedule (I know that bothers you), then he clearly doesn't care about you.
Aquarius (Jan. 20 — Feb. 18)
Aquarius, you like to see life as a glass half full situation, which means that you tend to stay away from the people who think otherwise. You know that you can get everything you want out of life as long as you grab life by the horns and all of the other inspiring metaphors you can think of so when you look for love and relationships, all you want is someone who will be there to root for you.
You're also an independent person who sees a relationship as a way to connect with someone without being dependent on them, so your partner needs to have his own goals in life, rather than try to tag along with everything you want to do.
You already know that the man it'll never work out with is the one who doesn't care about getting his life together, is content with staying where he is for the rest of his life, and generally has a bad attitude, especially when he has the means to fix whatever is bringing him down.
Pisces (Feb. 19 — March 20)
Pisces, whether you're helping your friends or your significant other, it always brings you joy to know that you can make others happy just by lending a hand or being there for them when they need it. You always take the time to be there for the people you love, even if it means putting your own needs on the back burner for now. So, when it comes to love, you need someone who can appreciate that effort because not everyone is a superhero like you.
The one guy you desperately need to stay away from is the insensitive jerk who doesn't really care what you do in your free time, as long as you take care of him when you're together. You think that he might be a project and that you can fix him if you're together long enough, but that isn't the case. He just wants to use you and, worse, make you feel bad when you're wrong and he's right, which will only make you feel unworthy of love (an impossible thought, by the way).
Emily Ratay is a full-time writer living in Pittsburgh. She's passionate about the environment and feminism, and knows that anything is possible in the right pair of shoes. She plans on writing a book in the future.